Regret

@jenlex79 (257)
United States
September 11, 2009 5:10pm CST
Has anyone ever made a decision that they really truly regret, but you can't take it back? I have and it bothers me everyday. We never know the consequences of our actions until we make our choice. Its a risk we take everyday of our lives, and unfortunetly theres no turning back time to undo it. Try to make the right choices so you don't have to live with too much regret.
6 responses
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I think we try to make the right choices but life seems to throw a stumbling block in our path. Bad decisions lead to moments we will always regret. It would be so nice to be able to take them back, but we can't. Unfortunately these times of regret leaves us with bitter and heartache. I don't think there is anyone who has not experienced their moments of regret. Me included!
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
11 Sep 09
You are right. I think it helped me get over mine a little bit by starting this topic.
@Msabu09 (113)
• United States
11 Sep 09
What if, instead of staying in the bitterness, heartache and regret, you could use it to learn something about yourself? Perhaps looking from THIS side, you would make a different choice - but that's not where you were when you first made the choice. And you can't live back in the time of the choice, you have to go forward and live in the now. So how can you bring that part of yourself to the now?
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@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Probably by thinking a little longer about a decision before making it final. No one knows if the outcome will be good or bad, but at least there was a lot of thought put into it first.
@peavey (16868)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I think we all make decisions we regret later on. It's impossible to know the outcome of everything in advance and we can only do the best we can with what we do know or feel. It's part of being human to make mistakes now and then. We just need to learn to move on and accept life the way it is now - not the way it could have been.
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
12 Sep 09
This is good advice. We can't look back, we have to live in the present.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Sep 09
pushing forward can only strengthen us. We never know where our choices will lead us.
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Yes, when we first got married I got a little too friendly with my credit cards and in stead of telling my husband I was a little out of control so we could work through it together, I hid it from him and tried to fix it on my own. When he found out he was very upset that I had lied to him. If I had not been 8 months pregnant at the time he might of left me, it almost caused a divorce but we worked through it, but many years later he still throws in in my face when ever he is spending money he shouldn't be. Plus it ended up costing us a lot of money to get everything fixed up. So it took longer for us to buy a bigger house, and I kept my self stuck in a job that I hated because I had to pay off that debt. It was just a bad situation in many ways. Credit cards are very dangerous and can ruin lives.
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I agree with you 100%. I don't have any credit cards but if I did I probably wouldn't use them, they cause too much trouble. I'm sorry that you still have to live with that regret to this day. Look at the bright side though, you learned a lesson from it and its paid off now. I'm glad it didn't ruin your marriage either.
@EliteUser (3968)
• Australia
19 Sep 09
Hello, Yes I have made quite a few choices that I totally regret, and I feel quite bad because most of them involve me losing money in most of the cases. If only I had been smarter a few months back, I could have saved myself $300. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
19 Sep 09
I'm sorry to hear that. Please be careful in the future, and never spend your money on something unless you do some research on whatever your spending your money on. Some things are to good to be true. Have a nice day.
@bird123 (10537)
• United States
12 Sep 09
There is one good thing about your bad choice!! You would not have the wisdom you have today if you hadn't made it. Failure and bad choices are a part of learning and growing as people. The only real regret should be if no lesson was learned!!
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
12 Sep 09
You are definitely right about that. Instead of looking at it like a loss we should be looking at it as something gained. We gain a life lesson. I like that one, its very positive.
@VVroom (258)
• Romania
21 Oct 09
No, je ne regrete rien... But what I'd want to add something to your topic. If we are aware of the fact that mind functionality is based on patterns ( programs) then anything can be re-programed. It' s only up to our control ability. Most of us are driven by desire. And then achievment. But everything goes in this world, so one day achievment goes. Then comes regret. Desire- regret cycle is actually one thing, the same thing not two separate items in the box of mind's illusions. Forget desire, forget that devilish first thought of desire... Look for balance instead. The best part is that balance can be found in this very moment