Do you believe that some people know you better than you know yourself?

Do you know yourself? - You may not be the person you think you are?
By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
September 14, 2009 3:21am CST
I used to wonder at times whether I can be certain of that I know myself completely when some one close to me tells that he/she knows me very well.Is there a chance that we may not be the same person we think that we are?
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29 responses
@jen14ed (865)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
hi balasri I'm not believe that much I know my self, I, know all my self,
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
Great to know that and I can see your confidence in your response.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
14 Sep 09
Hi balasri, I feel that ones mother is probably the only person who knows her children inside out, because her whole life is centered around the children and she is naturally interested in every little thing about them.Other than that a husband and wife generally know about each other well because of the proximity .And then it is the person himsef/herself who knows best about oneself.I doubt if anyone else can really know the person that well..
@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 09
You are correct in saying that a mother knows her children well and the couple knows much about each other.These people tend to instill in our mind what they know about us.We have a tendency to believe in everything they say without giving room to any doubt.May be this belief come between us and our judgement of ourselves I think.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 09
i believe that you know yourself better than anyone else... some people might say they know you better, but what they think of you is according to what you share or to what you are showing them... for example you write a novel, you are the only one who can tell the whole story even if i read it...cause i may have different interpretation of what you wrote and what you really mean in writing that novel... they might see you different from what you really are but since you own yourself, except who created you, You are the only one who knows better... cause you know your whole self but others knows only one forth of who you really are...
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@balasri (26537)
• India
17 Sep 09
You seemed tobe very sure of what you telling.Great.
@balasri (26537)
• India
19 Sep 09
You got a point there.
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
yes i do..caused i learned it through time of living..thinking that i dont know myself then something hit me, why others know their self? so should i...besides, im the only one who is interested to know all about me lol... :D
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
15 Sep 09
Hello balasri. I do believe so because my wife is the very person who knows me better than myself. Whenever I want to do something without my speaking it out, my wife smiles and says that she knows what I am thinking about. It is interesting of her to know what I am thinking about. I love to hear her say so to me. No one knows me better than my wife does.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 09
Hi jisir, I don’t know you if just looking at the avatar. You had abandoned the man playing golf. I don’t know why you no longer love him anymore. Yeah, only your beloved wife knows the reason you have such idea I believe most of the wives are always more observant and know more about their companions Have a nice day!
• China
15 Sep 09
Hello lkboi. I still love the man playing golf. I changed it last night because I wanted to see if this one performs a moving action the way I see it, but it does not. It only moves when it is seen in the profile. So bad. I have failed again. By the way, this is a cartoon character popular in the summer vacation from a cartoon TV series. Its title is Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf, a cartoon I like very much and see a lot of them. I am thinking of getting back to my previous one as I love to see the green grassland with the man playing golf. Take care.
@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
Dear Williamjisir,a fine response with a great human touch.It deserves the best response.Let me have the privilege of offering it to you.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
14 Sep 09
Many people know me as well as I know myself but some are not aware that I know that they have realised some things that they know If I let them know that I know that they know then nothing of any good would come of it so we just leave things as they are with both of us knowing and neither telling the other that each one knows what they know
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@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 09
I want you to know that somehow I come to know about what others know about you or do not know about you which you know you know or do not know.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 09
I give up with grace Mysdanait.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
14 Sep 09
Ah! But you didn't know that I knew that you knew so it's nothing new to me to know now that you know
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
The Johari Window explains that. We really do have things about us that we do not know ourselves and that other people do know. There are also things still unknown to us and to other people. There are times and friendships wherein one definitely does know the other better than himself. However, I know that that kind of thing doesnt apply to me. Sure I might have friends who would know me to a tee but I know myself better. I can say that without a doubt because I dont have anyone that close to me. Its not that I dont have close friends but I just dont have that one person or that very few select individuals who would know what I would do, think, and feel in any given situation. I guess I just havent let anyone get that super close to me, that they/he/she would see me in a very vulnerable state. One point of this is that, I think no one has even tried to be close to me on that very deep personal level. ...shrug.
@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 09
That is a very good response.You definitely need some one very close to you to observe and know things about you.Well as long as we are confident about ourselves we do not need anyone to be that close to know us.
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
My sentiments exactly.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
19 Sep 09
I think this can happen. There are times I question my thoughts and ideas and know my husband can figure me out almost to a tee. We've been married so many years that he can almost predict how I feel about something and how I will react. In turn, I can do the same when it comes to some of his thoughts and ideas. I do think I know me very well 99.9% of the time.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
20 Sep 09
It tends to happen in the course of time between two intimate people.The same is true here too.
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I don't know if I would say that some people out there know me better than myself, but I do know that with my husband and I, we can often figure out something abut the other person that the other person has not yet admitted, or has been hiding, and in cases like that it feels as if the person almost knows us better than we know ourselves .
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
So true as it happens in my home too.
@littleowl (7157)
17 Sep 09
Hi bala, my best friend knows me better than myself and can read me like a book..it is scary at times and annoying at the same time..cos even though I don't tell her everything she knows what I am thinking and more! LoLo
@balasri (26537)
• India
17 Sep 09
May be you are thinkiing loud so that she is able to listen to your thoughts.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Hi. balasri. The only person that knows me better than I know myself is my husband and God. These are the only two people that I am close with. They would know me better than I know myself at times. Anyone else could not even come as close.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Sep 10
You must be very lucky to have such an understanding and loving husband and the blessings of the God.I wish you all the best in life forever.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
Hi Balasri, It's been a while... Anyway I would want to believe that I know myself compared to how deep other people know me. But at times, there might be some facets in my life or at least one that I am going through; wherein some friends who have good intentions, will readily give their unsolicited advises or suggestions.Some of these advises are actually valid if I weigh my strengths and opportunities... in fact practical at times!
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@balasri (26537)
• India
19 Sep 09
Right.At times our close friends used to surprise us with the traits we own without our knowledge.
@AidanKay (265)
• Australia
5 Oct 09
I personally think that some people might know some things about you but only you can know everything about yourself. I can't say that someone knows everything about me but I know people can know only a little bit about me.
@balasri (26537)
• India
6 Oct 09
You must be a very secretive person.
@binobiju (22)
• India
18 Sep 09
It is not possible to others know you better than you. Someone can can say simply. But it is not true. Even you can not know you. Then how others can know you. Psychologists say that we can understand others only up to a maximum of 7%.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 09
What you are saying may true 100%.
• India
23 Sep 10
no,its not soo easy..in my case..its possible only wen sumones loves u more den himself..
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@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Sep 10
It is so poetic, your answer.I jsut like the meaning of it.It is so deep and special.Way to go Preeti.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
14 Sep 09
Oh yes I have often thought this about my closest friends that they know me better than I know myself and I wonder if I have become too predictable in my ways, although I do think this is a good thing, because you know your friends are close to you and care about you because they know you inside out! So I think they are the best people to go and ask advice for because you know they will have an answer for you which is based on how they view you and understand you. A friend who truly understands you inside out is worth their weight in gold. Even a few friends on Mylot have this talent too and when I get the responses to my discussions it's like they just know what the best thing for me is because they know exactly what I like and how I function as a person.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
I appreciate the regards you have on your friends.I am happy that I am one of your friends.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Sep 09
I know myself very well, better than anyone else on eearth. Did that sound like a conceit? I think, even though, we like to believe that weare our best judges many time some person very close to us might very well shock us with the interpretations that they have noticed over the years. It was in one of my birthdays, that my very close friend read out a harangue kind of thing and I was amazed at the revelations. Those are there alright but the way she perceived it was amazing! The point is, you never know. There may be people who know certain traits(as in ideosyncracies, mannerisms, likings...) better that we ourselves do because we are partial most of the times.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
15 Sep 09
Every one knows about themselves better than anyone else.The problem is they do not wish to admit certain things they know about them.When some one brings our this trait they feign innocent or act bewildered.
• United States
14 Sep 09
There are some facets of my personality I don't see. Other people see me in a different way, sometimes positively and sometimes negatively. My daughter sees parts of me that aren't attractive -- such as my people skills. She says I'm intrusive and lack tact. Thank goodness for friends who like me anyway! I believe basically I'm the same person I think I am, but I go through life unaware of some of my quirks -- a diamond in the rough.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 09
good one.But we get polished in the line of our life.Don't we?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 09
hi balasri I think my best friend knows me more than I know myself'as once when I was angry with my doctor, whom Ihave had for years and years, she said you should talk to him About what he said that made you upset, I know you better than he does. you are too shy. she is right he had made a remark that I did not like and I wouldnt talk to him about it ,then when I finally did he told me he had been joking,it had not been a serious remark.so I could have saved myself a lot of anger and grief. yes I thought I knew me but the thing is we are all wanting to have the best slant on ourselves and so we are not all as honest as we cou ld be. I didnt think I was that shy but I really was.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
A beautiful example for how someone close to us knows us better than ourselves.Very interesting and relevant response.I just liked it.
14 Sep 09
Hi bala, Now that is a strange question, no one can know you better then yourself, not even your own mother, as you have your own personalty, you know yourself more. Does that make sense? Tam.
@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
It makes great sense Tamara.Well there may be some people who do not know their strengths and weaknesses till they are pointed out by someone close to them.I am not sure.That is why the discussion.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Sep 09
LOL...that is a very goos question. It would be impossible for me to answer it about myself but I have this certain friend that I know better than she knows herself..lol..I even tell her what she's thinking sometimes. It's funny because she is amazed by it. I bet there has to be people out there that are like that with me too.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
I can agree to what you say.There are people in our lives who always can easily tell what is going in our minds regarding certain things.