Are you good at maintaining relationships?Is it necessary to go all out ....?
By kiran8
@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
September 15, 2009 10:15am CST
I have noticed that some people have the knack of maintaining good relationships with every family member inspite of doing nothing much or without going out of the way to do so.There are also others who are ready to go to any length to maintain good relationship with others . It may be between their own close family members or with the other extended family members. They can be called non controversial people who never get into any tricky situation.
I am somewhere in between where maintaining relationships is concerned because I tend to be too frank and open in my views which has often made people unhappy. But all in all ,I have been able to maintain good relationship with my close family and who ever I consider important to me.
What do you think of this friends? Is it neceessary to go all out to maintain good relations with others or is it more important to be yourself and do what you think is right even if it makes others unhappy?
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10 responses
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hello there friend. A very nice post:) In my case, I do things just to maintain good relationship with other people; i do not mean that i disregard the things that i think are right. I make it a point and still learning up to now to disagree with other people's views without having to hurt their feelings. I say there are artistic ways on how to state our own opinion without hurting other people's feelings. Blessings!^^
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Sep 09
Hi France, thanks a lot for your response 
I agree with you that one can be firm but tactful in dealing with negative situations.One cannot always agree with people, but make them understand our point of view as well. All that is needed is a bit give and take right ?
All the best and happy mylotting
I agree with you that one can be firm but tactful in dealing with negative situations.One cannot always agree with people, but make them understand our point of view as well. All that is needed is a bit give and take right ?All the best and happy mylotting
@xingxingsky (176)
• China
17 Sep 09
I always believe that maintaining relationships is an art. Some people seem have this nature since their coming to this world. Others are not so lucky. But I think everyone should traing this skill. It's the basic skill of living in the society.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi there,
Honestly speaking I have very good relations with everyone in my family. They are the most precious thing I have in this world.
What i think is maintaining a good realtion is always healthy and should atleast be tried. You are going to face tricky situations in life but its wise to come out of those with a smile in the face.
Cheers,
Tutul
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Sep 09
Hi tutul, It is great know that you are able to maintain good relations with your close ones. I too agree that it is very important to do so. In fact, we automatically compromise and do our best to maintain good relation with those , who we love and cherish...It is only with others that the sometimes the problem seeps in..all the best
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Sep 09
What I learned from a wise man was not to break relations,, no matter what- respect everyone in the family( and others obviously).As we grow older we get wiser,,by time the others get wiser too,,it becomes easier to respect and maintain smooth relations,, only problem is when older people do not let the younger ones make certain decisions,,and the relations get sour,personally I try to be frank and open with most,,just like u,in my case it does not matter if some people get unhappy,, soon we make discussions and smile again,,IT is possible
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Sep 09
Hi kawalnarang, I agree with the wise man . When you are older and look back upon your life what actually remains with you is the relationships that you have built up especially those that have withstood the test of time . Money and other matters do not seem so very important at that stage..As you say if one is determined to make things work it is easier to forget, forgive and move on in life - all the best and have a great day
@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 09
I try my best. So far so good. I have managed to maintain good relationship with my neighbours as well as with my relatives. No, I do not get into people's private problems unless they reach out to me for advice.My relationship among office colleagues is extremely good. I am the helpful type and they like me for that.
@martinatintin (85)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I've been in a relationship with my partner for almost 5 years straight now, it is important to go all out, why? So that you can know each others and you can show your true nature to one another this is an important thing, because if you know each other very well your relationship can last in a lifetime.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 09
I"m pretty much on good terms with everybody. Sometimes I don't speak up when I should though.
@babshish (1387)
• India
15 Sep 09
Hi, I feel that it is always good to maintain a healthy relationship with all , not matter if it is close family member or far one. And I guess for maintaing the relationship, it is not require to go out of the way, but sometimes what we feel is small favour might be a big one for the other. So just try to help them with whatever is possible for you, and when it is not, then inform them in a polite way. It may happen that sometimes the other person will not feel good, but you can't keep all happy all the time, so just do your best, so that at the end of the day you are satisfied that you have done whatever you can.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Sep 09
Hi babshish, Thanks a lot for your views :) There is a lot of wisdom in what you say. I realise that one has to compromise to a certain extent to gain something.The most important thing is how you feel at the end of the day, whether what you do brings you a sense of happiness ..
@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Just be yourself. You don't have to force yourself to people and pretend just to be able to maintain a good relationship. Being frank is good but sometimes you should also consider other peoples feelings. Just be sensitive on what really is needed to have a well balanced relationship with others. But if you feel you really have to say something, break it to the gently so as to not hurt them but help them.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Sep 09
Hi hexeduser, Thanks a lot for your response. I agree with you that we need to be sensitive while dealing with others as we would want them to do when they are dealing with us. There is always a certain amount of give and take in any relationship - all the best and happy mylotting
