People who talk nonstop when you are on your computer.

@Hatley (164167)
Garden Grove, California
September 15, 2009 12:14pm CST
what do you do with people who think being on the computer is just playing and so they talk non stop about anything and nothing,. they want you to reply. I have tried just ignoring it and also just puttin in some words like oh is that so , or yes I think so too,but that does not stop motormouth. I cannot move or i would ,I have my computer and monitor hooked up to cable, so too much trouble and expense to ask to be moved. yesterday after she bugged me until I made an error in banking I lost my cool and yelled at her to please shut up for at least ten minutes. she said oh I was bothering you. guess i had better stop talking to you. well yes, just what I said. How would you handle this, as i do have to live with miss motormouth?
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@MsTickle (25136)
• Australia
21 Sep 09
Oh yes, my friend does this to me. I have one eye on the computer while listening to and occasionally watching the TV. My friend comes over when my favourite shows are on and goes on and on about things he has already told me earlier (several times) or things that I have either no interest in or no knowledge of. It's so annoying. Sometimes I have to be rude (???) and ask him to let me watch/listen. But if a weather report comes on, he jumps up and tells me to shush so he can listen to the weather.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
MsTickle we have the same problem. she doesnt seem 'to care that she bothers me at all. But if I try' to tell her something about myself, she just doesn't pay that much attention. I am beginning to think maybe she might have a slight mental problem.
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@MsTickle (25136)
• Australia
25 Sep 09
She's possibly a little jealous that you have an interest that is also an activity. Tell her, sorry, but you are interrupting me and that's just rude. Sometimes you have to hit people over the head with a brick.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Nov 09
hi mstickle right you are sometimes you have to just yell] please shut up and for awhile that works too.
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@mysdianait (65058)
• Italy
15 Sep 09
LOL @ motormouth! I read elsewhere yesterday that this person was forever talking and had caused you to make a banking mistake. It must be really difficult for you if you have to put up with her day in day out. Could you come to some sort of compromise and give her half an hour every now and then as I presume she has no-one else to talk to? Maybe she is even the type who is a little bit jealous because you have such a good way of spending your time? I knew someone who couldn't bear to see me reading a book and had to always interrupt with an excuse but then every time I closed the book to listen they had nothing more to say I cannot manage to be typing away with someone who is hoping to hold a conversation with me too. I lose the train of thought on both things at a certain point. Luckily I live alone so I do not have this problem.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 09
hi diana I do think she is just lonely and too she has a thyroid problem that may cause some of this. so we just need to work 'out'some sort of compromise, after all she is my roomie
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@mysdianait (65058)
• Italy
15 Sep 09
I do so hope you manage to come to a compromise. Can she use the computer too? She could join as your ref and then you could talk while she is typing
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 09
no she has no training at all on the computer. I just wish she would see that I cannot do two things at once,
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
i don't find any problem nor difficulty dealing with that kind of person. i will directly tell her to leave me for a while because i am doing something urgent and important. i will advise her that it is an official time and and surely, we have another time for chatting.
@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi moneymakikngtoday well I am not in an office situation but in a bedroom situation where we both have to live, 'so I cannot really tell her to get out,she would not have any place to go really. Otherwise your advice would be really perfect.
@mzz663 (2778)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I've got that before and ask if it can wait. Sometimes I can't concentrate on what I'm doing so I stop and give my son a little bit of attention. On occasion, he does get annoying, for me it was while grocery shopping the other day and I was ready to run out of the store and jump in the car and lock the doors....I lost track of what we needed and the amount I was adding up. Next time I go without him. Even if you have a desktop connected to the cable, I don't think it would matter, I go to my room, the front porch, the back yard and I get followed everywhere. I think sometimes it doesn't matter to him what he's saying, as long as he is saying something to get attention.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi mzz663 oh yes I remember when my little girl used to follow me everywhere and her refrain was pick baby up. 'but I could never get cross with her as she had been' brain damaged at birth, and only lived to be eight. she was a sweetie' but she demanded almost constant care. My roomie is 79 but I think she has a few marbles missing as sometimes she just doesnt make good sense. I dont dislike her, she is sweet but she seems to need to hear herself talk all the 'time.
• Indonesia
16 Sep 09
LOL, sorry i know this thing annoys you a lot but it seems really funny to have such companion like miss motormouth. Well why don't you try to ask her to go out or something, then you start the conversation, talk as much as you want and DON'T let her say any single word. I believe she will feel uncomfortable and when she start to shout her objection that you don't let her show off her motormouth skill:p, that would be the perfect moment for you to remind her that you are annoyed with her talkative habit and not just annoyed, she also ruined some of your work. Don't yelled at her or scold her, it won't work since i believe she is immature yet in social relationship:) hope it works:)
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
genius zelda hi oh I did do that awhile back and she' just talked right over me, it was sort of funny and I laughed and that didn't do for her.She is really so self centered and I realize she has a lot of health problems but I have some of my own. she didnt much like it when' I went on to tell her about my problems.he he he he
@cmdr001 (371)
• Portugal
16 Sep 09
My father is the perfect specimen of those kind of people. He talks and talks and talks and talks and... you get the picture. I never -really- had to tell him to shut up, but, after a while if the conversation tells me nothing I just zone out and focus on whatever I'm doing at the computer like if he isn't there... well, almost.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi cmdr001 yes I do that too,zone out and sometimes'I answere with a yes or no ,or thats too bad,or maybe a laugh, but the funny thing is I sometimes get the wrong response and 'she will say why are you laughing,that's not funny. oh oh I was'caught 'as I didn't know at all what she said.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Sep 09
Heya Hatkey. Don't you love that! It's up there with people shutting up through the TV commercials and then starting to crap on the second your show comes back on. If I'm starting to become really distracted by my Wife talking while I'm on the computer, then I'll either stop what I'm doing and chat for a while, or I'll ask for some time to finish what I'm doing and we can chat after that. As for Miss Motormouth, a happy medium usually does the trick. Ask her politely for a certain amount of time and reassure her that as soon as you're done, she'll have your undivided attention. If that doesn't work, then yelling at her to shut up might be the only answer! lol
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Sep 09
Good Lord! "Hatkey"! I'm on a bad typo roll tonight!
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 09
Hi james dont stress about it my fingers are dyslexic I think as they make typos all the time. I think you are right. that I need to talk\to her and ask for a few breaks here an there.I know she does not really mean to be so irritating. so maybe some tact is needed. he he
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@Msabu09 (113)
• United States
16 Sep 09
UGH! I totally agree James72! People who talk when the tv show is on drives me nuts! Doesn't matter if it's "not important" what's happening on my show (I especially hate this during Survivor, where there's always something happening....or Grey's Anatomy where you are swept up in the emotion of the characters), to me it is and I want to savor every moment. And I love what you suggest for Miss Motormouth (love the name, too, lol) as this is what we do in my house. The "rule" is don't bother to ask for something while I/we are on computer - can't listen and compute at the same time. So if it's important, be sure you have my attention. I may answer you now, or I may tell you when is a good time to have this discussion. It's also similar to allowing yourself to be on the phone endlessly listening to someone's chatter, when you don't care in the least. Just don't answer their call.....
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hello my friend I would probably do the same thing you did, I find that really annoying, seriously do you not see me doing something here when people don't use the computer they have no respect for those of us that do they just don't get it, they do see the computer could be as important as real life, I use to have people don't that to me all the time, they would say to me how can that be more important we are right here lol thats a computer it can wait I know what its like my friend.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi kitty yes exactly as you said. She thinks I am playing games on the computer,wow. now that is not something I do' when I am mylotting.I tried to explain to her about mylot'but she is so self centered that if what I am saying does not' pertain to her and her health it seems to go right over her' head.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Hello my friend I had this problem with so many people, they hated the fact that it seemed like the computer meant more to me when people don't use the computer at all the really don't get it, oh well, like others she will get over it in time lol Thank you my friend.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Nov 09
hi right now she is napping so I am typing away and no talking what a relief . she is a nice person when she doesnt start talking loudly while I type. I tried to explain to her about mylot but she doesn't hear too well so we have a time getting her to understand anything.
@busybren (258)
• United States
15 Sep 09
HAHAHHA "but that does not stop motormouth". Aw, dude. I know this feeling so well. It's almost like THEY JUST CAN'T GET THE HINT, "shut up" or "I'm really not listening to you". OK, soooooooooo WHENEVER I get on the computer, which isn't very often. I like to get into my stuff. I like to read carefully and view as much as possible, meaning STAY FOCUSED. My boyfriend, however thinks it's the time to gab about everything in life! LoL The only reason I get upset about it (sometime) is because when he is on the computer, I give him that respect. Whenever I do talk to him while he is doing his thing, he gets so mad about it, it's too funny. Double standard mister! Not cool.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 09
hi busybren I am a dudess ,a woman in other words, but I know just what you mean.and if she was doing this on the computer I would not bother her at all, but she does not give me that courtesy at all. She is just so totally engrossed on herself its not even funny.
@busybren (258)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Hi again Hatley. I apologize for my wordings. Normally when I say "dude", I just mean, generally speaking to the person. Sorry about that, I know you're a chick :) BUT YEAH, I just thought it was sooo funny how you stretched on the phrase "motormouth". This is exactly what I think of my boyfriend when he starts yapping at the mouth when I'm on the computer. Some things do need total focus, especially when it's business related such as banking and bill pay. Good luck with that, although it may be hard, try not to get too discouraged with the person :P Happy Mylotting Hatley, see you around again :)
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi I am the same way I have to stay focussed so I can respong intelligently and comment with some sense, and make discussions that don't sound like a drunk person wrote them. so now she is using her own head phones so I am off the hook for awhile. goodie.
@meapas (2436)
• India
15 Sep 09
You have just said what I feel all the time about such situations. Most of the time I am in this kind of situations. When ever I am on the computer people have lot of things to talk and discuss and I, like a good obedient student have to give full attention to them. You have the courage to tell them to shut up. I lack this courage. This shows how much lonely they feel and this is why they seek us out. I feel pity for them and so I give away my time to listening to them. Now I come to know I am not the only blessed one in the world. There are people like you too who are equally blessed like me. So if we can help them forget their worries a little, why not listen? After all this may be God's way of passing the message to us. Have a nice time with your friends. Wish you all the best.
@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 09
meapas you have said a mouthful here.I am sure she is lonely'and she has alot of physical problems so perhaps if I let her talk to 'me for a certain time then make some time to be let alone it would work for both of us.
@malamar (784)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
I wouldn't want to tell someone in my own home to shut-up, that would be hard for me to do. Instead, I negotiate my "work" time in advance. For example 8 - 10 am is computer time, no chit chat allowed, thank you very much. Then, 10 - 10:30 is break time and I am available to chat all they like. With the exception of emergencies, if you put this in place, you might find it will work very well. You get your work done, and no-one gets their feelings hurt. Always look for the win-win in a situation first. Good luck, I know that it is sometimes easier said than done with some people! Still, it is worth a try, no?
@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 09
hi malamar good advice but I am in a room with her as my' roomate and in order to make my internet payment with mylot money I have to be here for hours.and she is deaf.I have to' yell at her to make myself heard.I have asked her to wait while I am so busy and sometimes it does work.
• United States
25 Sep 09
Yes, I have a similar problem with my husband. He plays video games and does not want to be disturbed when he is involved with his gaming, as it interferes with his concentration and makes him mess up. When I am trying to work on the computer, though, he feels the need to talk to me and ask me all kinds of questions about just about anything under the sun. If I stop what I am doing and give him my full attention, then he can't think of anything else to say. If I keep working, though, he says that I always ignore him for the computer.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Nov 09
hi purple I went back to college when I was in my fifties and took a lot of english classes so had papers to write. right in the middle of typing the thing and trying to do my very best my husband is sulking and says I never have any time for him. now what the heck was I supposed to do? the paper was due the next day for heaven's sakes.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Oh gosh Hatley.... (groan) my husband is like that. He'll talk up a storm about this and that and the other as if I know what he's talking about and won't shut up even after telling him I don't know what you're talking about but ok, go do what ever you need to do I'M ON THE DAMNED COMPUTER TALKING TO SOMEONE and unless it's an emergency, LEAVE ME ALONE!! This is my DOWN time, GO!! He gets all bent out of shape and leaves with his tail between his legs but at least he leaves and leaves me alone for a little while. LOL
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi catsanddogs well I do wish I could just say this' to her but she wont even participate in any of the 'activities here. she just stays up here and when she' sees me at the computer it seems to be her cue to talk 'and talk and read stuff to me from her paper,on and on 'and on.So she wouldn't have any place to go, and she is my roommate.
@kprofgames (3098)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I know it hasn't been easy for you Hatley, what about getting a headset for your computer. Put those one when you are on it and muffle the noise of this chatter box. Wish there was an easier solution, even if you don't have your sound on, at least you can muffle the sound of the continuous chattering.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi kprofgames yes I have been using my headphones at 'times and it helps but not completely. She just keeps on talking and talking. Maybe she just likes the sound of her voice. Even in the middle of the night she talks iof she thinks I am awake, but I have fooled her as I sleep with ear plugs in.he he he
• India
16 Sep 09
first go about saying,"oh.. yeah... wow" and stuff like that... if they still dont stop then act as if the line isn't clear and play some music in the baground, as this will help you pretend to not be able to hear them
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi kkster I have done that and it works as long as I' have some faint idea of what she's babbling about but if I don't then I have a big problem.he hehe as she will say that's not true. why did you say that?
• United States
16 Sep 09
Had you asked her to not talk to you while you're on the computer and she ignored you? Yelling at her was the only way left to get her attention! Some folks just don't respond otherwise -- maybe they don't realize you really mean what you say unless you yell. It's not easy living with a bunch of others in a facility!
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi joyceshookery yes I have but it does not stop her, 'and her sister hugged me the other day and told me what a patient good roommate I was. if she only knew' yet as I have heard her snap at Kathy at times,I guess she really does know. maybe that is why they are not keeping her at home with them. he he he he
@hotsummer (10800)
• Guam
16 Sep 09
i hate to be disturbed when i am in front of the computer. cause it takes away my concentration and my motivation to work online. and sometimes it takes away my joy in what i am doing. and it is hard to motivate our selves to be active online if there are always some who will interrupt. but i can't do any thing though cause i have lots of responsibilities and work at home and so i have to do those things and prioritize them than this online thing.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi hotsummer wellbelive it or not she is quiet right now heaven help me. I am getting a bit of mylotting done and it feels so good. My son put in a new browser for me, foxfire and that makes it a bit'easier 'and faster for me to work here.
@Ayoosh16 (194)
• India
16 Sep 09
i say use earphones and do work on your computer. neither will u hear them nor will u get disturbed
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
ayhoosh yes I have used earphones and she talks right along but as you say now it does not bother me and I can get a few things done and that is so good.
@bearound (133)
• China
16 Sep 09
I was told that it's the "over-communication" time today.We communicate too much today but we know little about what we are talking.Lots of nonsense we have to face.MSN,Email,kill much of our time or life.Why we can't just stop it!I do not like to spend much of my time to "play" MSN with my freind though it is useful tool for me.There is lot of work to be done for me on line every day.I do not want to be interrupted.And they know my habit.If he or she have lots of words to say,I will give them a phone call.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi bearound right now she is listening to her headphones hurray for that. I can work without being bothered and that is fantastic. I will get caught up here yet and go on to my next discussion. he he he he
@sybraton (90)
• India
16 Sep 09
Well one of those people who keep talking to me when i'm on the computer is my dear mother. She seems to have a problem every time I sit in front of my laptop. I think she purposely does it for laughs because I remember this one time I was playing call of duty 4 and she kept pestering me about how college was even though I told her like 15 minutes back. I got annoyed and pushed her out of the room. By the time I was back I was killed like 5 times over. I usually handle her by locking my door. But damn that spare key!
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi sybraton wish I could do that but she has no place to go unless there is a program going opn downstairs. so I will use headphones when she is not using hers and see what I can do.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
16 Sep 09
i have experienced this but i find it very difficult to say to someone to keep off,so i use the INVISIBLE FEATURE ON ,so that noone would know that i am online and i have the freedom to ccarry on with my work undisturbed.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi riyasam well I am sort of doing that,but now she' is listening to her headphones so i am off the' hook for now. so I will take advantage of the time she is not talking to me to mylot.