What are the pros/cons of living together before marriage?

Now I won't be a condescending moralist and be frank about this case. One advantage about moving in before marriage is that one can decide or get a grasp if the couple can truly live together and get well with each other without having to commit fully to a married relationship. By the way, how old/young is this adult? The age would matter as well, because living together and getting married both will not work out well if the parties are not emotionally ready for such a commitment.

Hi valetinesdiner! As for myself, I currently live with my boyfriend, no we are not married! I think its good to sort of test the waters as some might say... But the bad thing is that when we talk about marriage my boyfriend says, that we are already living the married life. I think that he has grown to comfortable and now does not see the point on marriage! Pro: You get to see how your partner really is, and learn more about them. Con: You might not move to the next step and actually get married. Hope this helps! Take care!

A lot of people seem to do this nowadays. I am living with someone now. I guess the main thing is that marriage is different than living together and there is not necessarily a correlation between living together and success in marriage. I think there might actuall be a negative correlation there, so it might be not necessarily be a good idea.

On the plus side, the couple gats the opportunity to find out just how compatible they really are before they get married. Another plus, if they are both working, they are able to save more money. On the opposite end, sometimes this causes people to choose that marriage is not important at all and they just continue living together for many many years. SOmetimes,I think that problems arise in a relationship like this due to one or the other beginning to resent the situation. Personally, I lived with my husband for quite some time before we got married and for us, it was the best choice. I know of another couple that lived together before marriage that endd up getting married before they were really ready because they were having a baby. They ended up divorced. In reality, it all depends upon the couple. How mature are they? How well do they get along? How much have they discussed everyday issues sucha s bills, goals, and expectations? Overall, I think that any couple that is thinking of moving in together before getting married needs to lay everything out on the table. THey need to discuss how things will be done financially, what one expects of the other, how household dutites will be split, everything.If they can honestly sit down and discuss things it will probably work out. If they lack that sort of communication, they really should wait.

I think since marriage is a social events so there is no need to think about it a lot , what your family and society decide i think that is the best , don't need to think about before narriage living together...

I think it the best way to go. You learn so much about someone once you are living with them. You will then learn if the both of you are capable of living together with love and happiness. Some people love each dearly but can't live together for one reason or another. So I'm all for it. Good luck to your friend.