Do you care too much about what people think about you?

United States
September 16, 2009 4:43pm CST
I am one of those people that I care about my reputation. I try to present myself well and try not to have people think bad of me. I do worry about what people think of me. It can come back to haunt you later in life if they think poorly about you. I do think if someone does have a bad reputation that they should have a chance to reedeem themselves. To prove to the public that they are not who they think they are. Before making a judgement on someone people should get to know the person and not just listen to what everyone is telling them. I really do care about peoples thoughts and opinions about me. It is very important to me but there are some people out there that will lie and make a mocary out of a person that is a good hearted and all around a good person. Its makes it hard when people that don't even know you make bad accusations against you. It affects the way people think of you and it can also effect your life as it goes on.
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22 responses
@sharone74 (4838)
• United States
20 Jan 10
All that you can do is just keep on keeping on. People are going to talk about you no matter what you do. No one is liked by everyone, and when some people see some advantage to spereading rumors and telling lies about you, they will. Your reputation is important because it refutes an outright lie. Like if you're a truly nice guy who likes children, possibly a big brother or something like that people will try to infer that there is something strange "going on" with you and the kid your mentoring. Well your reputation and your friends should stand up to the critisism not with critisism of your own but with the fact that you're a genuinely nice guy and you're not "like that". Your reputation can also pursue you throughout your career and rumormonging behind your back will often find its way to the ear of your employers either current or prospective. Your rep also has a lot to do with the kind of guys or girls that you date or who seek to date you. I don't have to go into detail on how all that works I am certain. You are right to concern yourself about what others think of you, expecially as a woman in todays society but that is only the half of it. If you are obsessing about it, if people and their viscious rumors have the power to wound you down to your core then you're worrying too much about it. It is more important what you think about you love, not what anyone else says.
• United States
20 Jan 10
nope I dont care much at all what others think of me I like who I am and that is all that matters
@Marie17 (13)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
Well..I do care about my reputation and what people think about me. But for me..my own happiness is more important than what other people say especially if I know that I'm not doing something wrong. If you always think of other people you can't move on with your life. It is not being selfish or self centered. It is just that your being true to yourself. You and God knows your self better than anyone else. As long as you know that you don't hurt anyone you don't have to feel guilty. You have to live your life the way you want and by following the will of the Lord. You'll see your life will be better than you ever experience. Godbless.
@mikeysmom (2091)
• United States
17 Sep 09
i have learned that i have no control over other people's opinions of me so i also learned not to care what they think of me. i care about my reputation of being a good person and kind and caring but i do not care if people think i dress well or if i am fat or pretty etc. i have not time to worry about such things. i am just trying to make a life for my family and myself and trying to survive day to day. if i cared what everyone thought of me i would be paralyzed with fear and stress and get nothing done each day.
• Indonesia
17 Sep 09
well..i think i am a person who don't care too much about reputation...i will let other people think about me and i don't care about their opinion about me..for me, it is good to accept critics from others but you have to rethink about the critics first...
• China
17 Sep 09
you know you can't make everyone satisfy with you,because we are all different,so i think the most thing for you is going your own way,don't pay much attention on other's thoughts!happy MYLOT!
@Archie0 (4667)
17 Sep 09
My only problem is that i really think a lot on what people think about me.It becomes so heavier on me sometimes that i go into hibernation and great depression sort of things.I cannot tolerate when people talk bad things about me, about my being and about my looks.
• China
17 Sep 09
I have the same problem with you. Sometimes it really bother me.You know you cant let everyone like you.When they think poorly or say something bad about me, i always feel depressed.My father thinks it is unnecessary to care too much about what people think about you.We have our own value systems,we can ues them to judge whatever we do.Based on it,we should also accept some advice. My english is not very good, i hope you can understand what i said. Have a nice day!
• China
17 Sep 09
I was one who care about other's thinkings.But now i don't care about that.I just do what i want to do let alone other's judgement.I couldn't hurt anyone.So there is no need for me to worry about my reputation.I think you shouldn't pay much attention to your reputation.Can't you do anything for what some people say?
• United Kingdom
17 Sep 09
I used to worry about this on a daily basis but then you get to a certain stage in life and you suddenly think to yourself, what the hell! I don't care anymore in terms of what people may or may not think of me. I am free and I'm not going to return to being a prisoner at the hands of other people's views. If someone worries what others think about them all the time then their life isn't going to be that interesting! They will always worry about whether they are doing the right thing according to someone else's views, so what! Who cares what people think. I'm going to live my life to the best of my ability and if that offends some people then in my view they are the real losers! Andrew
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
I don't care about what other people will say about me, first of all, they are not the ones who take care of me, they have no right to judge me. If someone will criticize me or give negative feedback about me, I don't care, I just ignore them, it is me and I know myself more than they know me. Whatever they say about me does not affect me.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
17 Sep 09
That is so true. I have been judged all of my life. I hate it. People do not take the time to get to know me at all. I am always worried about what people think of me because they always do me wrong for some reason. They give me weird looks or they do bad things to me or lie on me. I am also judged by my looks too and have no idea why.
17 Sep 09
before, im so worried what other people think about me but as i became matured my perception in life had changed. i began to realized that worrying what other people think about me will just give me a split headache or worst a heart attack. so now i dont mind anymore because for me nobody is perfect anybody can make mistakes.
• United States
17 Sep 09
I don't worry about what folks think of me as I don't control what they think or why they choose to think it..I tend to believe that such thoughts are much more a reflection of them than they are of me.. ENJOY!
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
not really.I am comfortable in my skin.I present myself just the way I am.if some people don't like me,i don't really care.I surround myself with positive people who like and love me just the way I am.as long as I am happy with who I am and I don't hurt other people's feelings,I'm good.
@angelajoy (1838)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
I don't really care much about what people think of me. The only thing that really makes me self-conscious is my figure. I know that I shouldn't be too bothered with that, but I was a fat kid and lots of people were really mean to me. It had a bad effect on me, but not to the point of making me anorexic. To be honest, I perceive my body better than many women do, but I still think that I should improve on it. As for other things, I just do whatever I think is best for me and for others. I'm not the type of person who would be pressured by others to do something that I really don't want to do, and I'm proud of myself because of that. I don't care much about others' opinion about me as long as it doesn't get me into trouble. I'm happy as long as I know that I'm telling the truth.
@verkica (54)
• Serbia And Montenegro
17 Sep 09
I don't think I care much what people think of me. I know what kind of person I am.I am a person who does not take for granted what people talk about others. They can be so mean and tell ugly things or even make up stories for other people.I don't see a reason why they do that.I take people as they are and they take me as I am. I don't want to be somebody else just for people to think nice of me. If you are a good person (you know it) they can think what ever they like and they will. They are not going to tell you what they think of you. Then why should you care what they think of you. Just be a nice and good person.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
17 Sep 09
So long as what you think is correct, what you do is correct and what you say is correct for your conscious, why do you bother about others and what they think? We should present ourself well dressed, well mannered, sweet talk and helping nature and try not to hurt others by way of talk or behaviour, then where is the question of people thinking bad about us? Still if others think ill of us, after seeing and enjoying our company, in a course of time they will change their ideas and understand us.
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
For me, my significant others' opinions and thoughts would be the things that would just matter to me or that would just affect me. I don't care about the things other people would say. What the heck they don't know me, right? Just make sure that you prove them wrong. Let them think what they would like to think about you; just do your part to change it. :)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I do care about what people are thinking of me and I dont at the same time. I think there is a thin line between caring about others and not caring about their views on you. There are some people who are good and are genuinely trying ot help you by sharing their views about you. It's good to care about such people. There are others who try to find fault in others no matter what they have done.