Can you easily forgive someone after talking bad about you?

I cannot forgive someone for talking bad about me either. It is so hard to find true friendship in people anyway. I do not want them tobe around me if they do not like me. They need to stay away from me if they want to talk about me.

hi tuckersheri, it's really hard to forgive someone who back stub you and said bad words against you but gosshhhh the baggage of having that ill-feeling towards someone is more difficult for me. i learned from life that... as long as you know yourself and is proud and happy being you there's no point of getting affected by comments that are base-less and out of insecurity. i want to enjoy life and make myself and others happy.

I don't forgive easily at all but when I do forgive I let it know that I never forget, that is one of my motto's :D

I have experienced that before, I felt quite unhappy to have known somebody talked about me behind, I remember it happened in my high school time, my friend told me somebody next class was talking something behind me, I just ignored them the whole time and didn't say anything back... because I knew what type of people they were, they would just start a bigger rumor to circulate all the time had I said something back so I just ignored them and not to them forever.

Hi..I agree with you guest.I need to show about our feel when we dislike to something.Maybe,I'm not person who easily to forgive someone.Last month,my cloose friend talk something and it make me offended.I can't hide my feel and I told her.Until now,I don't know,why to difficult to forgive her.

I can easily forgive a person who did wrong to me or said bad words against me but I do not easily forget it. That's my personality. I am a Christian that forgives those people who did wrong to me but I am only human at the same time who gets hurt and can hardly forget things that had hurt me. I may forgive someone but can never forget the thing that he did to me. That makes me more cautious of that person and be more careful next time about people I deal with.

Well I encounter those kind of person .. who is good when they are in front of you and talk bad when you are not around. Well for me all I did is I talk to her and ask her why she did it , and told her that I forgive her but if she is going to do that again I dont know if i can still forgive her.

Its not about forgiving someone if they had spoke bad about us.If it is a friend of our who spoke bad about us then it is obvious that we have to forgive him if he is a close one and u do not want to lose him .But when an another person talks bad about us then it is reasonable that we should not forgive him since he had done it intentionally. And it also depends on the situation too, there may be some misunderstandings which may lead to false perceptions. So we should think carefully before coming to a final decision about forgiving someone who spoke bad about us.

I can forgive, not really forget... and it quite takes sometime. It depends if it's a friend or a family member.

Well, it depends. If the bad talking is the truth I would prefer to reflect on myself and forgive it. Maybe his purpose is good but the way of talking is improper.

i can't personally forgive anyone..who talking me in bad way....but if he realized for his bad behaviour against me..then i can firgive him...because now he realized for his bad behaviour for me..and very shameful for his behaviour...because by nature i am very..polite person...and my angreeness is not for more time for that person...and sometime people..can gain their profit by my that type of nature..

I read something recently that pointed out that even God only forgives those who genuinely repent. If we go round forgiving everybody whether they are sorry or not I think we set ourselves up to be abused. I get a bit wound up at work because people are nice to your face and then you find out that have been slating you, and I can't bare two-faced people. I like to show a person that I know they have wronged me, but I personally tend to go too far (I might completely blank someone!) and I have had to leave jobs because my employers have said that I am causing a bad atmosphere, even though it wasn't me who started it. I suppose at work in particular, maybe it is a good tactic to be a bit two-faced myself, and not show that I have been so offended. It depends on the situation.

I dont wast my time if someone talks bad about me or trash talks me, i just find it "so what" you know what i mean, those people just envy you let them be they will just lose in the long run... Just pray for those people who do that to you and maybe someday someday they will thank you.

i live in a very small community and i think everyone in it just loves to talk way tooo much....you cant wipe your butt with out people knowing about it. and when you have too many people around you that just love to talk wayy too much then there becomes way too many rumors.....i just hate everybit of it.....the worst thing about the whole thing is that 75% of the whole community is my family so i cant just move away because i love my family and wouldnt want to not be able to see them when ever i want.

It's easy to be a Christian but it's not easy to apply the values of Christianity. to forgive some one will take guts and pure cleansing of your grudge towards the person who destroyed you. most specially if it has caused your reputation and dealings with some of your other friends.

I can easily forgive someone who talks bad about me. I have been talked bad about many times in my life and it was not true. I know the truth and so I can forgive them because they do not know any better. True it may hurt your feelings sometimes, but I can not afford to worry about what others think about me. It could do damage to my health. I am a very sensitive person and if I let the talk of people get me down I will not do anything with my life. I would not even get out of bed. I have to forgive and be forgiven for things I do. I do not purposely talk bad about anyone or try to destroy their name or hurt their feelings. Everyone is not the same. We must believe enough good about our self to forgive and just keep on going. You know yourself if you have not done anything wrong.

I agree with you. I fell very bad when a person talks bad about me. I am a sensitive person and take things seriously. I dont like to tell bad things about a person . Its a bad habbit. The person will fell bad and i dont want that to happen to me.

When someone talks badly about me I am frustrated angry and resentful. I tell myself I will get even. MOre times than I can count I get over it. I guess I can't hold a grudge for long unless it is something monumental.

Hi! Thinking about your question, I can't help but look back at what happened to me a long time ago. I, honestly, am the the type of person that holds grudges against those who talk behind my back. It is kind of hard to give someone my trust, and even harder to re-establish once you break it. I do believe in second chances, given the condition that that person who talked things about me would explain why he/she had to do that and apologize for doing so. But I think I wouldn't forgive that person right away, I'd give myself time to process things, let my hurts heal. I try as much as possible to talk things out, but that doesn't mean that I can forgive someone who has wronged me right away. I then pray that God would give me a forgiving heart so as not to carry any heavy burdens anymore. Great post by the way :)

Are you referring to back fighters?Well, I guess so, It's really a bad feeling when you heard someone talking against you specially inventing lies about you. I easily get upset with this kind of attitude.Its a natural feeling to be impulsive especially if you are a sensitive type of person and your initial feeling is to hate the person. But i guess its just temporary, you'll just cool yourself for a while and after that talk to the person and try to clear things out. It's better to know and understand the real story face to face.