Do you think the kids should be beaten rather than punished?

I am a absolutely opponent of beating a child, that is too harsh and too cruel. I have the experience of being beating often when i was a child ,all bcoz my mom is badtempered, so i got lot of the punishes like be beaten even if bcoz a tiny mistake. I wish all the parents could treat their child tenderly and be more patient when they face a mistake, especially for a lovely child. All children deserve kindly tread when they make mistake.

Well,i don't like shouting or beating the children.I think it is better to explain them cooly and nicely.Children are children,why beat them and shout at them.If we do some wrong and if anybody shout at us how we will feel?We always think their feeling and tell them in a polite manner,i hope they will change and they won't do the mistake any more.

Kids should not and never be subjected to physical abuse. They should be treated with love and guidance. Physical abuse only lead children to be bad person. When they grow up. As the saying goes, what the child see the adult is doing is right in their eyes. Some parents do beat their children if they made a mistake because it is their form of discipline. For me to discipline your child is explaining to them what they had done. It only threaten them if they will be beaten. It can lose their confidence because they are afraid. They will not try to try things and how it work because they are afraid to make a mistake because they already know what kind of punishment they will received. Parents who beat their child only make their child move away from them. The parent and children relationship will never lead to success. Children became victim and if they became adult they can also do that to their future children.

ya..sometimes though we beat in anger but regret later..but when they grow to a particular age..we ourselves stop beating like i have my daughter who is in 6th..abt 11 years of age..now i dont feel like beating her..becoz as the children grow they become sad and feel very bad inside if we beat them...so we automatically stop doing all that..but smaller are still cute na...so y to beat even if they are smal or big..we should control and explain them their mistakes and bless them with kisses

I think some people can not stop with the one swap they go over board. Them are the people that need their parenting license taken away. If you bruise you do not need to whip. I whipped my child until he got older and there were other means more important like taking away privileges. Sometimes he would even ask to be whipped because he did not want his cars, tv, timeout etc taken away. That is when you definetly know it is working. I was whipped as a child. I do not have scars to prove. Nor was i ever bruised or blackened. Sometimes you do have to take 5 before issuing out a punishment. Shouting does work,but then you get a sore throat. That can be taken overboard also. You just need to do was is right for your child.

No child should ever be beat. But there is a difference between beating and disciplined. A child will learn from being spanked and my children do learn from being spanked. Politics have taken so much control away from the parents that these children end up running the show. It never hurt me to be spanked on the butt and it won't hurt my child. If more children were disciplined the country would be a better place. That being said there is a huge difference between beating a child and disciplining a child, don't think I am saying go beat your child for doing something wrong, if it can be handled verbaly or by other means then do it but if it can't be handled that way then put a hand on their butt.

Hello coolcat. When my son was little, I beat him for a few times, but how I felt so sorry for it after my beating him. Later, I have never beaten him again. I just criticize him when he does something wrong and tell him how to do things correctly. I don't think that I will ever beat him again.

Well It is true for some cases. It also depends on the thinking of kids if kids are scared of beating then they will avoid thing but sometimes kids gets used to punishments or beating so we should do variations in punishing kids and beating sometimes politely warn them to avoid naughty stuff otherwise they punish them or beat them. But mostly get something artificial thing to scare kids I have a little rat with sticky rubber materials and little baby sitting girl at our place is scared of that rat and she obeys everything if we show her that rat. And if using such thing then don't remove its fear from the minds of kids.

I'd prefer punishing my kid instead of beating him, words hurt more than sticks and stones as they say...

Yes, I believe we can be creative in allowing the child to learn from their mistakes. Punishment is very agreeable for me especially if you know how to implement it and is strong enough to be consistent in what you say. Beating? I prefer spanking(it seems like a lighter word for me...) a child when done in purpose can also be beneficial to both kid and parent. The key is explanation! We have to let the child know why we are doing, whatever we are doing specially if it involves them!

Hi there mylotter, I dont think beat the children is a good way to educate them. Please dont do that to our child. It just can make them sad, trauma and distress.And feel sorry after what the parents did to their child is something for nothing. So before we regret with the way we are wrong, better we choose to give advise and explain why we are angry at the children. It works for me to educate mine. Thanks, happy mylotting

Beating up your child, when this happens its because the parent did it out of anger as you well stated coolcat. Then they feel sorry for ever doing it and some parents hug their children afterwards or buy them expensive toys etc etc... or just lets them do whatever they want when they feel their not up for the part of parenting because of what happened.. lamentation goes back to normal til one day child does something wrong and you go back at it again, its a vicious cycle. When beating up occurs, children dont understand whats going on, its like, wait, I did something, U hit me and now your sorry? but I did something wrong... did I do it did I not do it? ok I do what I want, ok then nothing wrong!.. I mean, in their subconcsious they get confused and dont know what is what.. so beating a child up is out of the question since it wont work. Punishment does work! U just have to build up a lot of patience and be FOREVER CONSTANT about it, something bigger than physical pain is dissapointment in a child, if you let them know that what they did wrong, that what they are doing is wrong and that they are being punished for it, they will ammend and understand as well.. Patience is the key word.

Beating can affect a child in psychological aspect. The more you beat them the more they grew violent and if they became parents, they will do the same with there child. For me, I prefer to punish my child because they will learn from it.

Beating a child is a no no for me. I still believe in diplomacy.

coolcat why on earth would any sane parent want to beat a'child it is cruel and inhumane, if they the parents had done somewthing wron g at work would they like it if their boss beat them with a heavystick of some kind.no of course not. a light spanking or better yet time out and things they like taken away when they misbehave is much more productive as you want to teach them right from wrong., beating is very wrong, very cruel and not right at all.

i really don't like to use the work beat because it sounds very bad these days when people are punching and hitting there kids with things. but anyways i will smack my kids on the butt if need be only if punishing don't work which a lot of the times it don't but some times it does but we only smack them on the butt with our hands if nothing else works and after that we have them tell us why they got in trouble to make sure they know what they did wrong so hopefully it don't happen again.

I think it is always important to teach the kids what is right to do and what is wrong to do. I am sure different people has their own different ways to teach kids but beating up the kids doesn't sound good at all, I think parents can do reward and verbal punishment instead of beating up the kids, at least it is what I would do to my kids when I have kids in the future.

Hi coolcat123 I agree, there is a time and place for both of these things, a child will not learn to fear the spanking if you never enforce it. I actually have done both, but I lean alot more towards the punishment, now that my children are older, they are better able to understand. I give them a list of warnings and consequences and this way they know what to expect. Examples would be, taking the TV out of their rooms for bad grades, they fix the grade, they earned their Tv back. It is not to say that I take the priveledge away completely, but it is just one weapon in my favor, so to speak, motivation for them to work and do better. Another example is if, when they unload and reload the dishwasher and there is a mess left, they have to keep that chore for the rest of the week. I used to feel guilty in making my kids do chores, but no longer, it is actually beneficial and of course it helps me as well. Beating as in leaving bruising and marking the child, no I don't agree with it, though I understand that the idea runs through the minds of many a great parent! LOL At the end of the day, you, the parent, have to be able to lay your head down at night feeling that your child is better for your ability to lead by example. Hard as it may be, lord help us. Have a great day.

I am a big opponent of beating or hitting children or anyone for that matter. I know some parents who smack children for smacking their sibling. That sends a message that it's okay to hit people and I don't think that's a message you want to send to your children. If you talk to them and put the proper discipline techniques in place, you won't need to lift a finger. I've posted about this before, but I love Supernanny's techniques. She believes in disciplining a child without the use of force.