People who refuse to get it
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85147)
Shingle Springs, California
September 17, 2009 11:54am CST
Yesterday I got an e-mail from my friend Lyn. We were talking about our friend Lynda who died so tragically last July. She told me that I made Lynda laugh. Well really we made each other laugh. But it's true. I do make people laugh. So me and my little voice were patting me on the back and saying, "yeah I do make people laugh."
But it reminded me of a (former) friend who wouldn't laugh at one of my little jokes. We used to have lunch every so often and many drivers down in Los Angeles are rude. When I was driving, no big deal, but when he was driving OMG. He'd get so mad at getting cut off or whatever and I'd make a joke like, "oh well, it's a Mercedes." Meaning, more or less, that they're rich, arrogant and think that the law didn't apply to them. He didn't think it was funny at all.
And then there was the expression, "oh God". Now to me, that is used as an expression of shock or surprise. But if I said that, he would say "it's not his fault." At the time, I was speechless, but now I would probably say, "I didn't say it was. It was an expression of surprise." But you know, I think he would have been pissed off about it no matter what I had said.
I think maybe some people have a little agenda or way of thinking where they deliberately choose not to "get" something you're saying just to make a point with you.
What do you think?
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19 responses
@donie11 (35)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
i can absolutly relate to this because my bf is a very negative person.....i am exactly like my father...very layed back, not to much bothers you, just very lovable.....now my bf on the other hand lol im trying to get him out of his habit of being oh so negative.....most of his convos are about how he hates this or that person shouldnt be doing that or this person is worng.....it really buggs me...i like to talk about how wonderful things are and how nice someone is or how good of a job someone is doing at something or atleast how well they are trying. now dont get me wrong he is not always negative but just most of the time....and he does laugh and joke around but i just wish the negativity was gone...
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Sep 09
This person was like that a lot also. Unfortunately you can't change another person, the person has to WANT to change. I hope your boyfriend can see that before it hurts your relationship.
@mohinimandokhot (184)
• India
18 Sep 09
I perfectly understand what you mean when you say that some people say things just to make a point with you . It is as if they are all the time in competition with you and they can make you feel really awful about yourself.
I like funny people and those who can make others laugh. My younger sister is like that and she can make you burst with laughter for a long time. I am not a serious person, but i like to laugh too. I think I understand the kind of person that you are.
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Sep 09
:-)
This guy was good at making me feel bad about myself. Another good reason we're not friends any more!
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
17 Sep 09
Well, you make ME laugh Dawn. If I don't get my Daily Dose of Dawn I have to find a laugh somewhere else, and they are few and far between - so keep it up!
I suppose we all have our little quirky twists of expression and appreciation and we don't always "get" what the other person is thinking. Even after almost 50 years of a happy marriage, I still don't understand some of my hubby's remarks which he considers a joke, and I am left just blank and wondering what on earth he is on about.
Isn't it just as well that we are all different?
I wonder if your ex friend is writing a blog somewhere . . . "I once knew this girl who said the weirdest things . . . "
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
lmao
Well I don't mind if somebody doesn't "get" my humor, that's not all that uncommon actually. I just feel like this guy was deliberately making a point of not getting it!
Wait right here while I go searching to see if he has a blog. hahaha
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Sometimes I do think people just make their minds up that they aren't going to laugh at someone's puns or jokes,and sometimes I think it's just like ZOOM right over their heads.
That happens to me alot since I am a natural blond and well sometimes that deer in the headlights look coming from me is real cuz I just don't get it.
Oh hell what was the question again?
By the way Lynda could always make me laugh and I miss that.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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17 Sep 09
Hi dawnal,
Obviouly, he did have the same sort of humour as you but its his lost so carry on with yours and keep making us laugh because laughter is a best medicine and we need our daily doe, lol!!
Tamara
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
He could turn his on and off with his mood too, but that particular joke he definitely did not like and he made sure I was clear about that!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Sep 09
I do expect that there are people like that. I can't think of any off hand. I am considered funny too - but some people but others think that I am weird!! I really cannot see the sense in 'not getting' a joke on purpose. Am glad tha tyou referred to him as a former friend. So you have bad drivers too? The craziest ones are out here, trust me on this one.
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
That's because when they get too crazy, we send them there! 
@nannacroc (4049)
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18 Sep 09
I'm not sure on this, some people describe my humour as 'interesting' or 'quirky' and I think that probably means they haven't a clue. they don't get it because my mind seems to work differently and I can see humour in many situations that others can't.
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Sep 09
Some people definitely don't get me. I'm pretty certain that this person did, but wanted to make a point of not getting me...
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Sep 09
why correct her? she was probably happy thanking God. :-)
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Sep 09
To me, the expression/s OMG or Oh my God are blasphemous. I think people use the term too loosely and that by doing so they are disrespecting God. Now whether or not I personally believe in God is not the issue here but a lot of people do believe in him and that that expression is disrespectful.
I get that you are surprised but to invoke God is not right under these circumstances.
Lecture over, just my 2 cents.
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Sep 09
Ah but you see if he had said it to me THAT way, I would have said, sorry, I'll make an effort not to use that phrase around you any more. It's all in the delivery...
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
18 Sep 09
Perhaps it was his try at dry humor? If I were you, I'd reply, 'Humor me, dude'.......ha... sometimes, people do that deliberately and not realizing. There's a fine line; and it can be tricky for us to decide which is which..
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Sep 09
Nope, but those things got repeated a number of times. He was trying to make a point...
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 09
dawnald yes I do think you are right. my roomie listens to me then I can see that what I said she didnt get at all,instead of laughing with me, she was frowning, and I felt she was just trying to make her own
point with me,I was being humourus and she took it too seriously and that sort of irritated me too. but she hasnt much of a sense of humor and I do as I inheritated it from my deceased hubby, it rubbed off on me sort of. he had a rich sense of humor, and always a twinkle in his eyes.fun to live with too.
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
Sounds like he was a wonderful man.
But as for the roommate, that's already two strikes against her. lol
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
i don't know what are they doing . cause i have not encountered such people. most people i know of if i make a joke they will acknowledge my joke. they will say it is funny or not. they will not pretend like they didn't get it or they didn't notice that i was making a joke. i will be pissed off if i feel that the person i am talking to is pretending that he has no idea of what i am saying when i t is just too simple to understand most specially when i know that he is not that dumb not to know it.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Not having a sense of humor will certainly shorten your life span, or piss everyone else off to the point they will want to shorten it for you. LOL I think there are some people who just cannot be amused. No matter what happens they never find any joy. That's actually kind of sad! Sorry about your friend and your ex-friend.
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@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
17 Sep 09
My father in law deliberately turns everything I say upside down just to try to irk me. Back fires most of the time because I know his game and just ignore him or throw his own words back at him to shut him up. Yes I do think some people try not to get things others say some so as not to be associated with a comment they think is of color others to just be jerks.
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
Some people actually enjoy being annoying or getting reactions from people.
@TheGreatWhiteBuffalo (4822)
• United States
18 Sep 09
I don't get it?
Actually what I think I have written down and I share what I think with others sometimes I'm very serious and other times I can make people laugh, we are social and emotional creatures and that is part of being alive.
I know a lot of people who think just like the former friend, I like friends that can think...
Thanks for sharing this... I think you get it and I think I get it well I used to get it but I'm not getting it right now, but maybe in the future... 
Actually what I think I have written down and I share what I think with others sometimes I'm very serious and other times I can make people laugh, we are social and emotional creatures and that is part of being alive.
I know a lot of people who think just like the former friend, I like friends that can think...
Thanks for sharing this... I think you get it and I think I get it well I used to get it but I'm not getting it right now, but maybe in the future... 1 person likes this
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I think you are right....sounds like he was defensive...or perfect one of the two....did it make you feel less then smart when he wouldn't laugh? I have a few people like that....sometimes I just want to say....don't you get it? So what's not to understand?
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
lmao
Well he had his moments or we never would have been friends to begin with, but yeah he could be. He sure could be!!!
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 09
I agree with you. And ultimately his attitude (he was mad at almost everybody in the company and mad at me for not being mad at them with him) ended the friendship.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
I think people take themselves too damn seriously. I can't imagine spending my life looking for all the little tiny ways to be offended. It just seems like such a joyless way to live. Plus it makes it awkward and uncomfortable for the people around them.
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