Do we have a right to blame our parents?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
September 20, 2009 8:12pm CST
I have a friend. He blamed his parents for everything that happened to him. All his failures and misfortune. He said that his parents were not supportive in everything that he want to do, never have a time to listened to him. On the contrary I have a friend who happened to have almost the same situation of him. But she wasn't as desperate as my guy friend. She's more independent and quite happy with her life.
So what to do you think, should we blame our parents for our failures and setback? Do we have a right to do so?
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5 responses
@diggityjed (107)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I dont think that we can blame our parents for what is happing bad in our lives except if you really those kind of stupid parents who dont even care with their kids, and if it is we also fault on what happened because sometimes we can prove that we can do things that we want no matter how rough the situation is. If you keep telling yourself that your parents are to be blame for me it doesnt make sense,you just have to keep moving.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Yeah, parents can't redone what they have done in the past. It's all for us to accept and compensate whatever our parents shortcomings. We are the one who control our life and our fate. And sometimes it is on blaming to our parents would only make our life worse. It is important to accept our parents failure in helping us grow with confidence.
Anyways thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@diggityjed (107)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I'm with you on that, we just have to accept it.
Your welc0me!
thanks.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 09
I don`t agree with that..we can`t blame our parents for whatever happens to us, however, in my opinion,parents have important role in children`s life and what our parents might say and do, of course have impact on our future..so parents must be extra careful, because sometimes parent are not aware of their action or words, that might hurt their children.if parents are overprotective, their children won`t be confident in making their own decision,they will be dependent on their parents all the time...that`s example
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Yeah I agree with you jasmeena,
Parents should know how to take good care with their children. They should pay much
attention on guiding with their kids, they should give and provide enough, emotional, moral, and spiritual needs of their children. They should balance between giving and loving their children especially in making decisions for them. They said it it's easy to become a parents but it's hard to be a parents.
Thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@laglen (19759)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Up until you turn 18. Then you have to suck it up and take responsibility for your self. No matter how bad your friend had it, I guarantee somebody else has had it worse and came out better for it. I find adults who blame their parents for their misfortunes are just pathetic.
@shajerrl (309)
• China
21 Sep 09
this should be called generation gap i think if you alway blame your parents this or that.this would be happied if your parents has less communication with your children. it's not good if you blame all your failures and setback to your parents. you can blame all you failures to your parent when your parents in your side, but if you leave your parents, who can you blame?
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Yeah, it's a generation gap. That's why many teenagers nowadays found it hard to understand their parents at the same time parents don't know how to deal with their children. Since most parents are quite busy with their respective career and don't have much energy to deal with household problems. It's not bad to work hard for a living but parents should know what's important in their life. And they should give enough time with their kids. So they would not have any regrets if ever their children would be astray.
Thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 09
i think i vote whats the last do to her parents.sometimes we had many obstacles in our lifes but it`s unfair to blame other if we fail or didnt get what we want. especially if the other is his or her parents. if he or she wants blame the other, she or he first blame his/herself not to prepare to do well or prepare if she/he fail.
