No BIG deal!!

@mzz663 (2773)
United States
September 20, 2009 8:52pm CST
I have a friend that has lost over 100 pounds, when I seen her, I told her how great she looks! She acted as though it was an insult and jumped to another subject. If you or someone you know has lost a lot of weight, why not be proud of your accomplishment? I felt like I was picking on her by the way she acted. I would think someone that lost a lot of weight would be proud and want to talk about it instead.
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10 responses
• United States
21 Sep 09
Some people just don't know how to accept a compliment. My sister has always struggled with her weight and is also very shy. No matter how great she looks, if you tell her she looks great she gets embarrassed and either puts herself down or changes the subject. Try not to take your friend's reaction too personally, she may simply not know how to accept a compliment.
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I remember wayyy back when, I was shy and didn't know how to take a compliment, but I think if I was in that position at that point in my life, it would have at least made me smile?
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• United States
21 Sep 09
It would make me smile, even when I WAS young and shy, but my sister who is 8 years older just doesn't know how to deal with that sort of thing, maybe your friend is the same way?
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Only if the change made her shy....she wasn't shy about anything before. She just kind of looked down at the ground and started a whole different conversation.
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@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I would be proud of myself if I lost that much weight. Maybe your friend is just self consious of her weight. So she doesn't want to talk about it. Or maybe she had some kind of surgery and is embarresed by it. Who knows. Definately let your friend know that you support her.
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I'm there for her and will be, I was her friend before and think it's great that she lost so much no matter how she lost it.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I think she just misinterpret what you just said, or it is you who have the problem the way you say, i would probably feel the same if you say that with,annoying smile. I dont think that she is not happy with tham because she did for some reason.
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I don't think it was the way I said it, I was excited that she lost so much and looked so good! It is one of my friends and I don't use my 'sarcastic smile' when I'm giving someone a sincere comment/compliment.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Sep 09
hi mzz663 I think perhaps she has had a big medical reason to lose so many pounds and also she is a bit touchy about her weight as many people may have given her a bad time, and she is sick of talking about how she lost all that weight. so many reasons that might not be apparent. wait awhile and then very gently tell her she looks just fantastic. she might need time to adjust to the new her you know.It might be that her weight had been talked about so much she was sick of hearing about it. give her some time. just be patient with her.
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
21 Sep 09
You could be right Hatley! You always give me good answers!! Thanks!!
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• United States
21 Sep 09
Hatley's awesome.
@dragon54u (31644)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I would think she would be pleased that you noticed. But have you seen her during her weight loss battle? Maybe she's being overly sensitive in that you saw her when she was fat but wasn't there to lend support as she lost? We can't always be there for people because of time or distance, but your compliment obviously struck a nerve. I think she should lighten up. No pun intended.
22 Sep 09
better explain it to your friend because maybe she has not gain her self esteem yet so boast it. even if she does look good what she can see is her big body still and that is of similar with those people having an eating disorder.
@vinslounge (1297)
• India
21 Sep 09
oh! if your friend must have lost 100 pounds then i guess she could have been severely overweight previously. .Yes people do loose weight if they are sick or etc but if she lost 100 pounds because of sickness then she ought to have got checked by the doctor as 100 pounds means 45.35kg's and I really don't know any disease which would make you loose that much weight. Only diseases like AIDS and Cancer can cause such an impact but you would know if she was suffering from such an serious ailment. My guess is it is an overreaction by your friend perhaps she is trying to show off and she must worked her butts off to shed her pounds. Please don't get me wrong, I don't have anything against your friends but that's how girls sometimes operate. No wonder people have difficulty in deciphering girls.
• United States
21 Sep 09
i think when we live our lives with a weigh problem we become so self conscious of it and so when we lose it and look great compliments are very difficult to deal with.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I wander why she acted like it was an insult to her? You simply made a nice gesture or comment to her. Maybe she feels like people did not accept how she was before and only commented to her when she lost the weight?
• Canada
21 Sep 09
It sounds like your friend is a very modest person. I would be the same way if I lost a lot of weight. I don't feel like drawing a lot of attention to my body. I am more proud of my brain. I think that we put way too much emphasis on our bodies, and physical appearance. I would want to be as quiet as possible about weight, and I would just brush it off, and want to go on with my life.