Blood is thicker than water....

@dhangski (3194)
Philippines
September 21, 2009 3:35am CST
[i][b]Whenever there are situations that needs some help, advise, comfort, I often hear these words, especially from relatives and some family members. But I really doubt it. I have been wondering and thinking for some time now "Is blood really is thicker than water?" Right now, I don't believe with this for there are situations that they were the ones who messes your life, they just mixed things up and they make situations worst. How about you? have you've been betrayed by your own blood? Do you still trust them after what they did to you? Frankly, I don't trust anyone right now. I just do the best that I can, it's up for them to start talking about me. All I can say is "my conscience is clear". Any views, advise, sharing is very most welcome. HUGZ to all. Happy mylotting.[/b][/i]
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14 responses
21 Sep 09
Hi dhangski, Sometimes your relative could be your worst enemy, I have a b rother like that, although he loves me I love him, we fight a lot and I don't want to talk to him, but I think your best friend is the only one you can trust beacuse he/she can see from the outside what the problem is but sometimes relatives can be jealous of you too. Hugs. Tamara
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hi tamara. Your situation with your brother is just like with my sister. I don't know why she is always jealous with everything that is happening with me even before when we are still young. Thanks to my friends who is always willing to listen and be with me through good and bad times. That's what's friends are for, right? HUGZ to you my friend and I really miss you.
@hexeduser22 (6692)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I do not believe in "Blood is thicker than water". A family member who tries to use this quote is really desperate to seek your help. Sometimes they are just your relatives when their down or in need of something. Afterward they tend to forget what you did for them and can even talk behind your back. Personally I don't trust a family member who thinks like this. I'm very open to my family but sometimes they tend to abuse you.:)
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
That's right hexeduser22. I've come to realize that they are just good to you when they need you. Now, I've learned my lesson, not to trust any of them anymore. I just do what I have to do, keep quiet in my place and let them talk and talk. HUGZ!
@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I have heard this said to me alot of times too and I do not believe it at all either. I cannot count on some of my family like I can on other people. They could always count on me though.
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I've always been open to my family, but right now, I'd rather seek comfort from my friends. HUGZ to you.
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@neildc (17250)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
22 Sep 09
Hi best. I feel so sorry to hear what is happening to you now. I feel so sad about you but all I can send you is my love. Blood is thicker than water, is one thing that is proven by most people but I can't blame anyone who feels negative about this when he experience bad treatment with family and relatives. For me, I still believe in it. Maybe it's because I never experienced anything bad with my relatives. But I know some of my relatives who give priorities to other people over our relatives. But I don't take them seriously. Like you said, "my conscience is clear" so if you can ignore them, the situation, good thing for you to do is ignore and go on with your life.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Thanks for all the love best. I'm grateful that you never experienced what I've been through with your relatives. You know the whole story right? And you know very well that I always seek for you whenever I need a friend. We've been through good and bad times and that made me strong. HUGZ always best.
@neildc (17250)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
22 Sep 09
you know that i am still here for you.
@littleowl (7157)
22 Sep 09
Hi dhangski, Sometimes in certain situations I have found that family have been the best people to talk to and help resolve a situation but often times friends are better than family...as the saying goes 'you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family', and my freinds I can count on one hand who are true,helpful always there when in need and for their caring love and support, so is blood thicker than water..maybe it is a bit thinner than what the expression says..as there are some people who are never close to their families...LoLo
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Hi there littleowl. Whenever I have problems or needed someone to talk to, I always confide to my friends than my family. I have been close with my relatives even before but they betrayed my trust. HUGZ my friend.
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
hello dhangski. you're not alone on that, i don't think it's good to trust every relative in the family, they're people that even though you're related, they can pretend and destroy you. or even steal something from your house, it was really heart breaking that when we found out about our relative stealing utensils and knifes and putting it in the sack, that's when we realized that they cannot be trusted.....
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
That's my point knight. You tend to trust them then they betray you. They didn't think first that you will be hurt with what they did to you.
@salonga (27821)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hi dhangski! It seems this post has a very deep meaning to you! Well I understand. It is sad when your own blood is the one messing your life. It should be the other way around actually so if they instead became the pain in your neck it is really a very hard situation. They were supposed to be on your side but if they don't and are even betraying you then I understand why you don't trust them anymore. As you said your conscience is clear so that alone is your big advantage. The truth will always set you free. Let them talk and talk, sooner or later, its the truth that will always come out to vindicate you. So cheers my friend!
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hi there salonga. Well it really has a deep meaning with regards to what is happening with my life right now. I do really hope that sooner I will be free with these problems that I'm encountering. I'll try to keep quiet and go on with my life as the way it used to be. I don't talk to any of them that often anymore. HUGZ to you my friend. Miss you.
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@marguicha (159585)
• Chile
24 Sep 09
I have a very supportive family, more than anby one I know. But I also have incredible friends. So I don´t think it´s just a matter of blood, but it can also be luck. I don´t feel as if I have any special talents that make me worthy of this, but I have it. All this has helped me trust people. Not only my own people, but I firmly believe that most people in this world are good persons in essence. Take care!
@hotsummer (10797)
• Guam
22 Sep 09
yeah, it does not seem to be true that blood is thicker than water. i think if we don't have good relationship with our relatives then it is hard to confide to them and sometimes it is hard to trust even our relatives.
@pillusch (1148)
• Mexico
21 Sep 09
I´m a lucky person, I left my country (Germany) and my family almost 30 years ago, and they still resent it. Having left (I go and visit them every 5 to 10 years) I'm not part of that ´blood' anymore. The way I mean blood here is that I left childhood dynamics, old resentments and generally family gossip, behind. I said they resent it, but it's really envy. And they treat me pretty badly when I go (that's why I don't go anymore.) Having left the eagle's nest, flying on my own, was, with hindsight, the best thing I could have done. Having stayed in the family fold would have meant that I'd have never learned to dream and leave my limitations behind. I just left my mexican family (wife, two boys and a maid), because I was getting sick of hiding from THEIR relatives, who, like a good family, get involved and mess around with things they have absolutely no business messing around with.
@mzz663 (2779)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I think it all depends....some families are there for each other no matter what and are there for support. Mine? Depends on the day & time and what mood they're in, so they aren't always there for me. I've had some good friends help and support me in a lot of different ways and it seems more often than not, that's where I can go for help.
• India
21 Sep 09
i guess it is true.me and my siblings are very close-knitted.whenever i have any problem they are the first to come beside me to help.i can always trust and relie on them for help be it physical or financial.even when i am sick they are the ones who take are care me and my kids.so the saying goes right-"blood IS thicker than water".it is only them who can feel ur pain.
• United States
21 Sep 09
I don't beleive the saying, "Blood is thicker than water". I can come to learn that complete strangers will treat you better than your own blood.
• United States
21 Sep 09
I absolutely DON'T believe blood is thicker than water! My husband's family is awful! They have told him his whole life he was to small or he couldn't do something he wanted to. Now they are trying desparately to break us up. Trying to make me seem worse than I am so he will leave me and be left with them. He knows this and has no intentions on listening. Our friends are our blood! They are the brothers and sisters I never had and the family he wishes he had had! I grew up in a family that no matter how bad things got or how mad we were at each other we still had each others back when the chips were down! So this kind of family interaction is disturbing to me in many ways!