Do you consider flirting online as cheating?

@krupesh (2608)
India
September 25, 2009 9:49pm CST
First of all let me know whether you flirt online or not.Do you consider it as cheating? I dont consider it as cheating as they would not know personally till they meet up.If they meet up then it is serious & cant be called flirting. Your thoughts....
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Hm, Krupesh. An interesting topic here. Do I flirt online? No. Have I ever? Yes, when I was divorced but not yet dating, etc. Not the dirty flirting, though. Do I think it's cheating? Well, now that I'm in a relationship, I do NOT flirt online nor would I. I think this is something that lies between the two people in a commited relationship or marriage. It begs some questions. Is it the same as cheating in person? Of course not...but, would it bother you if your partner did as you do?? Do you make an effort to hide the flirting if your partner is nearby or walks into the room? Do you ever have any moments of guilt or remorse for the flirting? Does it ever go too far? If so, then you should stop the flirting, or never begin it. Is it cheating in any form?? In my opinion, yes. It is a form of cheating your partner of conversation, respect, emotional contact in a sense, time, etc. I wouldn't want a partner or spouse to do it, and as I said, when not totally single, I would not do it either. Karen
@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
Actually I was flirting online before my marriage.But not now.But just to know the thoughts of people here I put this question.This came to mind as my is away from the past 5-6 days.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
*wife
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@LouieWpHs04 (4558)
• United States
26 Sep 09
It depends the level in which you're flirting, and the other person in the relationship & how OK they are with it. If you're hiding it from them that's probably never a good sign. As long as you're open about it & aren't trying to conceal it in any manner I see no harm. Just don't go leading another person on to a degree that might end up putting a strain on your relationship & making the other person think you have a major crush on them. Hope this helps!
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
ya I think this a good suggestion.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 09
krupesh yes in a way it is as it would ultimately lead to more and more of that flirting that gets serious. dont do it, I would never do that ,it is hurtful to the other person because in a way you are saying to your live in or your spouse'that you are just another number in my line of boy or girl friends,nobody wants to be just another number.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
Flirting doesn't mean that you have to talk about romance or is it?Just feels good if you speak to the person of the opposite s e x & I think it relaxes you a bit.
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@jellymonty (2354)
26 Sep 09
Oh I flirt online and offline.. It's one of my many bad habits I don't think any kind of flirting is cheating. For me it's a confidence boost if I'm able to flirt and get a huge response (which I usually do) When I was with my ex I still flirted and my ex didn't mind because he knew I was just joking around. Trouble is people don't really understand the concept of flirting. Guys in particular take flirting very seriously while we women do it to just have a laugh most of the time. The cheating comes into play if the flirting goes a further step, you know crossing the border... but flirting is just one way to ease tension within people I think.
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• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Some time i flirt when i chatting online, especially if the person i chat with is using a cam. But i dont think flirting in chat could be considering cheating if you chat at random person at chat room. but if you chat with a friend you know in real world, that it would be consider cheating. And of course, cybering would also be considered cheating even if you never met the person in the real world.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I don't flirt online, and I do consider it cheating. Cheating isn't a matter of seeing somebody in person. It's a metter of betraying your spouse in your heart. If you don't think it's wrong...do I assume you think it's ok if your wife does it too? Putting the shoe on the other foot (so to speak) will tell you what your true feelings are.
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@hagirl (1296)
• United States
26 Sep 09
No I do not flirt on line. Let me ask you some questions then you can make up your own mind. How would you feel if you caught your boyfriend/girlfriend flirting online? Would you feel like you could trust them not to meet up with the person they were chatting with? Would you feel degraded by your partner flirting online? If you and your partner was being intimate would you be wandering if they were thinking about the moment or what it would be like with the person online? Answer these questions and then get back with me. It may or may not shed a new light on your thinking.
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@killer04 (282)
• Australia
26 Sep 09
Well for me I would consider it cheating as I think that if you are with someone, you do not mess around with someone else. I think that it would be disrespectful towards your partner. Well that's just my opinion and I know that it may sound old school.
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@prinzcy (5036)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
Well, that would depend on the flirting type. If it's merely mean nothing, only for fun and no meaning out of it, like joking, I don't call that cheating. But if he really flirt and said he love her, it's no longer joking. Love is a word that we shouldn't just toss around. Plus, even with online flirting, you shouldn't take it that you'll never meet her. The world is no longer big like it used to. We can get to almost any part of the world via plane. It's getting cheaper and cheaper to fly.
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
hi prinz.. i agree with you dear on this
@maezee (38864)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I really don't think it's cheating. Flirting, to me, is more of a natural thing than people tend to think, and it doesn't necessarily mean that you don't love your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes.. It just happens. . Obviously, if you're flirting with the intention of hooking up with the person or cheating on your spouse with them, then most definitely it's cheating, or at least you have that cheating mentality. If your flirting is totally innocent (which it usually is!) with no alterior motives..Then it's definitely not cheating. So, in my opinion, it depends on the mentality and the intentions of the person doing the flirting.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
I totally agree with you maezee
@maean_19 (4660)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I think, flirting online is not per se cheating, but may lead to cheating. If you are in a serious relationship and still flirts whether online or personal is considered cheating. The mere fact that you entertain the flirting of another despite being in a commitment is already unfair. Flirting online may lead to anything deeper. It is a consequence of mere entertaining another person's flirtitious acts. That is only my opinion. I think, if you are truly serious in a relationship, why still flirt? Flirting is an example of temptation that has to be avoided.
@scififan43 (2437)
• United States
6 Oct 09
This is a very good question. Flirting on-line harmless if it does not go too far. Howver it could also be considered as cheating since you are making advaces toward someone who is married or if you are married yourself.. it is a kind of gray area so it just depends on the circulsances you are in at the time.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I think that any kind of thing that may or may not be considered cheating all goes down to if the person who is doing whatever it is, feels guilty. If they feel guilty then they are not in the innocent mind frame. This is my opinion atleast. No, I do not cheat or flirt in anyway, nor would I ever. Flirting is meant to be done between a couple only!
• United States
30 Sep 09
it really depends.. im naturally a flirt but never have cheated and my hubby knows im a flirt so he could care less what i say to other guys online or in person as long as it isnt going to go anywhere.. i always make sure any friends i flirt with know its innocent so there arent any misunderstandings.. to me if you cant tell your significant other what you are doing then maybe you shouldnt be doing it..
@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
Hi krupesh! I've never tried flirting online because I already consider such act as cheating. For me, flirting is flirting, whether one does it online, on the phone, or whereever as it already involves some feelings (perhaps lust) in one's mind.
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
hi krups what do u consider as flirting ... i dont know, because i discuss all msatters with my online friends .. openly as i know none of them knows me so i can be myself when i am online cheers
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Yes. I think any kind of flirting with other people is considered cheating. There should be no reason or time to flirt when you are in a relationship. You should only flirt with the person you are currently with.
@missa405 (290)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
It's definitely cheating. Anything you do that would make your partner feel like you are interested in someone else romantically is cheating in my mind. It doesn't matter if they meet up or not, flirting with someone else makes your partner feel cheated in situation online or not.
@Umbros (3)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Cheating is cheating,regardless of the circumstances. If you take the initiative to pursue another relationship while you are currently involved in one, then it is cheating.
• United States
26 Sep 09
I dont feel it as cheating only because a flirt is a flirt but when one party starts to take it serious is when it becomes more then a flirt and then to cheating. its all in how both parties perceive the flirt to be. if they take it as light hearted play then no harm, but if they allow it to effect their feelings in a relationship type manner then step back flames are gonna happen lol