Have you ever worked with someone, who caused you stress?

September 28, 2009 5:24pm CST
Have you ever had to work with someone, who thought they were higher rank than they were, and made your life a misery, always bossing you around (without the authority to do so) I had a good friend, then we ended up on the same Dept, and she tried to organise my shifts, was constantly breathing down my neck, and ordering me around. She was NOT my boss, i had a boss, but we were all good friends, so when i asked her to sort this girl out, she put us together to talk, in an office, (she was not doing her job as a Manager) she was scared to upset either one of us. It ended with us yelling at each other, and i walked out, left my job. The Manager begged me to go back, but no way!! I was NOT working with the girl anymore, and to this day, we don't speak....all because she thought she was something she is not. I am not the only one who left because of her, she got one guy sacked, as she accused him of following her home (he was not) and another guy walked, for the same as me, she was forever bossing him around, cause she knew she could get away with it. Have you had a similar experience? I ended up getting so stressed over the situation, i left, but i did put a letter in about it, and the Top Manager ended up annoyed with my Dept Manager for letting it happen...I still refused to go back. Anyone else had to work with a bossy know it all, that made you stressed?
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@patofgold23 (5073)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
when I was a new nurse..I started out as a volunteer for 5 whole months since there was no paying position available and i needed the training...everybody was so nice to me... after that I was awarded a contract which I had to renew everytime... luckily, a post was vacated..and I applied for it..along with 24 others, and I was chosen... I got the rgular paying job..and I was soooooooo excited... The old nurses whom i used to assist when i was new were so happy for me.. However there were some that seemed to always find fault on me... They even came to the point where they posted things on my board...and I was so upset.. The chief nurse likes me sooooo much though and that was supposed to matter most... and she is even trying her best not to make it obvious im her favorite... she calls me in her office just to talk...and tells me stuff i dont even need to know... and she also tells me not to tell anybody in the hospital what we talked about.. but I cant keep up with jealous co workers anymore... I was leaving for CA in 3 months to visit my mom just for a short time... but i didnt wait for that nymore.. I quit my job... and when I came back from CA i never seeked a job there anymroe (they are the highest paying hospital in my place)...
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29 Sep 09
That is such a shame, you were so excited too. jealousy is a big problem at work i think, and it is so sad, you quit, because of the actions of others. Some people just hate to see other's getting on...it sucks!! Sorry for you hun.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
oh it's okay forest... things happen for a reason... had I been stuck in there..i won't discover better opportunities...
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i had experienced something like that on my second job. This guy which is my co-worker was not my boss but he is the head of different department. I don't know where it began what i remember was that one day he came to me screaming, knowing he is a guy and he said something about me. I did not hear it so i went to his office and ask him again. He screamed at me again, knowing I was just in front of his place, of course I answer him with scream too. Since then he was aloof to me and when he sees me his face change like he was seeing the most hateful person he have. I don't take it seriously because I don't know the real reason. But I can't stand that for long and if I stay in the job I know I will just prolong the anger or either he or me got killed, because i definitely want to kill him. I resign and my life became colorful after. After a month i found out to my ex co-worker that that guy was jealous of me and that guy was not a guy but true blooded gay LOL. So that is why he always wanted to scream.
29 Sep 09
LOL, I know the feeling of wanting to kill, :( I am glad you got out of there, he obviously had major issues!
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Yes and I don't want to be a murderer something, I have a bright future ahead of me and I don't want to be affected to such crap. My decision was right to leave the company though.
@Opal26 (17682)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Hey forest! Oh how familiar this all sounds! I worked with someone once who was my "manager". She felt that she could do whatever she felt like which meant read the newspaper, file her nails and polish them, talk on the phone, come in whenever or do whatever else she felt like doing! She also was having a fling with the boss! She was supposed to be my "friend"! She would call me every night as soon as I got home! She was driving me crazy! She had a thing for the boss! Turns out they had a thing for each other and I finally told her off and complained to him and guess what? I got fired! So this is only one of my many fun job stories! Want to hear more? I have so beauties! And they are alot worse then this one!
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29 Sep 09
That suck opal! Its all making me realise how common this is, these people make me sick, but have the nack to get away with it...it makes me mad to be honest!
@Hatley (164014)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 09
hi forestgold I did not think I was ever going to get back on mylot. It kicked me off then I got back on and it took' forever for it to load,must be having problems. anyway I worked' under two women who made my life miserable. One was new and the second in command and I was so upset with her from day one I could not even know her name, the other was nice one day and a bear the next, she was bi-polar and would not take her meds. so she was always up or down, neither one was fun to be around . The second in command was nasty nice to me, making snide comments about my age and wait. I refused to quit so she pulled an ugly one , she went to my bipolar boss and said either you fire Mrs.Hatley as she is too old and fat, or I quit. well so Emily did let me go but six weeks later both she and the second snooty one who hated overweight older woman both were fired for agism firing of an employee who was one of the best workers in the library.they asked me to come back but Ihad had enough. I was angry and still am.They really said they would welcome me back but no no way would I go through anything like that agaIn ever. my age should not have come into or my weight as I did do my job and even Emily said that I did a great job. so why did she fire me,well who cares now.
@sid556 (30980)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yes I have worked with such a person. I imagine we all have. It's not easy but I am not one to quit my job just because another person bothers me. This one lady was just so difficult to deal with. She was just miserable. No one really liked her....not even the customers. For some reason, my boss never realized just how bad she was. I think she put on an act when the boss was around. We had a lot of young people that walked out because of her. Each time one of them would walk, she would call me to come in and fill in until they hired someone new. Finally, I got fed up with it and refused to come in to cover. This left the store in a really bad spot. My boss, knowing that I needed the money and was always good about covering for others called me and asked why I could not help out at all. I just told her that she was losing lots of good help because of this woman and I refuse to cover any more when she drives them away. I then told her all sorts of things this woman pulled. She asked if I was going to quit and I told her "No. She bothers me but I need my job." She did eventually quit and move on. I don't know....I can ignore pretty much anything and work with even the most annoying of people without it affecting my job.
29 Sep 09
Hi, She sounds just like the ratbag i am talking about. She also put on a big act in front of the manager, but also, the manager was constantly being told about her behaviour, but did nothing also. I am glad you have the strength to stay. I had my son fighting in Iraq at the time, so the added stress of this witch, was too much...and i think she knew it!...i walked, for my own sanity. If she had gone, i would have stayed, but she was still there, so no way! it sucks really, i hate people like her, they should be got rid of.
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@sid556 (30980)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Thats what I don't understand. When the boss gets complaints and does nothing. This lady had complaints not only from other workers but from customers as well. We had some customers that would not come in the store when she was working. She may have done her job but if she is driving off customers and other employees then I would think that would be enough to just get rid of her.
29 Sep 09
exactly! I could never understand it either. She was still there, prancing around on her high horse, after 3 of us had left. Made my blood boil, but she will slip up somewhere, these people always do. She had a manager who turned a blind eye, but she wont always have that, she will get one, some day, that will give her the boot!
@ElicBxn (62240)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I quit when the woman who had been the supervisor of the other side became the supervisor of the whole unit - well, retired, but she became my boss on March 1st and I was out on March 30th
29 Sep 09
There is so many of these know it alls...I bet your glad you retired!
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@ElicBxn (62240)
• United States
29 Sep 09
oh yeah - I've still got a little part time job, but I don't have that bi... woman being crazy on me
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
29 Sep 09
yes I even slap himhe was just brought into the storew I worked at he was just a cashier I at least was deli manger an he was forever talking down to me telling me crap like he is the man I am just a woman not in this lifetime will I take that crap anyway a customer put his hands where I didnt want him to so I push him an this guy takes me to back of the store yelling at me about being rude to the customers an if they want to touch me what harm can it do then he put his hand on me sister that man that reminded me i was just a woman was picking himself off the floor Thank god my store manger was a great guy he talked to everyone an fired the guy so i stayed at the satore another 5 years
29 Sep 09
Well done! the cheeky sod! He deserved a slap, and getting fired! I am glad he never got away with that, the creep!
@hotsummer (12923)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i have many people who i work with before that caused me strees. as in big stress, and so to the point i felt i am going to lose my sanity over them. so i am really choosy now with the kind of person i have around . i just avoid people who will just cause me stress.
29 Sep 09
Hiya, yes, i know the feeling. I too am far more picky, with whom i associate with now, i just cannot be bothered with different people, and their backstabbing or moods, so i just don't bother anymore.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
[b]ya! i already work with someone and caused me stress! when i was in highschool i have a friend.. we work by group because we have a project in 1 of our subject. we are 5 in a group. 1 of our groupmates, did not help us! .. shes always texting and chatting with her friends in her fone!!! ..
29 Sep 09
Hi, Maybe someone should point it out to her, that would annoy me also :(
@Swadey (220)
• Canada
29 Sep 09
wow im sorry to here that its always worse when its a friend of yours. i have never worked with a friend so i am yet to come across this problem, but i have worked with someone who caused me stress and i still do work with her. she was just really mean to me when i first started working there and now she just tells me to do things that i already know i have to do i just like to do things in a certain rutine and it annoys me when she asks me to do things.
29 Sep 09
Hi Swadey, She was the same, treated me like a subordinate, even though i was good at my job, and better qualified than her...it drove me mad!! She was not even my boss or anything, so it made it worse. I feel sorry for you, i know exactly how you feel. I bet you want to lose it on her!...i did in the end, but it should not come to that, they should not be allowed to act like that. I know how you feel, and it is stressful :((
• United States
29 Sep 09
It sounds like this girl has some internal issues she needs to sort out. Not the kind of person you want to have in an office environment. Maybe she should get a job working alone until she can adjust to working compatibly with others. I have never been in a situation where this has affected me, but I have seen it. My first job out of college I worked in an office with about 6 people. One of the girls in the office was the same as the girl you described. She was always accusing her co-workers of doing this or that and she wasn't even a top level manager. We were all entry-level positions. Since I was a football player and was rather large I think she was intimidated by me and left me alone. Still it was horrible to see her react with others. She was eventually moved to an office that supported only two people. Luckily, the other person in her new office was her boss.
29 Sep 09
I was told she was jealous of me, as i had a nice house and family, and i even let her stay with us, if we had a works night out. Then she tried to accuse me of cheating on my hubby, at a party. he was there!! LOL, so a few of my co workers told her to pack it in!! She came to work on my dept, after another girl left, (whom we got on great) and she startr with her antics....organising my shifts..wtf? and telling me what to do, or not to do. I complained loads to the manager, as she even overuled HER, (and got away with it), its a long story, but it ended nasty. She had her finger in my face, in the office, i told her to get her damn finger out of my face, or i will put her through the wall.. My manager never reported her, but an onlooker did, but i had walked by now, but the managing director found out, and my manager was hauled in apparently. They wanted me back, but no way! as she was still there. She should have been fired on the spot, but she wasn't..
• China
29 Sep 09
I have the similar situation with you ! But I think the reason of the problem is both of us. As me,I must frank mine felling that mine friend can know what I think. If anything is changed,I don't think she is the person worth of my true heart.
29 Sep 09
Dont give your true heart, if she cannot handle your honesty, she is not worth it :(
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yes I have been in situtation like this and have been put in that situation to be the bossy one which I hated but saved a lot of stress for the company by putting me in that postion. They put me in that postion for I was a worker and made sure things got done so they gave me the people that were slackers and this was there chance to either straighten up or for me to drive them out. If they didnt do there part I would mark it down of course I went the long mile most of the time and gave them a few chances before I gave up on them and wrote everything they didnt do up and after so many they were fired unless I would agree to retrain them from the get go and that did not usually happen very well for once someone who learns one way it is very hard to get them retrained to know and do another. I ended up walking after 4 years of this over one new manager that was bi-polar and instantly the stress was lifted and I felt so much better. I hated leaving the others that were true workers in that spot but I just could not take anymore stress from it with everything else was going on at the time. I was made crew trainer but that was not the point of getting a raise the whole point was for people to do what they were hired for. Now as for the one who stressed me out bossing me was also at the same job and I was to be bossing her which I did begin to rain in on her and she would get so upset especially when I was promoted over her. We are still friends but can't stand her stories one way then five minutes later different. I have moved from that state to another and find this goes on everywhere this company is. (McDonald's of course) Hope this helps you understand and know others have this also.
29 Sep 09
I bet she hated you getting promoted over her :-)) yes, i am realising, this goes on a lot, it makes you realise, how common a problem it is. Thanks for sharing...
@manong05 (5028)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yes I had been through the same experiece years ago and the guy really made my life miserable. I was put in a situation where it takes away concentration and drains too much mental energy. In the end, I tried to win him as a friend and fortunately I succeeded. That was better than resigning and let him win. I know that was not an easy thing to do, I guess, I was just fortunate.
29 Sep 09
That is good you could do that. I became to despise this woman, and her attitude. I was also drained, and stressed, and still ignore her to this day. She is a horrible person, i choose to ignore her completely. I am glad you got sorted though ;(
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yes i did!! When i was abroad to work for a company there is this woman who my friend also who backfighted me then. I did not know that she is really having uneasy feeling when seeing me being friendly to everybody. She is so selfish that she don't want me to have lots of friends. It's really strssful to have that kind of friend whom you trust with all of your heart but in the end will just give you a headache.
29 Sep 09
With some friends, you dont need enemies, its a fact!
@thaMARKER (2504)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
not really stress but someone from is really bothering me whenever he arrives at work. we're part of an email team (email support). we recieve, analyze and respond to important emails. but when he's around, he's so noisy. bad thing is, he's sitting next to my station. whenever someone's talking and i'm reading, i get distracted. i hate it.
29 Sep 09
Tell him to shurrup!! LOL, Joking aside, that would annoy me also ;(
@JenInTN (27516)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Oh yes..I have had to work with bosses that breathed down my neck. I have also had to deal with favoritism before and that's no fun either. Sounds like you had a manager that didn't have a clue as to handle the situation. I think that is the problem with a lot of places. Their management is not prepared. If there is ever anyone that trys to "boss" me I am always very polite in saying..Excuse me..when was it you started signing my check?..lol...I have also asked my manager before if it was them or the other person that was to let me know my duties. That usually nips it in the bud. Bosses don't like it when they think someone is moving in on their role.
29 Sep 09
Good tips...lol.. Ooh, she even overuled the manager, and the manager was told. She was furious!! but did not confront her???? I think you are right, she had no idea how to manage, when it came down to it.
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yes and the worst thing was that I quit my job because of her. She is my ant my uncles sister and we worked together in my uncles company doing full finish painting and she would always want to tell me what to do and how to do things when I had two hears more of experience than her. She also always got into my personal business and she talked about it with everyone especially her boyfriend. She would even talk about the times that I went to the restroom because I have always had a constipation problem so you can have an idea.
29 Sep 09
That is truly nasty of her. I dont think i could work with family, she sounds pretty horrible to do that hun.
29 Sep 09
yeah. I think there is always that person in our life, in our work that tries our patience so much. Thank God, I am very patient although I am really pissed off deep inside.
29 Sep 09
I cant handle it...i get to snapping point :(
29 Sep 09
Hi Helen, What was your manager, man or a mouse? why was she allowed to do that to people and get away with it for a while? to me that is bullying and she should have been dismissed instead of you and the others leaving, thank goddness I did come across anyone like that as I was the boss, can hire and fire staff and had done many time. Love and hugs. Tamara
29 Sep 09
Tam, the manager was gutless, she did not know how to deal with her, but she told me, that this girl is out of order, and to ignore her. ignore her???? No way! After i left, she went on to bully someone else, and was still working there, throwing her weight around. They lost 3 good workers because of her, so their loss Tam.