After 2 years it just comes to an abrupt end.

Canada
September 30, 2009 1:34am CST
Probably the worst thing I've experienced so far in my life. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday and I'm stuck back at my mom's house. I pretty much have no idea what I'm supposed to do with myself now. I want to quit my job, scream, hit something, cry, hug him. There is so much going through my head and I don't know how to handle any of it.. and I need to see him but I know it won't happen. It shouldn't happen. He's going through a lot. Just had surgery and kinda rushed into it without considering things or talking it over with anyone and he's got a lot on his mind with that and us and blah blah blah. And he just told me he simply wasn't feeling it anymore. And now he's telling me he feels like an idiot for doing what he did and he wants to work it out but go slow and I don't know what to do!! Seriously, any and all advice will help
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Whatever the reason for the surgery you can better believe he has not been himself. If a person is worried about something or doesn't feel good it can and will affect their relationships. I am not clear as to why he thought he should break up with you. I don't think you shared that reason he gave you. Regardless you need to take a very close look at what was going on in your relationship before all this came about. Seldom to almost never does a good solid relationship break up with no warning signs. It does happen but only because someone has been putting on a show. When we think we love someone and believe they love us we can very easily not see what is right in front of us. If it is true that he had lost the feeling for you it is not likely that will change. However it all depends upon what caused that. Our moods and personal problems effect everything we do and if he can go into surgery without thinking it out he could leave you for the same reason. If he has regained himself then he may very well want you back. But it may not be a good idea for you, for so many reasons not the least of which is you don't need someone in your life you can't trust. Be very very careful where you go with this.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Hi, katisaurus. Breaking up with someone always make us feel sad whether it was a mutual decision or not. In your case, it sounds like your boyfriend just have a little too much of everything and is feeling really confused. You just have to respect his decision and continue supporting him. Because, maybe, sooner or later he would want to have a some heart-to-heart talk with you again. For the time being, use the your time away from him to reflect and take care of yourself. Hope you'll be ok soon, girl.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
First of all I am very sad to know what had happened to you. A break-up is always painful. It's a pain that needs time to be healed. There is really no permanent thing in this world. And sometimes, life is really mysterious. Don't cry too much, coz you are not the only one suffering that kind of pain. And what you should put on your mind is, it's not yet the end of the world. And there's still a lot of things to live for. Keep busy on doing other things that is not related with your ex-boyfriend. Continue your life. Be strong. Happy myLotting!
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
what you feel is common and natural after a break-up. we become confused, we want to do things, we feel so many things, we deny that it is actually happening, and they are all indications of what we are going through - sudden loss of a part of our lives. two years is a bit long for a relationship to take root and touch our lives. i know it is difficult for you and going to be difficult for days. but soon, believe me, things will be alright. you will be fine. believe.
• United States
30 Sep 09
I agree with what's already been said. It is very painful at first and some times can be quite overbearing. However, give it some time and things will eventually get better. The last thing you want to do is rush back into his arms. As difficult as that may be you have to realize that he broke up with you first. Even if he regrets it now there had to have been an issue with the relationship that caused him to break up in the first place. Until you guys resolve that issue there is a good chance he'll break up with you again since the problem was never solved. Give it some time, give each other some space when it feels right talk about things slowly and before you know it you will know what you need to do.
• Ireland
30 Sep 09
Oh katisaurus you poor thing! Breaking up with someone you care about can be one of the worst things. You lose a friend and a lover so its a double whammy. The hardest part is trying to figure out why they decided to end it in the first place. I have been in a similar situation to yours before. TRUST is the biggest thing you have to oversome to ensure a relationship will work. you need to be able to trust that he truelly knows he's feelings for you. COMMUNICATION is the next big thing. You both need to talk to each other to find out why you split up. What you need to do is stop communication for a while even if its only a couple of weeks. Then meet up and discuss what went wrong. With a clear head you will know if you trust him and love him.