Are you in LOVE?

@vingyan06 (2486)
Malaysia
October 2, 2009 12:09pm CST
Love is so complex and of course it is really difficult to explain it. It is such a strange, wonderful experience that nobody really has codified what it is yet. Thus it is one of the most difficult questions to answer. One of the most common questions you ask yourself is "How do you know if it is really love?" How do you find out that the emotions that you have for a person is love and not just anything else. Love has many forms so it is quite possible that you may be confused while deciding whether you love a person or not. Well though this is a difficult and tricky... Are you in love? Do you like being with this person? Do you feel excited when you think about him? Do you miss him when he is not around? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you think about him all the time and wish he were around? Do you think life without him will be impossible? Do you wait for the moment when you go to meet him? Share and discuss..
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
If can answer all the seven questions with YES, most likely you are IN LOVE! But I have only have one YES out of seven Questions above...LOL That's why I will encourage love before marriage. It will be truly a blessings to have found 'LOVE' and expecially 2 parties really in love. Not one sided love. Since I like to watch love movies, the above 7 YES and one more FINALE Question...that is :~ Does your heart beat faster whenever he is near...do you got jealous when he/she with an opposite gender? IF YES, then you are indeed IN LOVE DEEPLY....
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
Hi . . . for that suggestion you put about that jealousy thing, i was and i still get when this girl i know though she is only a good friend oh mine, i have been trying to understand it, i just hope i am not in to this girl, i dun wanna fall in love now, i have my studies and all, the funny part is that she knows that i frown each time she talks about other guys! and she takes it lightly and gosh she admits she like to tease me with talking about other guys, i can't help it lol . . . she is a little crazy i guess and i think for sometime i fell for her but now i am letting go of her, i don't want to fall in love with someone like that, she will be my good friend though, and i don't know if she likes me that way(no she doesn't of course, she talks sweet with all the boys! for once i thought even she was being special to me but no.) but if she does then she has to tell otherwise i am leaving and will be just friends, oh what complex this love or attraction is, sometimes we can't understand the way we behave... i really liked this girl and i think she knows and she kinda plays around teasing me talking about others boys doesn't make it look like she deserves me... fair enough i have already lost most of the feelings for her and i don't care if she thinks about me coz i don't think she deserves me... lolz this is funny!
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Dear voldrox, Yes, you definitely have a feeling for her. But you are wise and practical too. At times being good friends is a great way to spend time together and undertand each other better. As life journey goes on, perhaps after both of you has a stable career, love may just bloom. If you are meant for each other, you will be. If not, stay as friends are great too :)
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I would defintiely say I am in love. I'm in love with the girl of my dreams and she is amazingly beautiful both inside and out. I don't think there is a person out there that could fit me more perfectly then this beautiful lady that I have currently. I feel blessed and thankful to be able to spend so much time with her. Everything is perfect as long as I have her.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
Hey, keep it up dude, you both are going to have a nice time together . . . m glad.
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@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
Hello Jambi, Glad that you love the girl. And it is amazing that she is your dream girl friend. When we in love with some one, we will for sure want to spend more time with them. More ever if we don't see each other for long, we will miss them, haha, Thus is what we call we are in LOVE! Hope you will have a good relationship with her and happy in love!
@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Right now I feel like I am in love with someone. I am excited everytime we get to talk or when he sends me a txt msg. I love how he makes all his msgs high priority with me and mine the same. I love being around him and can't wait til I can be. I miss him terribly because he travels for his job. I do want to spend my life with him, and have for a while now.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
hi . . . i am in the same situation, hasn't been long i have known her, i have been special to her always, gave her my attention always, always loved talking to her and meeting her, i thought even she was special to me but wait . . . she is special to others as well, it is time i let her go, she is not for me... i deserve someone better, no remorse and no bad feelings what so ever coz she will still be my good friend, i am glad i could know how she is and i guess she didn't know that i had fell for her though she has a doubt i know, yeah but she is not all that bad, she is still a nice girl to me but not someone who i can live with or share my love with plz.
@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Love isn't easy...it's hard... and i believe true love exists if God will allow it...
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
...... God has an enormous heart! So much love for us all that we don't understand at times, we are blind to his blessings! But yeah since we are made in his image we have the ability to forget all the differences and love... true love that is.
• Mexico
3 Oct 09
I think love is not just how you feel but if you're prepared to share everything with your partner. Love can't be selfish. Sometimes i was just 'interested' in some person but then i found it was jus a phisical attraction, not love based in this point of view.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
hmm physical attraction . . . i wonder if that is the case with me with this girl now. . . nopes! i just like her very much, hmm i guess she will be my good friend though, i have had a hard time understanding my feelings for this girl, it's like i was attracted to her very much but my conscience tells me something is wrong and it is better she just be good friends, and so i am trying to let go of those feelings for her, i know it is kinda weird but that is the actual case with me here . . .also my conscience tells me that i can't spend my life with someone like her. . . definitely relationships can be so complex!
@today2009 (160)
• China
3 Oct 09
Hello: you say right.love is so comple and of course it is really difficult to explain it. Love there are many different means of expression.Let us not hurt the love of people.Love is not to say the mouth ,toyour heat to understand.Do you agree with my point of view?
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
... i see it my friend, love is not something that comes from your mouth but in fact it comes from the heart!
@Eisenherz (2908)
• Portugal
3 Oct 09
No, I'm not in love. Yes, I'd like to be with that person. Excited wouldn't be the exact word when thinking of her. I miss her all the time. I'd like to spend the rest of my life with her. I wish she was around more often but understand she has other priorities. Life withouth her isn't impossible as there's daily living proof of that but is sure isn't as sweet as it'd be if she was around. And yes, I do feel anxious whenever we meet or talk..
• India
2 Oct 09
yes you are right in saying that love is a complex thing and it is really difficult to explain what exactly love is or rather it is difficult to explain whether you have fallen in love or not or it is merely an infatuation. Love, what I think is something when you can realise that your frequency, feelings etc are superimposed on somebody else's. Thats what I feel love is.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
infatuation is term i should apply to what is happening to me i guess, yeah you are right!
@biman_s (1060)
• India
3 Oct 09
I have to say yes to all your questions. I have been in love for the past 3 years with the most wonderful girl in the whole world. She means a lot to me. She makes me feel complete and make my heart go wild. I always keep thinking about her as she keeps thinking about me all the time. We are planning to get married pretty soon.
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Well I understand what you propose to be discussed and have opened for sharing. Not sure I want to share much detail, but I must say its something known in your heart. Many of use second guess it and interpret it wrong for our own sakes, but ultimately is a clear concept in our hearts.
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
I like the way you asked about how a person feels if they are in love or what. I am in a relationship for more than 4 years and i am still very in love. If you ask me how i knew it was love, i really don't know how to answer you as to, if was just the feeling.. I was practically waiting to talk to him. Like all your question, i would say YES to all, as that was how i felt... The feeling toward the guy i am dating now, was so great. I sometime ask myself what is love, but i just don;t get an answer, because all i knew was i just wanted this guy and i feel so comfortable with him. It was him who made me feel so different. Guess that was love for me. not looks, not money.. just feelings of wanting each other and being myself around him.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
not his looks, not his money, . . but his being around you, the way he makes you feel! there, you have the proof... i am sure you can't exactly put those feelings in words . . . have a nice time both of you.
@Jhaszy (234)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
I have been in love many times..then i found my one great love as they say,after yrs of praying..but eventually i lost him too..and its been more than a year,until now theres not a day that i dont think of him..guess this is what they call the lasting love..if he is not coming back then so be it but i dont think im going to fall again to another...
@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
I am feeling sorry for you . . .
• India
2 Oct 09
love is so hard to explain and so easy to find everywhere from a little dog to a giant elephant
@aprylmay (50)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I recently watched a scientific documentary (idk which one, sry) about natural attraction and evolution. The film discussed scent as one of the major attractors. It also mentioned that we're attracted to our genetic opposites. - So if our gene pool has genes A, B, and C (for example), then we're more than likely attracted to someone with a different selection such as D, E and F. Oddly, our noses can smell this fact. They proved it (as well as can be done with just a TV) by putting a group of 50 females and males in a room. The subject was to then go around sniffing everyone and report back with the "nicest" (fragrance free) smelling person. The individual chosen was actually the subjects genetic match as shown with a computer diagnosis and data sheet showing the genetic differences. Also, to note, the "foulest" smelling individual had 98% matching genes. On a more personal note, my girlfriend is MADLY in love with me, and constantly says I smell good (though I would beg to differ). Even though her best friend is more of an intellectual and moral match, she prefers my smell/love over her friends. That's gotta mean something... Right?
@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
something interesting mhmm well looks like my best friend is just an ideal match for me, i am quiet and she fills the gap but yeah well now she only seems to my best friend after all, wow she doesn't smell foul though... just kidding.. yeah well she says she likes you then she does.. . . . all the best:)
@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Oct 09
k finally i am writing it down... . . . as you have been seeing, i am going a little crazy here commenting to everyone in the first page, that was a few hours ago and i guess i am a little silent now, well it your question vingyan that put me in to a lot of thinking about the thing that has been happening with me, i honestly have not been able to understand it, okay i met this girl and i liked her and she liked, it's all like good friends, i wanted to talk to her more, she has got the habbit of texting a lot, i didn't have that habbit and now she put me into that habbit, i text her a lot, it is just a common thing to her i guess i mean she texts her other friends a lot too but just a little bit more to me, i haven't been able to understand whether she likes me or not, it is really strange i know, coz it seems like i have also begun to really like her, we talk a lot too but i guess she has assumed it as good friends but i guess i am thinking a lot, more than what she cares for i mean i guess i am thinking something more than friends and it makes me want to talk more to her, but something in me stops myself from going forward with the matter, maybe it's my conscience, it doesn't want me to allow her to be that close to me but it also drives me crazy at times. . . the first time she mentioned the boy she admires in her classroom i was so angry or i guess i was jealous of that fellow, now she knows that it bugs me if she talks about other boys and i honestly don't know what she thinks about that, of course she has got a small hint that i am beginning to like her but she is her usual self, in fact she teases me at times, she is taking it lightly, hmm probably i should know that she doesn't have such kind of feelings for me. . . but then why does she miss my texts and she also likes to talk to me very much, she likes to talk me more than any other guy, i mean am i taking it too serious or secretly even she likes and will not let me know, that is what is making me feel strange, if she doesn't like me she would told me so when she got to know that it bugs me when she talks about other boys... wel well well . . . lol . . . i have been to upset to write it over here i guess, i am still in the middle trying not to think much of her and i guess i will overcome it soon, honestly she is not the type of girl i really wanted coz she talks sweet to all the boys and i was thinking she was being special to me, but then leave the matter. . . it is quiet more complex than what i have mentioned here, actually i had also made her cry when i was breaking up the friendship with her but i finally apologized, coz it seemed to me like she didn't want to ever see me again and so i said fine leave me and then she was hurt, we were on IM at that moment and so i didn't get to know that she was hurt but she let me know and i really felt so bad for her and i told her i will not repeat that and wouldn't leave her just like that.... oh well i am always thinking to break up my strange story well .... but finally it's over i will not type anymore, just felt the need to take it out on someone and so anyway finally with your discussion : 1! no i don't know if i am in love to be honest. 2! yes i definitely like her 3! i am not excited to think about her but she makes me happy when i think about her 4! no not really i don't miss her much 5! i am not sure about spending my life with her, she fills in so many gaps though 6! yes many a times i think about her, life impossible nay :) 7! yes i wait for her, i like to meet her and have a small walk with in the evenings i just hope i don't fall in to trouble, everything should be alright with time, ok i am not really much in to her but i have to know if she likes me that's all... sounds confusing i know . . hey thanks for putting in the discussion, hopefully some one would read this all ....lol
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
3 Oct 09
Hi vingyan... Can i know if you are in love buddy? I realised that i am in love with a guy, when i could think of nothing else other than him... every single thing that i see reminded me of him... i felt him to be my life...and i found myself in him... i realised that there could be no one else to care for me as how he does(and how he is doing now)... the care that he showered on me could never be better than anyone else's.... i finally flt his love for him in his eyes... so i recognised that i am in love with him... and i very badly love him.... happy mylotting....
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I am in love because I have feel something different that excites me do something different. I'm also inspire and trying to look good because I had this special feelings. I am happy every time she ask me a sincere questions and ask me I'd already eaten my breakfast, lunch and dinner.I am so happy and in love.
• China
3 Oct 09
well,as far as I know,love is pretty good for many people.Now I am in love,and my BF is very nice.However,sometimes I was not happy coz he just send the messages day and night.Because we are not in the same place.I am a student while he is working.I don't like to be around him everyday,while he like it.So we are disputing with this problem.
@ayebelle (367)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Im definitely not in Love. I dont know if i do still believe on possbility of love what may bring. It just that maybe because, Its not my time to be in love again at this moment. Im very cautious now. If i met new guy, i offer him friendship then that's it, if he likes me to be his girlfriend i refused even though i like him too. i dont know what's wrong with me. Maybe its not the right time.
@chinali (48)
• China
3 Oct 09
Really ,it's a feeling nothing with the look, money and something else.The true love is pure and wonderful.In this complicated world,most of the people are so hard to find it, but it seems that there is no one can explain it clearly.And in fact ,who can tell it clearly!