Looking for some advice..your words will help me to decide my future.

@kitty42 (3924)
United States
October 6, 2009 1:35pm CST
Before I share let me first say, I have been caring for the sick since Febuary of 1989 , I must admit I am really good at it, but after a while the job began to stress me out, the desire was gone so a couple of years ago I gave it up, I don't really miss it, but I know that was my calling. Right, so yesterday I was waiting for the bus, this old lady came with her walker and sat down, when I saw the bus coming I asked her what bus was she waiting for, she said 116 cool, same for me, so I helped her, when I got on the bus this guy said to me you will be blessed for what you did, I said oh that is sweet, but that comes natural to me. Today, I dropped my grandson of at school, his class was outside, I waited inside but he did not come in, so I went out to check they must have went in the other door, so I said well since I am here I will walk this way, the corner on the right was closer to the corner on the left which is my usual route, so I opted for the right, the whole time walking I am thinking about how bad I had to p, my mom lives close so I knew it would be o.k, as I am walking I see this old lady she asked me to help her cross the street, of course I said yes, as we are walking she is really wobbly I felt bad, I said how far are you going she said a couple of blocks, so fine I will go a little out of my way what the heck, as we are walking she said she has to go to the bank, I said o.k I will take you there then leave because i have to go to the bathroom, we get in the bank no security or else I would have left, so I waited she said I am o.k still wobbling I said well let me watch you and then we will see, no way, she had to go to the post office which is two blocks from mom so no problem, we walking people smiling and saying good morning, i know they thought I was her home attendant but I didn't know this lady, anyway we get to the post office she said can you get the money order for me, I did, can you fill it out I did, mind you shacking my leg the whole time, I walked her out to the bench where she said she sit, she said god bless you countless times which was great, but no soon she sat down I had to run. My question is could this be a sign that maybe I should go back into my field or was this just a matter of being at that right place at the right time?
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@bunnybon7 (43531)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Oct 09
i definately think thats where you belong. you are like me and have a very careing heart. i think when people become elderly and get disabled these are the kind of special people they need. it was also my calling and i didnt even find it out till i was 50yrs old it was hard because i saw 2 up to the point of being there when they passed away and yes it broke my heart but was still the best paying and most rewarding job i ever had. i wish i was still able to do it. i've seen so many uncaring people with that job and all they cared about was getting their money. i think there is a big need for people like you. to many just dont care. yes, i've even had some pretty tough mean characters but even dealt with them well.
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Hello my friend Wow that is horrible, he may have shared his feelings with them as well, maybe she thought he would change your mind, either that or the money issue but I don't understand why you could not get to say bye, that poor man heart must have been broken no telling what she said to him, wow thats sad my friend, sorry you went through that I know you were heart broken as well, to be a part of someones life for so long to have it end like this really stinks. Thanks for sharing that my friend, wow
@bunnybon7 (43531)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Oct 09
yes i think it was one of the many things that caused me to get sick. it was one more thing to greive about. glad its all over, 4yrs ago and im moving on now thanks for your concern sweetie.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
16 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend I could imagine something like that making you sick, so glad you were able to get past it, that is really hard my friend, I feel really bad for both of you, I am sure he missed your company, anyway no sense dwelling on it, nothing we can do to change the past, take care of yourself my friend, you have a great family to love and care for you, and you have your friends here in mylot, So glad you shared this with me, smoochessss[/b]
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi Kitty. I think only you can truly answer your own question. Some things I noted: it stressed you out enough to encourage you to leave the field, and you have not missed it. But...the recent incidents you came across probably have you wondering if this is indeed a calling you should re-enter. Perhaps you could do a day or so a week of volunteer work that would be similar...just to see if you love it or if you find it more stressful than healthy. Those are my thoughts, and best of luck with your choice! Karen
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend You know I value your opinion, i did about as much volunteering as I can afford to do, I really need to work maybe part time that seems to be where my head is at, I had some really good advice, and honestly my friend, I did this long enough, not like I am getting any younger, all the lifting and pulling up will be really hard on my back, if I go to the union maybe they will put me on a floor that is not so hard, maybe this is why I got burned out so fast, I always end up on a hard floor, or with a difficult patient, story of my life, my last floor job had 52 bed ridden patients, left that when I went to nursing school we know that story, work at a job for 12 hours with 1 patient, not horrible but not great either, trying to stay awake was hard, the staff never wanted to give us a break so I had to call the supervisor countless times, I was entitled and I made sure I had it, how do you expect me to stay awake if I can't get air and drink coffee, I was able to deal with that until a new agency came in and took over, so I did home care that is where the nightmare began. I gave so much of myself in this field, only time will tell what happens now, but I really need to go back to work. Thank you my friend, are you feeling better?
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6 Oct 09
I like the volunteering idea.. but then it's entirely up to you to make the final decision
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• United States
7 Oct 09
Hm, so you need work that pays. Understandable! I would think carefully about getting into the exact same field with the same problems. As you said, perhaps you can get assigned a less harrowing floor! And part time is a good option. You know yourself best, sweetie, so listen to that gut instinct. Hugs, Karen
• United States
7 Oct 09
I would take it as a sign, I mean if you start again and find you aren't happy you can always choose another line of work... Think about this. Did it feel right, and proper in your heart while you did it? Was it something you enjoyed doing? (Even though you were uncomfortable.) If you did, I'd take it as a good sign that you're ready to start back in that field again. I'm chronically ill, and I can honestly say having caring person to take care of you makes it a lot easier. I've dealt with so many callous people, who just honestly don't care and shouldn't be nurses. I've dealt with doctors like that, too. So I'm betting that you would put whoever you took care of at ease because of your kind heart. Like I said, if it feels right, go for it!
• Boston, Massachusetts
7 Oct 09
hi pixieelf, i can feel the same...it can be a sign for her to reflect on. kitty needs to know what's really in her heart, pray for it and follow whatever is it that will make her happy as she fulfill what ever mission that maybe.
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello pixieelf I am so sorry to hear you are not well, its so good reading your response because you know what its like dealing with people who don't care about their job, that stinks I hope you have someone caring to look after you now. It felt right but more so because it was the right thing to do, it felt natural not like ohhh spookey but thank goodness I was there right, I asked the lady why she did not have a aide, she said she let her go really sad, this woman needs help she should never walk around by herself, I will never just walk past an older person that is by themselves looking like they are struggling without offering my assistance, my heart will never allow me to do that, some say yes others say no but I feel good because I asked, it scares me I would want someone to help my mom if she looked like she needed help. I will try it part time for sure, just hope that this time things are not so bad. Thanks for sharing this my friend, I hope you will be o.k and have someone really great there to assist you.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
10 Oct 09
some people have a specail gift, this could be a sign or this could be for real you are one of the few who has lot of respect for people. what they say is true you will be bless in so many ways through out your life. i would really think about getting back into for sure. i know its a hard job i took care of my grand mother off and on. you just rock for sure..
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
15 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend Thank you so much for your kind words, I know taking care of the sick is a very good job for people that actually love caring for others, and I do god knows I do, but sometimes I work too hard and that burns me out, I had a long break so doing it part time will be a good start for me right now, glad you were there for your grandmother that also says alot about you Thanks again my friend, smoochesss[/b]
• India
7 Oct 09
i think so you need to start ur job again i beleieve you are really good at that so that's why its the job for u. i know some times the person need the break and you already have it. its time to get back on your job. well you need to listen your heart wht it say and wht you think? and then make the decision.......
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello I like that time to get back on your job lol, I will part time its a good job but hard on you mentally and physically, I put in many years part time is all they get from me lol then again who knows what will happen if I work somewhere that is not too hard I may do longer hours we shall see. Thanks for sharing lol
@Wizzywig (7858)
6 Oct 09
It sounds like its just a question of getting the balance right. You know in your heart that this is the kind of work you want & maybe, need, to do. You also know its second nature to you to be helping and caring for others. I feel thatyou really want to return to the caring profession but, from past experience, you are well aware of the stresses that brings. Go back to the job you love BUT, make sure that you are also taking good care of yourself! Do fewer hours than you did before and make time for your own relaxation.
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my friend This coming from the wonderful health care worker how is your job? when I read about your job you made me want to do this again, if I go back it will be part time for sure, still wondering, I will sleep on it, I need to work thats for sure, just a matter of what I will do at this point, going to the union makes sense, this way I can explain my feelings and hopefully they will put me some where that will not burn me out so easily. I am starting to realize its so much me being meant to do this job, its more me being good at my job, I will be good at anything I do, I am great with my grandson I am great with my family, I am great here responding to discussions, I am just great lol I hope you are still doing this work, you are really good at your job as well, at least if I am not there, you will be. Thank you for sharing my friend.
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my dear friend kitty You asked this question. I think you know the right answer. You have that gift to help people. People can trust you and feel comfortable with you. The real question is...Do you want to do that kind of work full time or just something on the side? I would say that there is communities that need some help. Go check it out girl. Oh yeah by the way..When you got home did you have to change clothes...LOL...LOL.. Have a great day...
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend LMAOOOO, if she didn't sit down faster I would have to change, I don't think she heard the bathroom comment or chose not to hear it who knows,my intentions were to leave her at the bank or post office but it didn't work out that way, I know I am destined for something when it comes to helping others not sure this is what it is, time will tell, hope sooner rather than later, I want to have groups for woman give them a place to talk and try to enlighten them and help wherever needed, hopefully one day I can make that happen,so much that goes through my mind if its meant it will be. Thanks my friend, did you finish your work around the camper, I bet it look so pretty.
• United States
7 Oct 09
hugs - bear hugs
Shoot kitty..LOLI never got to do anything. I ended up watching some stupid show on TV and then spent more time on here. My youngest called and he thinks he has found a houes that is for rent. He going to try and find out the info on it and call me back. I hope it is for real..I will let you know for sure when I find out...This hug for you for doing a good deed...
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend I pray to god this works out for you, I know you will find something when you do make sure you share it with us, you deserve to find a beautiful place to call home, I am going to be extremely happy when this happens, I can feel it happening can you feel it, lets picture it together, I see you smiling and fixing it up hubby watching you with pride, you dancing and singing throughout the house just enjoying the scenery, oh yes my friend I can see it Smoochessss what a nice hug, I needed that.
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
hi kitty friend^^;; finally i'm back.i'm in friend's house just to use internet and maybe be up till dawn before i go home anyway, wow! kitty friend is really a humanitarian. that's why u always open the doors for others and always there to help the needy. u are really a care giver hmm...i can say that might be sign calling u back again to what u should be doing. u really have the patience to care and deal with people. i envy u for that. trust your gut feeling and follow what your heart wants. it's only u who can decide what u want to do. goodluck my friend^^;;
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend What happened to your computer? mine shut down a little after 7 every day lol then it comes back when I am to sleepy to do anything really stinks. I will follow my gut, it tells me to do it part time and see what happens from their, that is all I am willing to give, all that lifting and pulling and weighing and everything else that comes with the job is too much for my body to stand, I have to look out for me first and foremost other wise I will be no good for anyone. So good to see you, smoochessss
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
my laptop is alive now, just my internet is still making my life more difficult oh..yeah, u have to consider the lifting..etc. I have a friend who is working in UK for the same job and she mostly complains for backache. your health is also important... hmmm...part-time may do
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend Yes you are right, part time will have to due or else it can't be done, surprise I don't suffer from back pain now, whenever someone feel call me, any heavy lifting call me, because I am thick and tall, heck with the fact I am a female whats funny is this is just another aspect I really didn't think about this part till responding to someone here, the job is hard and people don't really understand especially my family. The two of always having connection problem, really sucks. Thank you my friend.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Oct 09
It could be a sign. Did it feel right to you? Go with your gut here, I think.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my friend Taking care of people is second nature to me, even when I walk with my mom or anyone that is a little older then me, my first instinct is to look out for them, hold their hand, make sure they don't trip its crazy how I do this, this lady said god bless you so much to me today, it really made me wonder, their may be some elderly people that really need me. Thank you so much my friend, I am really thinking about this.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Oct 09
It really does sound as if you're suited for it.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my friend I know that people talk to hear themselves, but my friend if you can only see me, when I walk into my patients room even if they have a room full of family its like I fit right in, its amazing the energy that follows me when I am taking care of the sick, sometimes when I have a patient that gave me a hard time, they beg me to come back,they say please I am so sorry, please come back, thank you so much, I always know they will change all I have to do is touch them, I will go back part time. Thank you so much, I know my discussion was alot to read, thanks for taking the time my friend.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
6 Oct 09
From what I hear it is one of the most stressful fields of work to be in. I have a friend that is in that field and she has come and gone from it several times. When she starts to feel burned out, she takes a break and does a different line of work. Only you can decide if you really want to get back into that line of work as a living. I like helping people also but I really don't think I could do the daily care as a way of life. I did take care of my mom full time for the last few months of her life and I can really see how one could burn out quickly with it. Its hard to say. Maybe you are destined to just be helpful to those in need that don't seem to have any help such as the people in your examples.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my friend More than likely yes may not spend the whole day, but I will definately check in for sure lol, I also put out a christmas wish in hope to see 300 more post christmas morning, lamooo hey you never know a girl can dream, still this all depends on how things go, if I am at my moms then I will not get online, if I am home yep yep kitty will be here with bells on. Smoochesss my friend.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend Every time I try to respond my post turn up wrong, I just lost another one, I will think about my future glad you understand how hard this is. so sorry but every time I type a responses I lose it. Thank you so much for your response, please forgive me for this, this is my third response to this post.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
My post have to be copied because they don't go through, so you have a response to another friends discussion, then when I tried to send you another I copied and the same thing came up so I lost what I typed, I feel really bad, so sorry this is happening
@celticeagle (123506)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Oct 09
You have this kind of assistance ingrained in your person. There is a big difference in helping a old woman in need and doing this all the time. If it stresses you out don't go back to it. If it gives you true meaning and makes you feel great then by all means go back to it. But, it is your life and you need to do what feels right to you. You left the attendant type of job for a reason. Don't forget that.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
9 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend I am thinking about doing it part time only, one of my friends reminded me of the fact things have not changed when I return I will still be stressed, this is something I did not think about, so part time is safe, if it becomes too much I will transfer to another department. Thank you.[/b]
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@celticeagle (123506)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 09
That sounds like a good plan. Let me give you this bit of advice. Get your rest and be sure you are taking a good (no wax or other non-nutrient ingredients) Vitamin B Complex. This is for your mood. Helps with stress. Take care. Hope it all works for you.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
15 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend Thank you so much for this advice, I will make a mental note, maybe this will make a big difference, who knows. Thanks for the information, take care my friend, smoochesss[/b]
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• Boston, Massachusetts
7 Oct 09
hi kitty friend, you are such a wonderful and kind-hearted person. you have that heart and passion of helping and taking good care of the aged and of people who are really in need of help. i admire for doing that. maybe this is your life and maybe this is what god really wants you to do...your mission and it shows my friend on how you handle situation like what you've shared. human and social service if really very stressful but you can always find ways to uonload, debrief and destress to be energized again. seek for wisdom to discern what your really want and what will really make you happy. goodluck and hugs for you in anticipation for a best decision on this concern.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend i am so glad I shared this with you all, I know what has to be done, and it would have to be in my best interest, I do love caring for people but I do that daily with my family, and I must say my daughter is not easy, no matter how hard I try she does not appreciate me, and this is my problem, I give to much of myself in anything I do , the more you do the more people don't appreciate it, thats really sad but its true,I will never walk away from someone in need, but I wont let that be the reason for me to go into something that will in turn make me unhappy, you all have been so kind to me, reading this long discussion and responding with such kind words, is there really a wonder why mylot is the best thing since ice cream you all are great, you helped me so much. Thanks my wonderful friend, smoochessss give the boys a big hug from auntie kitty.
• Boston, Massachusetts
8 Oct 09
hi kitty, I can't say much this time...please feel my presence. I just want to give you a hug and hold your hand. Thanks for sharing and take care.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Hello my friend Is everything o.k or are you to busy? hope its the latter Smooochess my friend
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
7 Oct 09
Hiya sweets. I think you already know the answer to this and you have it sitting lying down in your heart. You are definitely a people person as I read along the lines, and your responses are always caring, friendly and wise. You'll make a great comeback for sure, and I'm positive that you will be happy. If you feel bored, you can always stop anytime. Just go with what your heart says for now, and go about with it. Good luck, yeah..
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend Thank you so much for your kind words, I had so much help from everyone here and that means alot to me, I will do it part time, if things don't work out then I know for sure I did all I can do and its time to move on to something else, I know I will be good at any job I take. there are some wonderful people here in mylot and I am so glad to be a part of it, I truly love helping people god knows I do, maybe I will be blessed with a good case this time or even a good floor if it is meant things will work out, if not that is it for me, going to the union would definately mean hospital work, I hope it works out. Thanks again, your kind words mean so much.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
8 Oct 09
You've certainly made a very wise choice about it. Part time sounds good enough and you can always come back to full time or stop if you decide to. Good luck and you are always welcome, sweets..
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Hello my friend Someone also reminded me of the fact if the job is too much I could always transfer to another department within the hospital now that could be a great thing so we shall see my friend, things are really looking up I know that much. Thank you so much
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
6 Oct 09
Oh, kity, this is such a hard one, and while you probably will get some good advice from your friends here, I believe, in the end you are the only one who can make this decision. Maybe caring on a part time basis would suit, but I don't know. I do know you will make the right decision if you let your heart, and your mind work together on thos. Good luck, and take care. Mike.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend Its really hard, I am so good at this job, my last patient was it, I said no more, its not easy my friend, my family tells me to go back because I have so much experience, but maybe doing this part time will make a difference, I have been out of work for a little while I need to go back, part time may be the answer. Thanks for sharing my friend
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
6 Oct 09
I'm sure you will make the right call, kitty, Take care. Mike.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my friend You see sometimes other peoples input really helps, part time never crossed my mind, now that is what I will do for sure, thanks for the advice I will go to the union and explain I can't work on these floors that will kill my back, its too much I had enough of that. we will see my friend. Thanks again.
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@DCLehnsherr (1041)
6 Oct 09
Hi Kitty, Wow you do sound like an amazingly caring person being able to do this for both those women, and being thanked so much for it as well. I am in awe. I do also happen to believe in signs and destiny, and I think that if this has happened after a long time of you not having these chances then it must mean something. My thought is that the best way to find out will be to see about finding a job that you want. If this is truly meant to be then somewhere there should be something that is what your heart is crying out for, maybe. I just wish you all the best with this and I hope it turns out. Come to that I wonder, did you have a destiny Feeling at any time of this, that would be a sure sign that this is what you are meant to do lol! Good luck though and I hope that everything will work out for the best in the end Dranz
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend To be honest with you, no destiny feeling at all, the only feeling I had was to use the bathroom I did what I did because the lady today needed help and to walk away would have worried me so much, she kept saying I have it, then in the same breath hold my hand, she should have had someone with her, I asked her why she don't have help she said she had someone but she was not good so she let her go, really sad, this woman is not able to walk alone, impossible, I would have helped anyone my friend I would ask the elderly if they need help, but someone younger would have to ask me because I would assume they don't need me. I am learning after posting this, that I will be good at any job, its not that caring for the sick makes me good, I am good because that is who I am, I need to do something that will make me happy, not so much hands on would be great, I would love to be the clerk where i get to help the family and the staff, I will ask about that when I go to the union, if not which they probably wont give me considering the need nurses aides, but we shall see, if I do decide to do that it will be part time for sure. How are you my friend? are you use to being home yet? Thanks for sharing my friend.
7 Oct 09
Hi Kitty, Wow I wish you luck seeing the union, I hope that they give you the news that you want. It is nice to see you have that belief in yourself back, I never noticed that before so it is nice to see it now. Never lose that All the best, Dranz
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my wonderful friend Hopefully in time you will know me better, there is so much that make up the person you respond too, sure we all have our ups and downs but this is not new, just apart of myself I have not shared is all, well now that i think of it I did post a discussion before about my work, that was one of my first discussions maybe you missed that one, I had so much good advice, things I didn't consider at all, its not so much the working with the elderly that makes the job hard, its the staff they whole system in general, like someone said what has changed? when I go back I will be faced with the same issues, that makes so much sense for some reason I didn't think about that, I want ot be happy in whatever job I decide to do, I was really unhappy doing this job, after giving it many years of my life. Thanks my friend.smoochesss
@eileenleyva (14271)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Helping someone is your nature. No matter what job you take or what path you try to venture, you would always be there assisting someone who heeds help. You are stressed out. Take a breather. Do something you have not done before. If there is an urge to go back to your old job, then you could always go back.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
23 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend You are so right, what ever is meant to be will be, either way I will always help whenever needed no matter what, really want to do something different anything besides this will be a challenge for me, and I welcome that, time will tell Thanks for your response.[/b]
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@eileenleyva (14271)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
Anytime. And may God hold you in the palm of His hands.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Hi kitty! It seems to me that you have a knack for caring for the elderly however, if it's not your calling because you basically have what I call "Ants in your pants" for something else, then I'd keep looking till you find something that is satisfying to you. Life is short and you want to be happy so keep looking till you find out what it is that makes you happy. If later on you feel working with the elderly is your calling after all, you can always return to it.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
15 Oct 09
[b]Hello my friend Thanks for the advice, I will most likely do it part time this way I am open to do other things in the process, I gave a good bit of years as is, so we will see, time will tell my friend, whatever is meant to be will be. How are you? hope everything is going great for you. Thanks for the kind words, smoochesss[/b]
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hi kitty! Sometimes people are meant for things and you sound like a caregiver for sure. I used to work in a nursing home and I loved those people like they were my own family. That made my job very very hard when I lost them. That was my downfall. I got to the point where i just couldn't bear to lose anyone else. I still help people alot like you. Especially older people. I think that it takes a special kind of person to do that type of work. Sounds like you are one of them. I don't know if it was a sign but it sure sounds like you were at home by helping those people. I think that maybe you might even miss it a bit. A sign? Maybe. A recalling? Maybe that too.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend I can't walk pass any older person that looks like they need help without asking is there something I can do, I feel bad when they are alone trying to make it, I know what you mean its hard caring for them then they pass away its not easy, one day I had this patient when I worked in a nursing home upstate this patients did not like me, she only wanted one nurse to care for her, and no one can help when she did lol, this day the nurse was off and the patients got sick, so while everyone was working on her I was whispering in her ear, saying things like focus and concentrate, come on relax you can do it, she eventually calmed down and everyone was shocked, my supervisor asked me why did I do that, I said instinct. I will go back part time and see what happens. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
7 Oct 09
Sometimes taking care of people all the time can be hard. I'm sure that there are many times when it's a thankless job and people don't really notice how hard you're working. But when you have a calling on your life, it's almost impossible to walk away. Call it fate, destiny, or God, but the universe has a way of bringing us back to where we're meant to be, doing what we're meant to do. Maybe if we could all take a cue from you and help people a little more then this world wouldn't be in the state that it's in. Good luck in figuring it out, but I think you may have known the answer all along. ;)
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend You are right and I do believe this, but maybe a calling is not what this is per say, its more like an instinct to help people, when I was a kid this older lady was staying with us or lived in the building something to that affect, I use to try to help her all the time, I was drawn to her, I like helping people period, but this field stressed me out, I got to the point I hated my work, if I was lazy and did half my work like alot of people do then it would not be so bad, but thats not me, I work really hard and its too much when people don't appreciate you, they praise the lazy workers and give the hard workers a hard time, its been a while so we shall see what happens, I will try it part time if I am unhappy I will move on to something else. Thank you so much for your thoughtful response.
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
your story is quite long but it's worth reading for. maybe it's a sign,you are a good lady, you helped a lot of elders who needs help. If it feels good for you in helping elders,then go on...God is always there to guide you and i know that He will never fail you.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello Sorry about the length but I left out alot lol, I will always help others as long as I am able to do so I will, its instinct more than anything else, when my stepdad had cancer everyone looked at me to be therefor him, after coming home dealing with a patient that drove me nuts the whole weekend, I had to go with him to get his treatment because this was what was expected I did it because I loved him, but sometimes I just wanted to relax, there was other family members that could have been there as well, but it all fell on me, I am glad I was there, he has passed but I did my part, but the pressure is too much and people don't understand how hard it can be, I have feelings as well. Thank you so much.