Why do you want to be my friend???

India
October 9, 2009 7:30am CST
Hi there everybody, all my friends and others. I start this discussion witha common doubt in mind and a suggestion to mylot. Since the very beginning, it has be true that if you have friends on mylot, then they will help you grow and give more interaction on you topics. But I have also noticed, that there is an insurmountable number of people who just send you friend request and then barely interact or reply to you topics and posts. Right now I have a whole batch of people in my friends list, from whom I never hear a word. It really gets me thinking, why do they send friend requests if they are not interested in any kind of interaction? Is there any other reason to add people to your friend list, here at mylot, than just plain good interaction. I mean, it really gets me thinking, why don't mylot add something like a personal comment necessary for each friend request send by the user, so that the other person may know the motives of the sender for the request. Most of the social networking sites have such provisions. Atleast it helps you in deciding, who to add and whom not to. What do you think people, should MyLot introduce a necessary personal message for each friend request? Please share you views. Thank You
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4 responses
@fezman (260)
• Australia
10 Oct 09
thats a very good question raph, i only have a couple of friends in my list and out of them only a couple ever respond to any of my responses\discussions etc, maybe its due to alot of facts, like for instance-: they liked the conversation you started\ responded to in the first place, but not many more after that? or-: liked the subject you were talking about at the time or-:they may be like me! and i put notifications on for all my friends as soon as o get them, and when a good topic\response, even a photo comes up, ill try to reply in good nature just like im doing to you! ha,
@kerryns (55)
• Australia
10 Oct 09
As a newbie, I've wondered the same thing during my so far brief life on myLot. I've spent some time trawling my discussions and those that I have responded to looking for these wanna be friends, mainly to see if our paths have crossed before or why they would want to be my friend. I myself have recently requested to be a friend of a lady whose responses I always seem to reading...she just keeps popping up, so in a discussion she started, I made my response and then let her know why I was requesting her friendship. And she accepted (thanks - you know who you are) I think your suggestion is a great one, and very much warrented. It would certainly save me some time in looking for the reason someone wants to befriend me.
@Graceekwenx (3162)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
Hello raphael! The truth is, i am the type of person who doesnt immediately approve a friend request when i see one. If i can remember the user's name, it means that i have responded to his discussion; so that must mean that we have the same interests. Every weekend, i drop private messages to my "mylot friend of the week" and review his discussions especially the discussions wherein there are no responses. I wouldn't want my friend to have a discussion unresponded; so even though i dont understand his discussion, i still drop a line so that he won't feel ignored. With this so much attention and care i give to my friends, i better make sure i dont flood my directory of friends who dont really care.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
9 Oct 09
I have thought about that before actually raphael_volts! I've had occasions where I have requested a friendship and wished I could send a message like you can with Facebook etc. I have not given it a lot of thought as to why this may not be feasible. I can appreciate what you are saying and have wished for the same thing myself...