Mothers, kindly I need your advice!

United Arab Emirates
October 12, 2009 7:52am CST
Dear mothers, I am on my last month of pregnancy and due for delivery with my first baby end of this month. Only yesterday I was wondering why my baby is not moving inside of me as compared to the other days, I felt him kick once only in the morning and the whole day I was in turmoil as never did I felt him again. While I was waiting for my husband to pick me up from work in the afternoon I was so uneasy and found myself crying. And so my husband rushed me to the hospital to see my doctor and check the condition of the baby. Unfortunately my doctor wasn't on duty but her nurse was there. The moment the heart beat monitoring machine was connected to my tummy the baby gasped and kicked a lot. Is my baby teasing me? I need an explaination as to what seems to be problem? Today I felt him moving but not as often as the other days. Mothers, I need your advice did you experienced the same during your last days of your pregnancy?
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@doryvien (2293)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Hi Seanbryan, Since this is an IVF (in vitro fertilization) baby, I understand where the fear is coming from. If this thing bothers a would-be mom on a normal pregnancy, how much more someone who went through a process just to have this precious baby? Must be nerve-wracking. Anyways, from the responses of our myLot friends you may now have to rest your mind. Still, manage to see your OB-Gyne to make sure everything ins fine. I pray everything will be okay and I'll be most happy when I finally learn that the baby's out. Best regards.
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• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Glad to hear from you again doryvien! If there's anyone who feels what I'm going through, I guess it would be you. You know every single detail of my battles in life including the most precious struggle of becoming a mother. Nerve-wracking? Yes, this term best describes the feeling, day by day is my moment of agony as the big day is getting near. Good that I'll be seeing my OB-Gyne tomorrow and we will know from her evaluation if I'll be giving birth by CS or the normal way. Thank you for your prayers and advices. I haven't thank you for also inviting me here in mylot, now is the appropriate time. I've never known a site like this wherein sharing of experiences can really help. In this particular discussion, reading the opinions of my respondents relieves me from my worries. Again, thanks to you!
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Hi seanbryan, You're most welcome. I find myLot a really wonderful site and I love sharing this with friends. In due time you will be a mother and I know how excited you are. This early, I would like to welcome you to the world of motherhood. It's going to be a beautiful experience, I assure you.
• United Arab Emirates
14 Oct 09
Thanks to you doryvien, though nervousness comes with excitement am really looking forward for the best to happen. They say motherhood is the sweetest achievement of a woman's life and I'm glad HE gave me the chance, a dream come true very soon! Cheers!
• United States
13 Oct 09
I am not a mother but from reading the responses it sound like others have had the same experience and things have been fine. I hope everything goes well for you and wish you all the best as you meet your beautiful healthy little one!
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi teaduck, Sharing experiences with mylot really helps. After having several responses, I feel relieved of all the worries I had this past few days knowing that most of my respondents are first hand mothers and almost all had gone through the same experience during their pregnancy. Thanks for dropping by!
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Oct 09
Hi Mommy SB, Please don't stress yourself too much for worrying about the status of your baby especially now that you already know that your baby is fine. Just relax and talk to your baby to assure you that he/she's alright and believe me, your baby will respond by kicking or doing some movements. Play mellow music and keep your baby relax especially at night and during day time you can play mozart and fast beat music to keep her active. it worked for me and my baby! I am trying to recall my experience but could not think of any because it's been 9 years since my last pregnancy.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Thanks for dropping by Mama MSF! Yeah, I think am just over worrying but you know where the fear is coming from. He is a "test tube" baby and I can't afford losing him at this point. This might be the last chance for me of becoming a mother. I love playing mellow music too, I do have some lullaby cd's by the carpenters and I play it everytime before sleeping.
• Boston, Massachusetts
13 Oct 09
Doryvien called my attention about the history of your pregnancy. With your explanation and Doryvien’s now I fully understand why you reacted strongly and so worried about your baby. Please allow me to give you and your baby a POWER HUG and a prayer that you and your baby will be aI ways safe. Stay healthy my sweetie SB. “Haplos” for baby please!
• United Arab Emirates
14 Oct 09
Thank you for the prayers Mama MSF! That's what I and my baby needs at the moment, I'm becoming nervous day by day you know the feeling I guess?
@mansha (6301)
• India
12 Oct 09
since now its all okay , as I remember, babies do not move much in the last stage of pregnancy because they now start coming towards the opening of the womb and their head starts to get fixed for delivery, may be thats the reason its not moving much, I hardly used to feel their movements in the last term too. go to babycenter.com they do give you lots of advice on newborns and each stage of pregnancy but they sat if you can count up to ten kicks ina day that means baby is fine anyway.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi mansha! I do visit the babycenter.com site and from there I learned that ten kicks a day from the baby is fine. This is why I was really worried that day when I felt my baby kicked only once the whole day. By asking the opinions of co-mylotters like you, I feel better having advices from first hand experienced and expert mothers. Thank you for responding!
@mansha (6301)
• India
14 Oct 09
so when is the little one due...its so exciting to see a new born, my own have grown up so I miss the smell and feel of the new baby. Do post his or her pics once you have it, do keep your camera always ready, I did that for my both kids and its a lovely collection to have.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Dom't stress over it. Is very normal that the baby stiopps moving as often whene it is almost close to your due date becouse they are getting ready to come out. My daughter did the same thing at first it dose scare you but just think he is alright he will be here soon and he wont ever stop moving lol. Haope this helps you. congrates on your little bundle of joy. Happy Mylotting
• United Arab Emirates
14 Oct 09
Hi wyntersmama, Yeah, everybody says that and it makes my mind at rest for now. Thanks for the greetings and for responding. Good Day!
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I experienced that with my second baby, he doesn't move a lot like his older brother. Some people say you can check for the heartbeat by feeling your own pulse because you will feel to sets of heartbeats instead of us. I am not sure how true that is. I didn't really worry when he doesn't move that often, I simply assumed that he is more of a sleepyhead than his brother and he indeed is hehehe It was proven when he finally came out and he sleeps more often and doesn't really bother us much at nights like his brother used to.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi silverglint, I can't feel any two pulse beats, there is only one and I'm sure it's mine. I want to assure myself that my baby is fine now that I felt him moves from inside though not as often as before. Maybe he's just sleeping more frequently to gather some strenght for his coming out or might be tired from moving here and there from the previous months...lol... whatever is the reason I feel relieved now. Thanks for dropping by!
@Hatley (164170)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 09
hi dear seanbryan its been a v ery long time but I was just like you the last month and the doctor said because your baby is about to be born he or she doesnt have much room now to move around in so what you are experiencing is quite normal. so dont worry just relax and soon your baby will be here. take care. God bless.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi hatley, Yes, your explainantion is the same with my other respondents and it makes me feel more better knowing that almost all mothers had experienced as what I am going through now. It turned out to be a normal occurence and there nothing to be worried about. Thank you for responding!
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Hi mom-to-be, congratulations with your new baby. It's usual feeling when you are about to give birth, your anxiety increases each day your labor. But relax because anyhing will just turn out ok just dont panic and always calm down because it can affect the day that the bby should come out.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi junmae, This is my first time, and yes you're right the feeling of anxiety increases each day when about to give birth. I wish I could shorten my agony by just sleeping and the next day would be the great day. Anyways, days are fast approaching and hopefully everything will be alright for me and my baby. Thanks for dropping by!
@KMaroon (269)
• India
13 Oct 09
Hi Seanbryan, I think there is nothing to worry because it is very common that the baby does not move because of less space as the baby grows and is ready to come out into the new world. I suggest you that you need not worry and it would be better taking doctor's advice whenever needful. Soon you will be a mother and you can play with your child. Have a nice day.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi kmaroon, I feel better now after reading responses of co-mylotters, sharing with first hand mothers counts much to me. I'm seeing my OB-Gyne tomorrow and hopefully everything will be fine for me and my baby. Am so excited to see him soon! Thanks for dropping by!
@Craicha (801)
13 Oct 09
your just excited and worries too much in your baby...your baby that time when you notice not moving the baby was just sleeping....but its good you aware too coz we never see and know whats the baby doing inside our tummy...
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi craicha, Your right! My husband and I are really too excited for the coming of our first baby after five years of waiting. My baby has been moving a lot for the past few months and I think any mother would feel the same when all of sudden the baby doesn't move the whole day. Thanks for dropping by!
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
13 Oct 09
It is quite normal for your baby to move a bit less in the last month of pregnancy. The baby is getting into birthing position and beginning to move into the birth canal. You should still feel movement, but probably not as much as before. You did the right thing by getting checked out if you were worried. It is always better to be safe than it is to be sorry. I have been through four pregnancies and I have to say that the first one was the scariest because I did not know what to expect. I remember going through the same thing as you have described, but thankfully, my doctor was in that particular day and I was able to see him personally. He explained to me, that it is quite normal, and the only time I should really worry is if I didn't feel the baby move at all that day. A lot of times, if you lie down, or sit down and relax for a few minutes, the baby will begin to move. If you get worried again, try relaxing for a little while and gently rubbing your tummy. This trick always worked to get my babies to kick.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi lynnemg, You've said it clear and concise. Thank you for sharing what your doctor have told you. I'll be seeing mine only tomorrow and might have the same explaination. Yes your right, I've tried those tricks at home that night after the heart beat monitoring from the hospital and it really worked though the movements now are not that constant as before. Again, thanks to you!
13 Oct 09
well i have not been pregnant but based on my knowledge with my nursing profession, babies inside the whom have a timing also when moving and there is also numbers of how many moves there making. you can feel that by doing leopold's maneuver. dont get too worry much because that might increase your blood pressure.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi cutepink, Well, I don't have any idea of the leopold's maneuver, but I'll make a research on it. Yes, your right I might have increased my blood pressure if I keep on worrying, but now I feel better after sharing with my lot friends. Thank you for dropping by!
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
12 Oct 09
Dont worry too much. As long as the doctor tells you everything is fine you should be ok. Babies go through stages of kicking and not kicking. Just wait for after the baby is born and see the stages they go through its amazing. In the mean time just make sure you are doing everything right. if you are that far along I'm sure your baby is fine. Good luck to you :)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi mssnow, Thank you for dropping by! Your sharing really counts much to me. My baby is a product of an IVF treatment or what they call "test tube" baby hence, I can't afford losing him. By any means I should be a mother and God willing he gave me the chance. Good Day!
@nagikka (411)
• Italy
12 Oct 09
I'm not a medic, I'm studying to become a teacher but we had to prepare some exams that included pages about pregnancies and babies. I think she's not moving a lot because since you're ready for delivery, she's grown big and there's not enough space for her to move :) don't worry you'll hug her very soon, best of luck to you are your husband and your baby :)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi nagikka, Though your not a medic and I guess not a mother yet you still want to share the knowlegde you've got from you studies, it's so nice of you. Feeling better now after reading several responses. Thanks for the greetings and dropping by!
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
12 Oct 09
When I was pregnant with my son, I had the same experience! The last month he barely moved,and I was constantly worried. Try to relax, the doctor said mine was just a lazy baby and since I'm small, he didn't have much room to move. Anyway, everything was fine and there were no compliciations. Since you are in your last month, I suppose you are being monitored on a weekly basis. If the heartbeat is fine, there is no need to worry. I wish you a quick and speedy delivery and stressing at this point is normal. Soon you will have a beautiful baby!
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi di, Thank you for responding, your sharing of experience means a lot to me. Maybe my baby is just lazy to move like yours on his last few days inside my womb. Yes, the heart beat is fine as monitored. I'll be seeing my OB-Gyne tomorrow and hope everything will be fine for both of us.
@kaka135 (14223)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 09
Did you manage to consult the doctor? I've read from the book, that during the last month of the pregnancy, as the baby has grown into quite big size, and there is not much space in the womb for the baby to move around, hence the mothers will not feel the movement of the baby as frequent or obvious as the previous months. But it's always good to be alert and keep monitoring the condition of your baby. Just see the doctor if you have any doubt or worries, the doctor is always there to help you out. Sometimes, others' experiences may not be the same. Happy parenting!! ^_^
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Hi kaka, I'll be seeing actually my OB-Gyne only by tomorrow and it so happened that I felt my baby's unusual condition three days before the scheduled date of my appointment. It's an agony to wait for such a long time and so I've think of posting this discussion to gather some information from mothers like you. It proves me right, I feel relieved reading your explaination. Thanks a lot!
• Singapore
26 Oct 09
Dear Seanbryan, I can understand your feeling of worried about the movement of your baby in your womb. Try to relax first. The more relax and calm you are, you can feel your baby's movement easily. If you are very bausy, you may not be so aware of the movement of your unborn baby. You can talk to your baby lovingly. If you have the name of baby, call him or her by name. For instance, you can whisper or talk to your baby,"Baby, I love you. This is your mother. My name is Seanbryan. Please respond to me by kicking gently so as to let me know you are alright." Then, you can give yourself some silent momenet to feel the respond from your baby. If your baby kicks, please say to your baby loveingly," Thank you for your kicking. I feel happy to get the respond from you. I love you." Yourloving communication will help your baby to respond to you. It may take some time to establish the communication pattern between you and your baby. Be patient. Trust and believe that you can do it. I also share some tips and acitivities with mothers during pregnancy on my website and twitter. You can visit them an d find out more information. God bless you and your unborn baby. Sylvia http://wiseparents.net http://twitter.com/pregnanctcoach
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
19 Oct 09
Half of our worries are false my child. Doctor and that way even nurse knows the position well than you and me. After all how many cases they would have handled. If any problem was there, nurse would have told you. If you tense yourself, that will affect the child also and it will become restless. Keep yourself calm and have positive thinking. Everything will be normal and happy. I pray God for your easy delivery and safety of you and your sweetie cutie. Have faith and pray God. Prayer energy is far more stronger and powerful than anything else. God bless my child.
@steffi30 (104)
• United States
18 Oct 09
I had my first baby in August. She moved alot until the last month and she didn't move a lot either but she was fine. If you talk to her and rub your stomach she will probably move.
@maximax8 (30579)
• United Kingdom
16 Oct 09
I know that a baby grows so large that less kicking can be felt in the last month of pregnancy. Remember the first movements felt like light flutters. Then in the middle of pregnancy and later it is like a donkey kicking. I think that you could see your midwife if you are worried. I had my baby girl in June and know she kicked less in that last couple of weeks of pregnancy. Good luck.