if you were in my situation... :D

By eM
@eLsMarie (4347)
Philippines
October 12, 2009 11:40pm CST
i really hate accepting the fact that my boyfriend is somehow attractive but this time, i'm starting to accept the fact that he really is... girls have been staring at us and even gays too but i really don't a damn about it. i was never really into jealousy when other girls and gays find him attractive but it bothers me when he tells me that a lot of girls were asking for his number and even kissed him. i hate it but i don't want to tell him about it... what signs should i show him so that he'll have an idea that i'm a bit jealous already? :D
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24 responses
• India
13 Oct 09
See you guys know each other and your boyfriend and you should be free with each other though your BF is attractive doesn't matter because attraction is everywhere, and this kind of Behavior of your is not a Jealously but some In uncomfortable tell your boyfriend that when others Kiss or behave very Flirty i don't like, Yeah but in the situation of friends you should try to understand that friends are forever, so try to understand each other this will really help you.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
huh? kindly elaborate more please...
@nice030481 (1110)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
i think you have to say to your bf that you are a little bit jealous. it is better to be honest about how you feel. You know when me and my husband go out, many people always stared with us, you know why? the height of my husband is 5'11 and i am 4'8.. so imagine if you see us walking around.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
my gosh! you sure has a big gap with your husband in terms of height... :D
@pede_22 (385)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Count your self as a LUCKY GIRL because you have a good looking boyfriend. Just appreciate your BF that he is really a handsome and that's the reason why you are really in love with him... Yeah, that's it! Just be positive.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
yah... i'm really lucky to have him although we often find complications in our relationship because of the people around us...
@srganesh (6344)
• India
13 Oct 09
I think he is teasing you and wants to know how you react about in this.So,don't take things serious and start a fight with him.You should get worried only if he acts indifferent to you now.If he care for you and love you as before,just take him lightly and express your pride to have an attractive man as your lover.Cheers!
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
i guess so... well for quite some time, i never felt something different from his actions so maybe he's just teasing me... urrghhhh!
@lhai_11 (42)
• Israel
13 Oct 09
try not to talk to him for a couple of days..or better yet just get straight to the point..tell him exactly how you feel...
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
okie... i'll tell him... :( wish me luck... LOL... i just wish i could tear the faces of those girls but that would be mean... hmmmp
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• China
13 Oct 09
I think that you should let your feelings to him, if you don't like that, tell him directly about how jealous. You care him and love him if you tell him that you are jealous about that.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
i'm always hunted about thinking of what could he's initial reaction would be... i wish i can manage to tell him everything that bothers me...
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• China
13 Oct 09
If I were you I will tell him that you are not very comfortable with that. It's good for you to let him know your feelings. Or if your feeling are repressed and unaccepted then you may release it in a subtle like you may become irritable or unhappy when you are with him. And what's worse is that you may not knowing that yourself.Then unconsiously your relationship may go wrong.In some such cases, the girl will think it is because the boy is unloyal or maybe he is falling love with another girl. So be with your true feelings,accept it yourself and make your boyfriend accept it. Only in this way can you let the feeling go, or the feeling will linger around your mind all the time. Believe me, I had the same problem as you and this method was taught by my psychological teacher. It did work for me. Good luck with you.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
really? thank you very much... hmmp... i really wanted to confront but it's so much easy to say than done... :( i'll save a lot of guts here... poor me! HUHUHU... i think so immature...
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@ronz_27 (123)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
You must be thankful that your boyfriend is a little bit attractive. In other case you incountred some problems because some girls and gays are attracted to him. In my idea its not a prblem if they attracted your boyfriend. The problem is if you boyfriend express his feelings to the girls. If you want tell him that you got jealous by his actuation why not? tel him and share with him in a nice way and a nice place that he can understand your feelings.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
i hope i can control myself and can speak to him nicely... well, a lot of my friends tell me that i'm lucky because i was able to have an attractive boyfriend like him but i find a lot of disadvantages with it... :( girls are the ones chasing now and it irks me
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@advokatku (4036)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 09
if I was you, I would say my jealousy and ask him to stop being so. You must be firm to say it, or you will really lose it
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
if i tell him that i'm jealous is it possible that he'll really deal with it to the extent that he'll think that i'm so into him?
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Well first allow me to say that you are lucky to have a nice looking boyfriend. eLsMarie I don't see any problem if you tell your boyfriend that you are in fact a bit jealous. You have the right to be jealous, after all, normal human being do feel jealous at some point of their lives. You should be honest on how you feel. Be open to him so that he will have the initiative to avoid those girls and gays around him. Don't worry it is okay, I know he will not take that against you.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
i was just hesitant just because i'm afraid so that he'll deal to it so much and end up thinking that i'm so crazy about him.... LOL
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
That depends on your boyfriend's attitude. I certainly don't know the real him. It is you who can tell. But honestly, jelousy is such a normal thing for lovers even in friendship that word is always present. You can try saying that "you are jealouse" in a joking manner, but of course haft meant. :)
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
LOL.... that would be an easy thing for me... :D i'll have it as a joke. thank you very much for the help... i really need it... we haven't seen each other yet for almost a week because this week is our finals. :D
@forptc (290)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Hey there. Quite a situation you got there but I can't say it's an easy one but since it's on your part, you've got the upper hand here. I wouldn't go "guru" on you but I'll be frank with this one: tell it to him straight up. What I meant with you having the upper hand is that you're the girl and women (or females, in general) think more maturely than men, that much is given. So if he reacts badly with the way you tell him you're getting jealous, you could say he's being so childish and that he needs to grow up. Okay, everything's fine with him being attractive with girls and gays flocking him like chicken to feeds (bad comparison, I know) which should make you feel proud because of all people, he chose you and hung out with you through and through but if it gets to his head like allowing them to do stuff to him because he's basking in the limelight of his good looks, give him a good smack on the head. But other than that, if you do see that he's not messing around, then there's no reason for you to get jealous and every reason to be thankful that he's only got eyes for you. Just be careful, say it nicely if there's reason to. Take it a notch higher if things get out of hand. Prepare yourself for the worst and you won't find yourself sulking for what you did, or for whatever he did that made you do what you did. Good luck there, you'll need it specially handling a guy.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
okay... :D i'll tell him... i'll save a lot of guts in order for me to open up everything and i hope that he'll understand me... maybe i was just too blind of the fact that i was simply too lucky to have him... (teary eyed) :)
@forptc (290)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Way to go girl, good luck on that. You really don't have much to worry about speaking your mind to him. You're the woman, you have all the right to feel jealous once in a while specially that he's got all that ruckus around him, and that certainly means that you love, want, and need him a lot. He's got to be lucky to have you being patient about all his issues. Yep, you are also lucky to be with him considering he's honest with whatever is happening to him. Most men would hide those things and just let them pile up until their partners would simply discover for themselves and that's really nasty. You just have to try to trust him but keep watch too. You do know how men behave. Besides, he should understand you more than you do him since you have all the right to have changing moods periodically and he doesn't. =D
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
well i guess we're both lucky to be with each other... :D to be honest, for the small span of time that we've been together, we never had any big fight just because we committed mistakes. the people who became part of our past and strangers were the ones who were into breaking us apart...
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Normally, I would say don't be jealous and be proud that you are with a guy that others would die to be with. Others checking him out would not be a reason for you to be jealous. You sound pretty level headed when it comes to this. I think the fact that they are kissing him would make me question his part in all of this. how are they getting close enough to kiss him? Is he kissing them back? Is he sending mixed messages out? I mean there are a lot of really hot guys out there and if they have a girlfriend and make it known that they are unavailable then of course you have those that would persist but most would not. When they ask for his number is he giving it out? Another thought...he isn't a rock star is he? Maybe because you don't show jealousy, could it be possible that he is just telling you this stuff in attempt to make you jealous? Some people actually do think that is an expression of love. Have you witnessed these girls kissing him and asking for his number?
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
i never witnessed girls asking for his number because when we're together, we're really look so sweet. but i can observed a lot of girls staring at him and to him only... he didn't kissed back the girl instead he confronted the girl that it's not right and then he walked out (according to him). he's cellphone is a bit broke...
@athomice (396)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Hello! It sounds like a curse for having an atrractive bf.lolz! Anyway you can tell him how you feel but in a nice way. He sould know it that it bothers you a lot cause he might think that you're ok with it and end up in not so good situation. He should know so he can be more careful next time, unless he's to friendly.... I think you're not a jealous type of girl and he's so lucky with that but you need tell him when its ok and when its not. I'm not a jealous type of guy and that's what my wife likes. She can be herself and be free but with conditions she knows inside her heart. I hope It works for both of you. God Bless!
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
wow!!! :D you're wife is lucky to have you... i'll confess to him everything so that i won't hold on grudges to him... ^_^
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hello eLsMarie, i think he needs to know that you are jealous. and that you are not infavor if someone is kissing him or getting his number. he is honest to you and you should do the same. if you really love him, tell him what's inside you and don't be afraid to tell him. maybe he likes to hear it from you anyway.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
i think i'm being unfair to him so i'll be honest already... thank you very much!!! :D
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
There's nothing wrong to be attractive as long as you will be faithful to your partner. That will be the test for your boyfriend. Being attractive and having a lot of admirers is tempting. If he will not stop other girls from flirting him, your relationship will always be in danger. I can say that it will be a very difficult relationship for you. Yes, he is yours now but for how long. I really wish good luck for both of you, hoping that you will end up in marriage. Happy myLotting!
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
i really wish also that he'll be faithful till the end like what he is right now... i wanted him to be my husband in the near future but we're not really in control of our own fate so i think i'll just hope and pray hard that he would be the one... :D
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
You should let him know that you are jealous. Tell him. If you don't tell him he'll think that you care less about him. He is telling those situations that girls are getting his number and kissing him because he wants to see your reaction. He wants to see how you will handle those situations so that he'll feel loved.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
why should guys do those things? huhuhu
• India
13 Oct 09
Girls should understand that a guys nature is that. Atleast two or three girls should be back of him. If not he is not a guy at all. My girl friend don't like me watching movies and don't like if my mobile bills increases a day. She thinks that I'm admiring the actress and i'm talking to someone over the phone. But it makes me irritating that time , but i really love to be doubted by her so. That makes me think that she is there for me always.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
really? i think she's already too much... but, i don't have to be against it because you're happy with that... :D i just wish i won't reach through that level... :D
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Whoa! I'd be down with people finding him attractive or that girls and gay guys are crunching on him. It's not his fault if they ask for his number, but I'm sure he could have avoided being kissed. I wouldn't be okay with that AT ALL.If you want to let him know that it bothers you now, just tell him outright. Let him know you think it's uncool and that it makes you mad or uncomfortable at the very least.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
when i asked to why the girl had that chance to kissed him, he told me that he was holding a couple of dictionaries that's why he wasn't able to avoid it... i should tell him...
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
The signs is obvious when he tell it to you of course he is testing your reactions. Guys love to make a girl get jealous and so he is very honest with you as he confess the truth whatever happen to him instead of hiding it to you. It means he truly love you but it is good to tell him frankly what you feel about it as giving much freedom guy tend to abuses it while keeping a strict policy would make him rebel about you. Just learn to sort and balance everything between you would be alright..
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
knowing how to balance is really a big issue for me... hmmmp... i really don't know how to do it but i'll try my best to accomplished it... :D
@Craicha (801)
13 Oct 09
it's natural to get jealous and you have the right to get jealous coz his your BF....be honest with your feelings tell him what you feel..and he will understand you and even ignores those ladies and gays..if you dnt react he might thought that its just ok with you...
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
maybe that's the reason why he's very much eager to tell me all those things just because he thought that it's okay with me... hmmm... it's really my fault that i'm not reacting...