Leaving after fifty years of marriage!

This must be a difficult time for all of you; I'm sorry you're having to go through it. I hope that things work out for the best for all of you. Keep your head up, and happy MyLotting!

Hi jillhill, Life is too complex to make any comment.That they are getting divorce must bear some reasons and we are not aware sure of the authenticity of the matter. now I would not not take part of any of the two. Both could be right and both could be wrong. And everyone has the liberty to live his/her life uninterrupted.

Am sorry to hear of your friend's parents splitting up. I don't know of anyone personally who has divorced after many years of marriage but have heard of this happening. Generally the breakup involves another mate outside the marriage. Patience can only last so long when the husband or wife are cheating. I wouldn't stay in a marriage if my husband had a girlfriend. He has no excuses why he needs another woman. I do a fine job washing his underwear...lol

After fifty years of marriage? That's a very sad story. I couldn't believe it would happen .. .. It would be difficult for the woman to move on, if that's the case.

Bless her heart, glad she is getting out of that mess. Wish her alot of luck. Will be quite an adjustment for her. I had a customer at the beauty shop that had been married 60 years to her husband. He has been very abusive to her the whole time she did finally divorce but was miserable w/out him even tho he was sooo mean to her. It was a very sad situation.

this kind of story happens everywhere.i personally think unhappy marriages are more than those happy ones.because of children or economic reasons,they just keep their marriage.those curageous people will end their marriage.that's normall.

We seldom hear cases like this when after a long time of marriage suddenly it will just go down the drain. That's very sad. Had it not been for a third party getting involved, the girl friend, I think they may have handled the problem, that aggravated the situation. Well, it maybe for their best interests thay they should separate ways rather than spending their remaining years living a miserable life. My heart goes out to them. enjoy life!

hello jillhill, so sorry to know that after fifty years of being marriage she finally decided to leave him for some reason. for sure she was forced to do so because her husband has already a girlfriend. not to mention that he changed a beat. it hurts her for sure but it's better that way so she can move on to her life. it's about time that she can be happy and have peace of mind. no, i don't know anybody that got divorce after a long years of being married. besides, divorce is not allowed in our country.

Hey Jill, It's sad when someone has an accident like that that changes their personality. After 50 years she must have had a difficult time making that decision. Even with his bad behavior, she probably felt obligated to stay and take care of him. But once the girlfriend came into the picture, it gave her that sense of release. I imagine it made the decision to go much easier. I have never know anyone that leaves the marriage after 50 years. I just hope that she has a few years left to enjoy life. Leenie

Well you cannot blame her can you,what a shame it ended like that.She certainly is brave spreading her wings after all those years.I wish her well.My old neibours split up after about 40 years of marriage that was because he drank so much.I went round one morning for a chat and he said shes gone,I could not beleave it,but she got a message to me,she was alright.I cannot blame her though everybody else was having their homes decorated,nice furniture ect.She was still doing all her washing by hand in the bath as there was never anymoney.We were all so close it was horrible even though no one blamed her working full time and dealing with that at her age.was to much for her to bear,I suppose all her kids had left home and she must have been waiting.

that's awful to hear. there is no divorce from where I am, and annulment is close to impossible, not to mention very costly. Sometimes, I do not understand how two people could be so in love for a very long time and then give up--I understand she had suffered for so long with that husband of hers and I'm glad she is finally on her own. I guess it just goes to show that there's really no telling that the love would be strong enough to make us stay with one person for the rest of our lives. I guess i'm having bittersweet feelings about all this. heheh

Wow. That's an incredibly long marriage to end in divorce. I'm sorry that Traumatic Brain Injury was the reason...I haven't known any marriages to end after that long, but I have known of a friendship that ended because of TBI and it's really tough. It's hard to know where to draw the line between the circumstances being beyond everyone's control, and where the person still needs to take responsibility for his/her actions. You never really know which actions are truly caused by the injury and when a person is milking it. It's a difficult thing.

...Hi jillhill. That is just sad, that it is happening the way it is. But it is good that she has you to talk to about the situation. Good luck to her with the transition. Some long time ago, one of my sisters talked to me for a long time and told me that she wanted to divorce her husband. They had been married, I guess twenty plus years at that time. So I listened to her and the advice I gave her was, to write down all of the frustration she felt, and why she wanted to divorce him. Don't spare any details, I told her. Date it, seal it in an envelope and put it in the very back of one of her dresser drawers. I told her to date the outside of the envelope as well and then wait one year, open the envelope and read what she had wrote, if she still wanted to divorce him, at the end of that year, then do it. You have one life and if you are unhappy, it makes no sense to stay in a relationship that has broken down. She wrote the letter to herself, put it away, read it a year later. They are still together as of today, I guess she changed her mind. :o). The best marriages are difficult, so I applaud anyone who tries to work it out, but sometimes you can't take it and you have to save yourself from whatever it is, that may be destroying your sanity or keeping you from having peace of mind. Take it easy.

It is unfortunate for them to be like that, having their connections severed by unfortunate accident and neural damages.

Sorry that you're having to help deal with someone going thru this situation and Sad to see something like this ruin a marriage after so many yrs. for sure. It is sad to see people have to endure such heartache due to a serious Health trauma as well. I am sure that even though she is not really wanting to leave and feels a little down because of it, this is for the Best, and as she needs your support right now I am sure you can be what she is needing as well.

No not that long, I was married 22 years before I got the Courage to get out I hope that she finds happiness and peace now, it will be strange for her but also a relief after all that I wish her the best and happiness

Wow. That lady stuck it out for a long time. I'm happy to hear she's worrying about herself more now. She definitely did her "duty". I hope she doesn't feel badly. I don't think any guy can ever come up for a good excuse to cheat. Not that is stops them from trying.

I'm going to bet that in most cases it wasn't sudden, but sure I've known a few. Sometimes it's really hard to leave but a real relief once you actually do it.

I do not why things like this happen. But I guess, this is a test from God. He is testing all of us if we can stick to one another and ask help from Him. My, I'm so afraid something like this would happen to my marriage. But if this thing happened to any of my wife and I, all I can do is pray for His hep and guidance. That we can overcome all trials and uphold the sanctity of marriage most especially, secure the emotional stability of my children.

Hi jillhill: It's more often to find people that decide to divorced after some few years of marriage. The whole story you've told us it's awful, i would stay at long as i can but that's probably what he does. It must be horrible that someone change that way after an accident and it must be difficult to continue with our lives after so many years