What do you do (while your children are at school)?

@dorannmwin (36659)
United States
October 21, 2009 8:18am CST
I'm mother to two wonderful children. My oldest is in first grade and my youngest is three-years-old. When my oldest is at school I spend a lot of time playing with my son and getting him ready to go to school in a couple of years. However, I know that there are a lot of stay-at-home mommies like myself whose children are all in school. I just wondered what those mothers do while the kids are at school. Even if you still have some of your children at home with you during the day, how do you spend your day while the older ones are at school?
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@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 09
I am a man and I go to work. My wife on the other hand stays at home while our son is in school. Guess what my wife does at home when my son is in school. You guess it right, she is at home doing my myLot. LOL
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Thanks for giving me a laugh. It is actually quite funny, last year was my daughter's first year in school and I didn't know mylot yet. Now that I do know mylot, I wonder where I was wasting my time last year.
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• Malaysia
24 Oct 09
So, do not waste time earn money and more money. Response more on myLot. This is where the money is. Even you comment also make money.
@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
22 Oct 09
hi dora, how are you, even i am also a mother of two little children, when they go to school, i just clean my rooms, and after that just sit infront of my computer to chat with my friends, give discussion, and responses in mylot, etc.. i just wondered without computer we can't live yaar, thanks for the nice topic, have a nice day.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
It's really funny to think about because all of us mention the computer in our responses to the answer of this question. However, I can't help but wonder now what our mothers did while we were at school. When I was a child we didn't even have a computer in the house until I was nine years old and it was another seven years before the internet.
• India
7 Nov 09
hey, thankyou very much dora, that you selected my response, is the best. i am very very happy, once again thankyou. have a nice day.
@jugsjugs (13038)
21 Oct 09
While my children are at school i tend to try to get some house work done as well as any phone call or letters that i have to write.I then have a look at my em\ails out as well as check on all the animals are ok.I also make cards as well to pass the time away.The only problem is that it seems that people always come round and stay for a long time and that gives me less time.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
That's one thing that the daytime is really good for is to be able to get business done. The problem that I have with my business is that I really need to be able to make my phone calls in the evening when most normal people are home from work.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
22 Oct 09
I usually do housework and such on Monday since that's the first day after the weekend that my entire family is at work or school and I can get it done quickly, but this week... that's not what I did lol. Besides, there's only so much of that you can do after you get bored of it.
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Oct 09
Hi Dorannmwin, My eldest who is 13 years old is in the Special Education program and my youngest son is in grade 1-- his first year in the mainstream program. Both my sons were diagnosed with autism. While their in school, i am at work. We have a caregiver to take them to school and pick them up. We just meet in the evening after work. We eat dinner together and do homework afterwards.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
We always eat dinner together as a family as well. I grew up in a family that found it important to all eat together and therefore I am bringing up our family in the same way.
• Boston, Massachusetts
22 Oct 09
Same here Dorrann. Dinner time is the best time for us to be updated with each other's activities, accomplsihments and concerns the whole day.
@hopejordan (3566)
• Australia
21 Oct 09
hi there dorannmwin i have a 13 and a 9 nearly 10 years when they are at school i can play on the computer and i only have two children take care happy postings
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I too just have two children, and they are about the same age difference between them as my two children are. I'm lucky that my oldest is in school and my son is relatively undemanding so I am able to get things done. I just wonder how lonely I will be when he starts school too.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
22 Oct 09
Hehe.. when he starts school, you may be able to volunteer and such . I did that at the middle school for my older kids when I was pregnant with the little one, but after she was born, it was kind of hit and miss when I could help out. I didn't want to be a distraction, and also even though she was a baby, it wasn't always fun for her to sit around in a baby carrier if she was awake and I was in the classroom.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I do chores around the house, work on the computer, and about one day a week I do all my running around. I love being able to grocery shop without the kids.
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Oct 09
How is wish i can do the same. A domesticated mom and wife. I am a career woman and only during weekends and evenings after work that i have the chance to attend to my family's concerns. We're so grateful for having a trustworthy caregiver who assist me in doing the some of the chores and attending to my kids while I am at work and my husband too.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I too try to stick to doing all of my errands on one day. I dream of being able to go to the grocery store without children, but for right now I guess I'll settle with being able to go with just one child instead of both of them. Having your children under your feet while you are trying to grocery shop costs a lot of extra money.
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
when my children are at school, i do my computer works or having a part time teaching at school, right now i am on leave and i am going to resume my work next semester.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Well, I am now babysitting my little nieces while my daughter is at school. It means that I am not able to get a lot done. My two children were pretty spaced out so I never knew until taking them in during the day the workload that is involved in having a three-year-old, a two-year-old and a one-year-old under your feet all day. I wonder how mothers of children that are that close together ever manage to get anything done.
• United States
22 Oct 09
I have ten children, four have already left my 'nest'. We homeschool, so mine are home all the time, so I guess I don't really have a lot to add. But I will say two things: Homemaking is an art, and we should try and become skilled at it. In other words, if you have a lot of spare time, learn something new. Improve your cooking, make nicer meals. Learn to sew. Learn to crochet or knit. And you have no excuse not to have a really clean house. Two: You can take an online class. You can also earn some money from home. My daughter has five children and they are all in school now. She works online while they are not home, and it's a part time job for her, but she is still flexible if she needs to attend something or if one is sick. One of her children has CP, too and has medical appointments they have to go too. I think a stay at home mom should never just spend her days playing on the computer and not getting her work done. A stay at home mom, especially one whose children are all in school, is a very priviledged mother who can make a really nice home for her family.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I'm definitely working on my housekeeping skills. Up until almost seven months ago we lived in my mother's house and I didn't have a lot of responsiblity as far as housekeeping went. Now, we are in our own house and I am working on perfecting those skills. I do love to cook for our family and I love trying out new recipes so I do spend a lot of my time doing that. I am also a scrapbooker and it seems that I get the best pages done while Sis is at school. I am also considering taking some online classes in things that interest me. I figure in addition to making me more marketable when my youngest starts school it will also be good for me because I really enjoyed school when I was a student.
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
i have a day job and when they are in school, i work. i send them off to school in the morning and pick them up in the afternoon. if i had been a full-time mom, i can do a lot of things while the children are in school. that would be time for me to do the housework (not much though as we have a house helper). lots of other things, too ... like getting myself rest. i will sleep when they are out in school.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I do go back to sleep for a little bit after she goes off to school in the morning. My youngest sleeps in late but doesn't take a nap so from the time he wakes up it is go, go, go until it is time for bed. I sure do wish that I had a housekeeper too.
@carrine (2748)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
im a mother of two also. my eldest is 14 years of age, and the younger one is 3 years of age. i stop working last year of march,, and i have to admit that at first i was really having a hardtime to adjust my new daily routines. while my kids are in school at just stayed at home doing internet stuff. LOL sometimes im the one who will send to school of my youngest while the nanny will stay at home. exchange of routine for a change. hehehe
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
My husband generally takes our daughter to school in the morning because school starts just before he needs to be at work so it makes sense to only have one trip instead of me driving Kathryn to school and then him driving himself to work. However, sometimes I too will take her to school for a change of routine. I've found that it does me good.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
22 Oct 09
When I'm at home and the kids are not around which happens very seldom (because I have a full time job), it's my time to do something for myself like reading, sewing, watching TV, and surfing the net. This is also the time to embark on some do-it-yourself activities like doing minor repairs at home. I tend to over-work myself when I'm alone, even when my intention is actually to take a rest and sleep.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
It seems to me that the thought of having time to myself to do whatever I want is a pipe dream because there is always something more important than a hot bath or a good book that has to be done. Why is it that it always has to seem like that?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
22 Oct 09
I am generally AT the school lol. My daughter is five and in kindergarten, and since the beginning of the year (which started in Aug), I have been volunteering for her teacher and other teachers, doing PTA things, tutoring in her class during excel, etc. I'm taking a class through the district in order to get certification so when an aide position opens up, I can apply for it. I NEVER expected to spend so much time at the school but at the end of every week, I think about where I spent all my time and it WAS at the school. It's a big change from when my daughter was in preschool, because she only went to preschool twice a week. It started at NINE, so we didn't even have to get up till around 8. Even then, it was no big deal, so sometimes we got there at 9:20 and other times we just didn't go at all. Kindergarten starts at 7:20 at her school, so we try to get there at least by 7:10, 7:13 at the latest lol. I never stayed at the preschool because the teacher had a full time aide PLUS I'd known her for almost 2 years prior as a friend, so I never had reason to worry about my daughter having any problems in her class. Anyway, I look forward to spending a lot of time at the school in the future too, whether as a volunteer or as an employee maybe . I'm so not career oriented. It's amazing that I enjoy this so much!
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I spend time at the school too, although not as much this year as I did last year. Last year I was volunteering for Girl Scouts after school and everything that I could do in the classroom as well. This year, I am still the secretary of the PTA which takes time and I am planning to volunteer more in the classroom, but childcare situations have changed with my youngest and it isn't possible to be there as often as I was last year.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
22 Oct 09
well i work part time when my kids are at school but on the days i have off i usually do stuff around the house or i go to the library or work on a lot of crafty things.
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
23 Oct 09
When my son starts school in a couple of years, the plan is for me to work part time while they are at school. Of course, I don't know because it is still a couple of years away and by that time I will have been out of the work force for nearly six years. I'm hoping that by then things will have picked up and the extra money that I'll be making will help us to pay off our house even soon before I am 40 years old.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
21 Oct 09
both my kids are teens now so I have my days to myself...for the past yr (up until the beginning of this school yr) I was babysitting a little guy from up the way...now that I'm not I have like I said my days to myself....what do I do? Whatever I want LOL....seriously though, I get the housework done, I cook, do laundry, now that the cold weather is here I'm baking (though not as much as I'd like), I watch movies, read, play around online and so on..and on some days I dont do a dang thing....
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
That sounds like exactly how I'll spend my time at least for the first several days after my son starts school in a couple of years. By then it will have been almost nine years since I'd had a day to myself and I feel like I deserve it already (we are almost up to seven years).
@kezabelle (2984)
21 Oct 09
My eldest is in year 1 she is 5.5 years mornings are spent playing with her little sister who is 3.5 and then afternoons when she goes to preschool that is when I do my housework chores etc or like today sit on my bottom doing nothing but answer posts on here I get precious little me time that isnt spent cleaning so i try and make the most of it when I can!
@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I completely know what you mean about having very little time that belongs to you and you alone. It seems like these days I get less and less of that kind of time and I really need it or else I might go insane.
• India
26 Oct 09
I usally see TV and spent some time on computer also.reading some thing or cleaning wardrobs and eic.