Why do people hate failured person?

India
October 26, 2009 1:14am CST
This happened to me many times.I am brilliant in studies and got ranks in schools and college but unfortunately i fell in love with girl and proposed her. she rejected. i was in deep love with her so i neglected studies and failed in degree. but people around me can't understanding this they stopped talking to me and some insulting me in front of others. what to do why people can't encourage and give support in this condition
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12 responses
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
27 Oct 09
it is unfortunate what happened do but its all your fault that you did not get your degree, why should you let a girl who ditch you make you fail your exams that i really foolish and i dont blame them for treating you that way. if it was a genuine terrible reason for failing, then they would feel sorry for you if not dont expect that
• Mexico
27 Oct 09
Hi lindiebiz: i don't think that was an intelligent response but i think at the same time that you're unfair with the boy. If you watch someone failing you must not attack him, you must help him to recover and being a better student. You won't help someone making him feel worst that it was before.
• India
27 Oct 09
Yes lindiebiz I don't blame that girl. Its my mistake. She said many times that just be friend but that was impossible for me. Only option that was left to me is can't be seen to her, for this I used go to my native twice a year. she is also living in my native so. But all the time I felt she is in front of me. in this confusion I wasted lot of time.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
26 Oct 09
If you are talking about your classmates they probably do not want to hang around the loser you have fast become. Why would they support you as you self-destruct. They are probably sick and tired of hearing you whine about this woman that you were in love with. Become rich and successful and you can have your pick of many women. What makes you think this will come to you anyway if you fail your studies, your actions just reinforces her decision to dump you. You are confusing hate with indifference, I'm sure they do not hate you, they just do not want to hang around with you crash and burn.
• India
27 Oct 09
Not all classmates did but some. I really don;t care that cause that's usual in friends. But people in my native stopped talking to me when i used to go meet my parents cause I am failed. These are the same people who respected me and used come to talk with me when I had got 1 rank in 10grade with 92%. But now they are turning faces. I understand that I done wrong. But story within me they don't know
• Japan
26 Oct 09
Ooh, I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend... :( You know, that was what I was thinking as well. I think most people hate (or at least, are weary and disliking of people who fail at life) because they assume that these people, the ones who've failed to do something which 'normal' people 'should' be doing, are just being lazy, weak or stupid. Or sometimes its because they can't understand you - and when people can't understand something, they try not to understand it sometimes... And the people who insult others for their hard times are the REAL people who are weak... Sometimes the 'successful' people don't want to talk with 'failures' because they don't want to become failures themselves... The ones that truly love you will never insult or stop talking to you. They will try to understand you and love you for who you are.
• India
26 Oct 09
yes dude you really torched light..I've not done what a what friends did normally..thats why i am neglected. all of my friends are not bad they advised me in some bad situations..
@srganesh (6345)
• India
26 Oct 09
shmulla!You have confused love and your studies.Did you expect that she will love you back if you got failed?I think you should have known how to keep both love and your career in separate tracks.So,it is not so far now.Keep concentrating on your studies and come out successful and earn a good job.Once you sit in a good position,everybody will respect you.Until then you can't expect people to encourage you.Cheers!
• India
26 Oct 09
Jai ganesh.. Ya but i couldn't control myself. I never feared my future just followed her. now recovering
• Mexico
27 Oct 09
Hi shmulla: I understand your thoughts and i think people are wrong with this positions and it's just because we're in a very competitive world where all people thinks that everything must be perfect and that's not right. When a person fails on their exams we have to encourage them and not just attack them like they just don't want to have good results. I was a good student too but i can understand that if my heart would be broken i won't be able to make my work well.
@uitisoyy (12)
• China
27 Oct 09
My friend,you must don't give up.We should never regret for something we have done.We should not carre how other people think,it just somebody else.Never don't be unhappy because other people.Life is long,we have a long way to go,the moment failure can not decide the future succes or failure.there is,emotions can not be forced,since no chance,do not force it.There is a better girl waiting for you at the next Inn.Good luck for you~!
• China
27 Oct 09
It is respectful that you love her reckless,but if you drop your study to fell in love with her,she maybe think that you are not a enterprising man.So go on with study is a right choice.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 09
I won't think people despise a failure. It so happen that you group of friends react in this way. Now at least you who they are. Don't lose hope . Forget about the girl. Concentrate on your studies to get your degree. Then you can get a good job and start a new life. All the best to you.
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
Just don't wait for others to encourage you. Give yourself the encouragement that you need for you to move on. Sometimes people would really make you feel that you are a loser when they cannot see any efforts of moving on from you. They do it to wake you up in a very rude way. Sometimes it works for some and not for others. The good thing of getting discouragement from others is having that realization that no other people can help you but you yourself. In times that you are the only one that can understand yourself its good to stand up and do what you have to do. When I say what you have to do I mean doing your real purpose.
@Zhizho (1351)
• Indonesia
26 Oct 09
Hi.Sorry,it should be not nice when someone rejected your love but maybe they look something that (sorry) weak in your self.You neglected your study.It will be proved that you are not seriously guy.Sorry,I'm not go with other people to judge you but maybe for next time,you should be logic in love and just think that maybe she is not right woman for you. Keep trying..
@aking888 (66)
• China
26 Oct 09
i think beacuse you give up studying and fall in love with gilr.as a mature man,he conld not do like this.she rejected you that what her droit.if you still fall in the love single,i think that is not worth.you must study hard and increase youself.after you success in working or studying,she will fell a pity to reject you.
@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
maybe you just have to accept the fact the she really don't like you. Though as you have said that you are brilliant in school but it is not the only factor the a girl will like you and fall in love with you. Character is one thing that the girl will look at. Why waste your time courting her if you already know her answer. If i were you, i will just focus on my studies and go on with my life. you will find the right girl for you where you can be happy with.