Can a cheater change?

I wouldn’t really call a person cheater if I am not sure that he’s been like that for quite some time. Many a times we are not sure about our own feelings and we actually love another person while we are dating somebody else. I don’t think this is cheating, its only that we cant really make up our minds…not everybody is precisely decisive in matters of heart. However, this guy broke up with his other gf and chose to continue with the relation with your sister…maybe he took his own time in realizing that your sis is the girl he really loves! Age should not really matter in a relationship…love, trust and sacrifice is all that makes a relationship work. If at 22 he’s smart and mature enough to shoulder the responsibility of marriage, then why not! Also remember that we cant foresee the future…even the perfectly matched couple might break up in the long run due to various unforeseeable circumstances. So don’t worry too much, just hope and pray that everything will be alright and enjoy the coming marriage.

No a cheater can't change. Once a cheat always a cheat. Maybe one day they'll be too poor, fat, ugly to get anyone, but they'll still try. Nothing funnier then seeing a washed out cheater get rejected over and over. It will never work with that person. If they cheated on you it shows they don't care about you. No matter what they say. How could you hurt someone you love? You can't. You can do whatever it takes to keep them from being able to cheat,but the love is not there. Don't waste your time.

Hey. I know you concern about your sister. But you should know onething is that's your sister's life. she can take care about herself. Besides. We can deny her fiance if will change later. But if he choose your sister. i think he will take this responsibility, I think you could talk with he. You can talk with him for those question.

Only a cheater knows! Honestly, I feel for you. If that was my sister I will also convince her not to get married and wait until she delivers her child. But its her life and if that's how she want it to be then, theres nothing we can do about it. All I know, once a cheater always a cheater! hahaha... Do you know anyone(cheater) who change? But you know, even it is hard to believe that his fiance will change...he might..yeah maybe he'll change and maybe you'll be surprised about it. As they say, people change. And they do. We always do. But the question is... when? Because it takes time for person to change. Your sister needs him now. All i wish is her happiness and hope that guy will change for the better.

The Simple Awnser is No. A Leopard never changes his spots, If he or she loved the other person at all they wouldent have cheated, Although people cheat for different reasons, its not right but If they were unhappy about being in the relationship and they tried to change things and it dident work why not just find someone else

I think a cheater may change, but...honestly I wouldn't even try because changing people is too hard and it's too easy to fail, changes should happen inside us and be wanted by us, I don't think any other person can 'have' us change. I've read your previous post on the matter, it's not your fault and I think you've done all the prossible, probabily now the most you can do is just to stand by her.

i don't think a cheater can change from a mindset standpoint. can they subdue themselves from cheating. yes, i think they can as long as they have self control which can be more difficult than just cheating,lol.

I think it is a difficult to make a decision.I don't think he can change!

I also think the man can not change if the story development like you said. I feel sorry for your sister. Now it seems she has no choice because she will have a baby with the man. I can imagine your sister will have a hard marriage life because she already doesn’t trust the man. It’s not good for to your sister and it’s not fair to her either.Now your sister should be ready to face if similar thing happen again what she will do. I mean she should learn how to protect herself and her baby in the future. Best regards.

some one has cheated in one relationship doesnt mean that he always a cheater in next relationship for the very same reason.in the relationship where he cheated,he was willing to gamble it away.so if he enters a commited relationship where he feels there much more lose.there a less likely chance he will want to risk it.does that mean he wont ot that he couldnt succumb to the temptation of tight topped bartender?of course not .cheating centainly can make some relationship impossible to continue but some infidels can indeed change,that is if he hopes to make other relationship even remotely possible

In my opinion, cheater is always a cheater no matter. My boyfriend once cheated me, he promised that he will chnge especially now that i am also pregnant. But just yesterday i found out that he was courting another girl and he even goes to the girl's house just to visit her. Until now i am crying because of that and I believe that he wasnt able to change forever.

I think "yes", but it will be a hard thing to do for him. It will took a painful experience or lesson for him to change. People can change no matter how bad we are. Its only that the people who knows this person cannot believe or hard to accept the fact. His "past" will always be remembered by those people who thinks that he cannot change no matter how he wanted to. Just give it a shot!

Some people can change, that is if the want to change is coming from their heart. But, people are people, we make mistakes from time to time. The thought of your sister getting married to person who have formerly cheated her is quite a gamble. I think you should investigate the activities of your soon to be brother-in-law to even out the odds. Anyway, I wish the best for you and your sister.

I don't know how long it was the fact, but people can change! And perhaps a child should grow up with a father, is not it?

earth2jacq, I cannot help setting a poser to your title here, can an ex-con change and be accepted back into the society? I feel that everyone should be given a chance to come clean and prove his/her worthiness and word. A person can evolve and change when they are able to see the issues from a better perspective and changes in their circumstances and surroundings. I am sure your sister's decision has her convictions and valid grounds. Like buying lottery, there is no telling if the decision will turn out in her favor or not, as her sister, I think you can only stay on the fence and support her. All of us, have to live with our decisions and that includes your sister. Take care and have a nice day.