is it really a big deal if you called your partner a different name when you....

@acie_21 (5633)
Philippines
November 6, 2009 10:50pm CST
were talking to him/her??????????????? is it????like for example you were talking to your boyfriend/girlfriend.. and suddenly he/she called you in other name(not your name,other person's name)... what will you think to your partner if that will happen?? what will you do???? will you be curious..or???doubt of something ....??? that your partner called you..his/her ex name???for example??? heheheeh!this is very funny..lol! keep sharing! feel free to post!guys!.. cheers!
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24 responses
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Well, I'm one of those guys. Sometimes I call my girlfriend not by her name, maybe because I was stressed out or maybe I've spent almost the whole day with the person that I mistakenly used his/her name to my girlfriend. But I was cautious and very careful that my girlfriend wouldn't hear it. Lol.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hi there charmz..... maybe thats ok..your gf would understand that... heheheh!when you called her different name... how did she react on it??? heheheh!..you working already???? why super stress???heheh! thanks! tc!
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
I don't know if she heard me calling her in different name. But she's very understanding and knows me very well. Nope, I'm still studying, super stressed because of term papers and hospital duties. lol
• United States
8 Nov 09
It is a big deal, it tells me that person is not paying attention to me. It also says what is on their mind, that person who's name they said. If you are being called by a different name there is a problem. If my husband ever called me by an ex girlfriends name that would be reason for another look at the relationship. I would never let him live it down. I would start calling him any other name but his own for a long time until he begged for forgiveness hah.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
I so agrre with you! Yes, that means that the name he called me is the person right in his mind. Well, I do not want that thing to happen to me. Or else, I would erupt. haha!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Hello Acie, Uhmnn...that's no big deal...we are all capable for doing mistakes...and slip of the tongue(calling someone by the other's name) is a normal thing....nooooootttttt....unlesssssss...when you two are in bed and having s*x....shuckssss...i could kill him weiiiiii
• India
7 Nov 09
hmm ..well in my case..first of all im very possessive about my girl..and if heard her calling out his name i would be really sad..its kinda like she still has him in her mind somewhere..and i really enjoy each and every second along with my girl..and while enjoying i wouldnt like my girl's ex(if she had one) name being mentioned from her mouth...it drives me real mad to know that the affections she is showing to me was once showed to another person..can't and dont want to picture that
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
heheheh!hi there friend.. you really love your girl so much huh??... may i know how many years or months you had your relationship with your girl?? so what will you do??will you forgive her if that situation happens?? thanks for sharing my friend! keep posting! cheers!
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
It would depend on the name. I would react violently if he called me by his ex's name. But these things happen. My cousin once called her little sister Portia. Portia is the name of her dog, by the way. LoL!
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
hi there.. so will you break up with him???lol! heheheheheh....oh ..thats funny..maybe her bf loves his dog much than her gf.. heheheh!hmm..Portia..sounds like a person's name..lol! thanks for posting! happy mylotting!.. cheers!
@The1one1 (105)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 Nov 09
Well, if my girlfriend called my another name, perhaps as you said her ex's name, i would be quite angry, and i would consider breaking up with her, so it really is a big deal for me
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
hi there!the1one1... heheheh!really??wont you give your gf a chance to explain???lol! hehehhe!thats really a big deal...for you huh?? why what will you think if she call's you her ex name??lol! cheers! heheheheeh!
• India
10 Nov 09
Yes, I would definitely be curious at first. Its my husband of 12 years and I would like to think that I know all of his friends and acquaintances by now. So suddenly he calls me by some other name (lady’s name of course) I would definitely be curious. If however, I already know that lady, I would not like it one little bit coz then I would think that my husband is spending so much time with this lady (office colleague or some other acquaintance definitely) and he’s forgetting his own wife’s name!
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
YEah, i will be curious as well as interested to know who does the name belong to.. lol =D Especially when it's another guy's name, and it's someone whom i dunno. lol =D Or maybe if i know that guy, i will still be very much surprised to hear his name instead of mine.. As names of other person will only come up, when they are often together, or spending alot of time doing certain things together.. Such as, if we dun spend much time chatting over coffee or dinner, but she does it wiht the other gal, thus subconsciously, she will think that i'm him instead and thus the name.. lol =D
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
7 Nov 09
if they called me by another name.. i think it would bother me somewhat but i guess it depends.. were they really busy and stressing out? if so i think i might understand a little... but if were just talking and it happened i don't know.. i think it would make me doubt. i know i would be curious as to why they called me someone else name.. were they thinking about that person? maybe they like that person? its never good getting called by someone else name but it does happen i guess... i think i have done it before but not to my girlfriend.. just to a friend or some person i knew...
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
lol thanks for sharing sameroad.. yeah!me too that would really twist my mind!lol... most specially if my partner called me his ex girlfriend's name!.... rrrrrrrrrrrrrr...... that would piss me off!... but if friends or other names..that would be ok...my husband is a busy man... so that wouldnt bother me at all.. thanks! cheers!
@danilliam (278)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
no be big deal if he do that because it trust him but when he do it everytime we are together then there is something not right with him.because why he will call me different name everytime when i am his gf and i am with him everyday or almost everyday.it is because he can be cheating on me or he have many other girls plus me.if i have suspicion that there are other girls i will ask him directly but if he deny it i will let it go for now.then i will start to ask other people friends of him if they know something.i will no if his friend is lying or not.but i not have bf now so i not have that kind of problem.hehehe
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
7 Nov 09
Unfortunately it is an easy thing to do however when it is done the partner usually finds it's unforgivable, especially when you're in the throes of passion. Nothing throws cold water on lovemaking than calling your partner by someone else's name. I have been advised that is why pet names are so important like sweetey, dear or honey and then you cannot make a mistake. Oh dear I love you sounds better than Susan I love you when her name is Jane. Those kind of mistakes will put you in the doghouse for sure, there is no turning back once that name has left your lips.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
hehehhehe!hi there mariposaman.. nice one!..lol! your totally right...thats what i mean..when your partner mistakenly called you the wrong name!..specially if its a serious talks..very insulting for us woman.. heheh!thanks for your post!.. rock on!... cheers!
@solared (1207)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Not unless is a ex, or they make it a habit, better to stick to petnames...lol
@IceTroll (77)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
LOl, Hey thats not my name . . . !!! GRRRR Of course a common reaction to this is doubt but then again some people are so caught up with their lives that they forget to say anything right. And so goes the wrong names. I know cause im one of those people :)
@spinna54 (79)
• United States
8 Nov 09
To me not really a big deal if it happens a few times,but if happening everyday then yeah,it makes you think. Does this person really care for a love me, but if it's just a few times in a month,it's not really a big deal,well that's just my opinion.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
7 Nov 09
i wouldnt be happy but it wont be a big to me since we've been married for 24 yrs. i have called her the wrong name either because i just got done talk to them, or i needed to do something for them
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Hello Acie good day..was this already happened to you? or to your husband? Well as for me, of course I would be curious to know who's this name. It would be foolish for you if you would not ask your husband. Not unless if you did it first..he he he I am becoming to be suspicious with you Acie...Cheers!
• China
7 Nov 09
Note "he"in his mind occupied a certain position you need to track who he is
• Boston, Massachusetts
7 Nov 09
... well, all of us commit mistakes and sometimes we are so preoccupied that we tend to be saying things that we really don't mean. I will just ignore it but if it is becoming a habit, something is wrong. That person might be thinking about another person while with you. You need to ask now and know the answer to settle any doubts.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
haha! nice question. If that situation would happen to me and my partner, I will get mad to him. Why does he have to call me other names when he knows from the very first what's my name. And hello, that's stupidity. I barely trust boys. It will bother me much. So I guess we will be in a great fight if that happens.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
7 Nov 09
I would be bothered because then I'd wonder, what is he thinking? And so more questions will follow and I would definitely be uneasy. I would have my doubts. I wouldn't like it one bit.