Do you sometimes wish that you have done things differently and can bring back
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13835)
Philippines
November 9, 2009 12:57pm CST
the past.
I admit that there are lot of things that i wish that i have done differently in the past. and that i have wished that i should have lived my life the way i know how life should be live. And if i could have thought of the things i know now that i could have been happy in my life. so much happy that i could live my dreams early on in life.
But as i lived in regret i realized that living in regret and trying to live in the past that i will not bring myself any benefit that i will just put myself into more problems in life. and so i realized that the time i wasted my life in regret and wished that i have lived differently, those were just waste of time. as i could not bring back my past,
i was not braved enough to face life before after many failures in life. and i lived for many years wishing i had done things differently. and now i want to live my life in the present and not any more try to worry much about the past or put much regret on the things i have not done in the past. cause if i live in the present then i can live life with a better and bright future. and i think that this is the right attitude in life. and i just wished that i had this attitude before so that i had not lived in regret . LOL. so i am still wishing now that i wish that i didn't live in the past these many years.
Okay that is my end of regret. time to live expectantly. past is past, it is just a memory. no matter how bitter it is. i want to live my life sweetly now. though it is still hard as i have lay the foundation for a live that is good. cause i have not started yet. and hope that things will work out fine soon.
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11 responses
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Hi hotsummer
I really don't think that there is one person out there that can honestly say that they don't something that they wish they could have done different.
I got married the first time around at a very young age. I was only 15 when I married the man of my dreams(which is what I thought then). We had two boys out of that marriage. He wasn't good to me. He was very mentally abusive thoughout the whole marriage. By the time that he had gotten sick with his heart, I had lost all respect for myself. It took the man Im married to now to get me out of this rut that I was put in. I will ever be thankful to him.
I guess what I would do over would be not get married so quickly and young at that time.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
i wasn't an attractive person before so no one got interested with me. LOL. if i was attracted person i bet i end up with a partner so early in life. anyways, it is sad to hear that things didn't turn up right. but i think it is not really the age but i think it is just you didn't end up with the good person. hope that you have better partner now or if single just a happy life with your kids.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I do have a great hubby now and my kids are all grown up and that makes it just me and hubby. Kinda makes it a little easier at times. Good luck with the rest or your life..Keep smiling.
@sunilcutein (66)
• India
10 Nov 09
Most i will not do anythings differently but i will do according to the situation. Mostly i will go in a safe manner where there will not be any risks and i will take any steps such that my family future will be good
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yeah it is important that our family will always be in good condition and so we always have to make right things in life.
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Hi hotsummer :)
Just a piece of advice :) Always remember that things happen for a reason.. Just like you I have also done many stupid mistakes in my life which until now I'm still paying the price for it. However, I realize without these failures, I wouldn't learn how to make things right.
During my first years in college I didn't know the value of pursuing my course then because it was a forced decision. Was the "most practical" choice. During those times I don't attend my classes because I just don't like it. When I became an irregular student and on probation I realized my mistakes. I was kicked out of our school publication despite my slot as the next editor, I lost communication with my friends and have to spend a year before I can finally graduate.. But then in the end given my past experiences I realize THINGS DO REALLY HAPPEN FOR A REASON.. Without my worst experiences, without those failures, I wouldn't have realizations of what I really want in life.
Currently I am a public high school student teacher and is about to graduate on March. I love my students and I'm very excited to graduate. I know I should have done better in my studies but who cares they're just grades.. they don't define who I really am. Experience is the great teacher as they say.. From my failures at school I learned not the classroom lessons but more importantly my purpose in life :)
Hmmm I guess you may still be in doubt now.. But even those failures have a reason. You just have to trust God in everything and do your part to live in the present and make up with those mistakes/ failures.. :)
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yes every thing does have a reason. though we don't know exactly what they are mostly. but we just have to hope it does have or else our sufferings will just be meaningless.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Way to go, hotsummer! That's how we should look at life, always moving forward, looking ahead, never turning back. Okay, it could do good to look back a few times to see what went wrong, so that we will be able to do better in our future. Regrets - I've allowed myself to linger on some, but like you, I realized doing so won't bring me benefits so I decided to let go of it all and started anew with a positive perspective, devoid of negative feelings, and full of hope and resolutions for a better shot at life.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yeah i have to see each as an opportunity to change things and to start over anew in life to be what i want to be in life
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Nov 09
In all honesty, all of us at one time or another have done or said something that we wish we could take back. At least i know i am guilty of this. My high school years would have been much different if i hadn't chosen my friendships differently. They were decisions i look back on with regrets. If only I could turn back time . Would i make the same decisions?
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yes i think that we mostly guilty of being wrong set of friends at one time in our lives. and we can't bring back our past and only leaves us wit regrets only. but we have no choice but to accept our own mistakes and try to be different this time.
@robbinredmon (48)
• United States
10 Nov 09
There are some things in my life that I wished that I would have done differently. I've learned thru my trials and lifes lessons that what I know now I would have made some different decisions about school, friends and past decisions that I have made.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yeah, we learned by our mistakes no matter how painful and bitter we had been through. we only have to make the best of every thing even those bad things that happened in our lives.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
Naturally when we were young, pretty and healthy we never think far ahead or probably have never plan our future properly. We do things randomly. Of course there were moments of sorrow as we sail through our life. When we are right in the midst of suffering, it's very hard to calmly consider all the wonderful things that might lie in store for us in the future. After all the future is always so unclear and hazy, while the pain we're experiencing is the present moment is so sharp and unmistakable. So we need to look at the bright side of life. Well, every cloud has a silver lining.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
when i was younger , i received lots of advice . all were good advice, and i was given warnings that if i don't take my life seriously and face all my problems early on in life that it will make my life more miserable and i will go through life miserable. and she was right. she gave the right advice on how i can turn things, situations or problems around and how to take my life back but i was too scared to face my problem back then when i was 24 back then. and i didn't listen to it though i know it was right advice deep in my heart. and now i really regret for taking things or problems lightly. she said not to push my problem aside and pretend it does not exist cause it will haunt me and it will keep bigger as days go. and it did actually. and now i feel now is the time. i had enough of this misery. i had enough of failures. i had enough of disappointments. i want to be a new person, i want to show the world who i am . to show them my good and beautiful side. it does not going to be easy to prove to the world that i can do something that i am something. i know i didn't clearly say what the problem was or what i really want to see in life. i will just have it for myself. but i plan to prove to people around me what i can do and what i should have been if i just back then dealt with my problem.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
There were times in my life that I have to make a decision. From the time that I was young until this point in time. In other words, there were cross roads that I have to decide which path to take. Most often, I took the easier way. Sometimes I ponder what would have happened if I did the other way. Well, the important thing is that I did not regret my choices. Perhaps, I am just thinking.. What if? What could I be now? Would it have been better. Well, as you have said past is past... Then again there are no regrets. So I live my life each day, facing tomorrow as me and is always ready to face another day with smile in my face. I am happy.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
yeah, we can a point in our life when we have to make important decision that will affect and determines our future.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
10 Nov 09
Looking back at my mistakes, I am sorry for hurting some people but doing things differently? I don't think so. I don't believe in regrets. I think that if you've done something, whether good or bad, there is a lesson to be learned. It all depends on how you look at things. I think I've grown a lot and I am who I am today not only because of the good choices I've made. It's also because of the bad. So, no, to date I think what I've done has gotten me to where I want to be and I am contented with where I am.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
the way we view things make the whole of difference on how we deal with our mistakes in the past.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Nov 09
You always see in movies, or read in books where a character would say that he/she has no regrets in life. You even sometimes see these with some famous people being interviewed in major networks. I would also like to get to that stage in life. Where you can honestly say that the bad choices you made in life where part of what made you.
But for now, I am not there yet. I still choose to wallow in regret, sometimes live in the past. Hopefully one day....
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
yeah i wish that i could say one day in my heart that i could accept whatever had happened in life. but it seems the healing process is starting now but it is moving too slow though. i need some beautiful things i guess to happen in my life so i can forget my regrets in life. i need some beautiful things to happen to me some nice blessings that somehow will be kind of compensation if you can call it that way.
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
10 Nov 09
It is obvious that there is on one person that have done differently in the past, which are just our wishes.
In my opinion, most people may have regreted making some mistakes, so, some people may live in regret and want to try to live in the past. As you have said above, you will not bring yourself any benefits that you will just put yourself into more problems in life. It is better to pay more attention to the current life than to lay too much emphasis on the past time.
If one has spent much time on living in regret, it is really a waste of time and the best way to enjoy a better life is to face the life bravely with enough courage.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
yeah i think that most people had some or many that the regret doing in life. only few people can actually say that they are really happy and nothing do they regret but i guess they were brought up well and was given with lots of love and understand by people around them. but for people like me who seemed to faced life with few friends i had lots of regrets.
