How often do you get discouraged , depressed or just even sad?
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13835)
Philippines
November 12, 2009 1:40am CST
We have different lives to live. and we grew up in different environment and we have different physical and emotional make up. what is easy for one person may be difficult to the other person . What makes one happy does not necessary make another person happy. What bothers one person a lot may be just simple annoyance to another person that can be easily over looked.
But for me , there are lot of things that makes me feel sad right now. it is normal thing for me to be sad and discouraged each day. i just try to do something in my life each day to keep me busy to keep my thoughts away from anything that makes me sad and gives me some pain in my heart but it was like a temporary remedy which does not really change my situation or help me overcome my sadness.
how i often wish in my younger years till now to have a better life or normal life like other people . it is okay if i don't have an easy or comfortable life as long as i have what is important or precious to me that has nothing to do with money i will be happy and that will take away my sadness and depression away.
So how often you do get and for what reason? is it like a daily thing for you to be sad like me. ?
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14 responses
@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
szlhff know what makes you sad. deal with it, don't deny yourself of that feeling. i feel sad to sometimes, i make sire to ask myself which part makes me sad and why? that helps...
@tanajimengawade (168)
• India
12 Nov 09
Hi,
Now world is full of competition. If you have to servive here, need to work hard and work extra. Altimately we will not get time to spend with your dear ones, and this results in unhealthy condition and stress and related things.
In case of me, depression, discourage, stress are having very low value or negligible.
I am working in pune, india. whenever i thing that somethings is not happening good or its opposite to my mind, i use to leave for week. and i prefer to visit my native, its small village. one big river is touching to village, so all environment is green and fresh. We once i enjoy my village for one week, next two months will be good and easy for me. This is my way to keep tension, stress way and its really working.It gives me two benefits, one i becomes stress free, and another is i get time to spend with my mom and dad.
Different peoples have differnt way to get rid of tension and stress.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
you are lucky that you have a place to go to when you are stressed to relax and enjoy the beauty of nature. i don't know a place like that. there are popular place for tourist but i don't consider it relaxing cause i need to spend a lot to go on those kind of place. i wish to have a place near by with beautiful nature to see without spending money on going there .
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yeah i think there are lots of good beautiful places to see in your country. even the average people can enjoy. unlike here in my country. you either to be a farmer or live in very remote place to see and experience such beautiful place. or have the money to go such remote place. i have heard that india is beautiful.
@tanajimengawade (168)
• India
12 Nov 09
Hi, i am really lucky. beutiful, green, and fresh nature is one great gift given by god to my village.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
oh i hope that before christmas something good happens. may he find work soon.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
I'm also experienced depression over the years and it is hard to overcome it. To some it is very easy for them to move on and go back to their normal life. For me it is hard to do that because my life would not be the same again like before. My friends before stop getting in touch with me I feel abandoned. Sometimes even my family doesn't understand me they don't feel what I feel. I hope we going to get over our depression.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Did something happen that makes you so sad, or is this just a way of being? My mom is sad all the time and refuse to be that way. She constantly makes everyone around her feel bad, and her life really is not that bad. I would say if I am anything on a regular basis it would not be sad or depressed but worried. But it is not constant. I am worried right now because my son needs eyes surgery but he might not be able to get it because of another problem and my husband's work is laying off people in a few weeks, I am not sad or depressed because I can't control any of it and I try to push it out of my mind, but I do worry my son and our finances, but I try not to let the worry affect my day, I just try and work harder on my online stuff so I can make more money in case my husband loses his job.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
i am sad always. yeah definitely there is a cause to it. i have been known as a loner since childhoold. never get well with classmates as kids seem to not like me as much. as an adult people tend to criticize me for being ugly and different sort. and so that really made me more isolated and scared of socializing. because of this fear i tend to lose the chance to meet good friends cause i was too afraid to take risk because of my bad experience in childhood. anyways, wish i took the chance and had the courage not to be so shy and tried to trust other people specially the good people. cause it made me more lonely when i tried to hide.
my family does not seem to like me either. my mom, i heard her said once to our helper that nobody loves me or would love and she was laughing as she was saying this and that really hurt me a lot. my mom is a person who gave so many unkind words and hurt me a lot her words while i was growing up and made me feel so unworthy. though i can't blame her for what other people has said to me while growing up but i feel that she has not done enough to protect me or even just make me feel that i am not that bad. and sometimes i feel that she approved what others has said to me.
i think i am not like this because of who i am , it is more like the every day events affected me so much. i can easily be a happy person. i just need a kind person to stand by always. but it seems when you need it is just hard to find it.
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 09
I think what makes me even discouraged, depressed or sadder when the people I am close with do not appreciate of what I am doing. Sometimes, I just feel neglected or because I can't contribute more that I will feel left out. There are times when I feel that I always have bad luck and I don't feel like I am blessed to accomplish with anything good. I am not sure how often and it's not a daily thing, but the feeling comes and goes...
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
that for sure will make any one unhappy if the people around him does not appreciate what a person is doing. that what makes me sad too here in my place. i don't have some one who will appreciate and be there for me.
@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
corrycrystal, if it is any consolation, let us remember that we are capable of creating a positive energy around us. if people wont appreciate what we are doing, don't mind them so long as we do something. there is no such thing as back luck only negative thoughts. please try to read some spirit uplifting books. Books authored by Mr. Og Mandino is a very good source of it. i am not promoting him :-) i just like his books, it helps me uplift my spirit and fine tune my perspective in life.. :-)
@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Hotsummer, i would suggest to look into what is the cause of your feeling. be sensitive to the events or situation that triggers the feeling. i believe you have some issues that need to look into yourself and to deal with, these issues might be a long time ago, that you might even forgotten but reappear because there are circumstances that triggered it.
Face the issues, don't deny yourself the feelings that you are suppose to feel. what is important to nourish our emotions from day-to-day is we should acknowledge our feelings, we experience the feeling, allow it to surface and process the feelings after. and see what happens..
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
yeah that is true. something really triggered this emotion. i didn't know exactly at first i was feeling sad and having this nostalgic emotions in me. like why all of the sudden i wanna get back to my past and correct some things i felt i did wrong. it was really sad feeling. i did try to hide what i am feeling and just ignore and pretend that i was not hurt and i was not affected. but somehow when something reminds us of it, that it will just trigger what we keep hiding inside and will just explode.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Nov 09
hot summer
the only sadness for me is my son being out of wor k, and me
having to live here in this retirement center but whenhe gets a job
and some money ahead that could all be remedied. so now I must strive
to be happy where I am with what Ihave as it does no good to moan
and groan and feel sad for yourself. that does not help you to become
happier as it weighs down you very soul.@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
are you in retirement center because your child is out of work. i am not much familiar with the culture of your country. cause here in my country we usually have the elderly with us even if the family is poor. we have retirement center but it is not usual thing for us to do that.
@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 09
I think in one day i can feel all those feelings more than one time. We can feel those feelings while we are on a mission or a job. For a sample example, when the lunch time come, i go to the nearest food court and when i can't found any food which can fulfilling my taste on that day, i will feel sad at that time directly. And when i want to printing something for my job but i found the printer can't work well, i will feel depressed because that error printer will make my job on pending status. So i believe as long as we all are alive, those three feelings you had mentioned above can be occur anytime any day and any where no matter what is the reason or what is the causer, we are just human with all feelings we have. Sometimes even happy and sad feelings can come together at the same time. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yeah it is annoying and depressing when things are not working the way we expect it to. but still i find working as one way to get our mind off our sadness.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Underneath all my smiles and praises to everybody else, I am currently sad with a lot of things that only I know. There are so many facets of life that I am facing that I get discouraged with so many things but all I can do is swallow everything and gulp it down all at the same time.
I wish that I could go back in time and fix alot of things I have done but of course i cannot. Thus, I move on with facing life with a positive manner. How I really wish I could turn back time and understand how life is so much better.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yeah i agree with you. i think we are in the same boat. we view life in the same manner. but the difference i know how to change my life back then and turn it for my good but i did nothing. it was because it was too hard to sacrifice some things just for me to have the best things in life. i guess to get the best things in life you are willing whatever it takes to be happy in life. we have to be courageous. hope you will know too what you need to do in life to have a better life and hope you will not be discourage like me.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 09
Hi.When something was happened in my life,I felt sadness each day and regretted,blemming my self and felt can't do anything,cried but thanks god I had great husband who support me,accompany me,teach me to be person who be grateful for all happen in my life,help me to reminded that everything could be happen by permitted of God.He ask me to give over my problem to God,just wish strong from Him.And be positif thingking that God will give happyness after sadness.Until now,I try to change my mindset and try to keep positif thingking.God never give you some problem except God believe that you could trough it.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
nice to hear that you have a very supportive husband with you who help you each you are sad . that is what's good in having a partner or being married. you are not alone in life.
@greatsasuke (472)
• United States
12 Nov 09
When I was in my teens and early twenties I used to get depressed over many things. The problem was that as I got older I found out that life wasn't as rosy as it seemed to be compared to when I was a small child. I don't know if it was due to the fact that I just became more aware of the problems everyone faces in life or because I lost my childhood innocence. Now, I realize that most of the problems are created in my own mind. I mean I have certain expectations and if life doesn't fulfill them then that is what triggers depression. I have learned not to expect so much and therefore I don't get depressed so much anymore.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
yeah life is not a bed of roses and there are lots of thorns in life that will make us suffer. and also being pessimistic and without hope really going to put a person down.
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
12 Nov 09
To be frank, I may be a brave man and usually, I don't get ddiscouraged or epressed too often. I guess it is really boring thing if one gets depressed everyday.
In such a society, full of keen competition and various difficulities, most people tend to get discouraged easily for big pressure. Sometimes, I may feel discouraged if I meet a big failure or don't finish my task on time. But even if I get depressed deeply, what I want to do is just to try my best to improve myself to make me calm down.
If one gets depressed all the time, in my eyes, the bad emotion may have side effect on one's daily normal life, even a waste of time. Perhaps the best way to face the troubles in life is to push ourselves to reach our top form. @hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yes i think that i need to push my self to improve. i am not really depressed over poor career or whatever. though having good career or having a high paying job will help me forget my misery but that is not for me the real solution. it may only be a way of escape to my real problems in life. i just wish to solve my real problem which is about relationships.
@joshua1987 (20)
• China
12 Nov 09
hi friend , i think all of us whould feel discouraged, frustrated when some bad things happened, it's the part of life ,sadness teach us the significance of happiness,failure is a mother of success, all of these assure us each setback had it's reason, u could overcome it as long as u look the bright side and encourage your self when the things happened!
move on let's have a great day~
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
thanks joshua, your words mean a lot to me. i will definitely going to try to overcome my situation. and see the bright side of life. i am starting now actually. hope it will not take that long to see that bright cloud and the rainbow along the horizon.
@buzzjunky85 (65)
• Malta
12 Nov 09
Every time im alone, and haven't with socializing with anyone for more than 2 days
