what parenting syles do you prefer?
By rosey19
@rosey19 (951)
Philippines
November 14, 2009 12:20am CST
There are three parenting styles that can be use to discipline children. First is the autocratic parent with the belief of "I must Control my child. Second is the permissive parent with the belief of 'I must Please my child". Third is the democratic parent with the belief of "I must Lead my child". From among the three styles which one do you prefer to use for your children and why?
3 responses
@cathrineyuan (26)
• China
14 Nov 09
Of course the third one!Children are the future of the country.We must lead the children.Because it is the creation which is the most important one we must cultivate.Only the creative children be will do better to his life and his career and our country.The children's thought and interest is the most essencial one.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
For me democratic parenting style is good if they children really follows you. But children nowadays are influence by many factors affecting their sense of responsibility and behavior especially if parents are working and the only left behind with them are their nanny. Sometimes they got their attitude from their nanny so we are wondering why he/she is acting wherein I am not teaching him to be like that. So better apply other approaches that can lead your child to a better person when he grow up.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I have to agree that there is no one style or cookie cutter type of parenting. Even my own kids each required different styles of parenting. I believe in consequences and accountability. My kids always knew I meant what I said. I was never big on threatening over and over..I was much better at follow through. I think when they are little it's more about controlling their environment. I never beleived I should please my child by being permissive, and If I said it once I said it a 1000 times..Democracy applies to the country we live in..not the rules in my house..you might get a vote on where we go for vacation, but not on the rules.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Yes that's true. I do also consequences whenever they will not follow my house rules and I really meant it. What I did was to enumerate to them the consequences if they disobey my rules and they will be the one to choose which punishment they will have to undergo. So by doing it, when they break my house rules they already knew what they will undergo. You know children of today's generation are so manipulative and if we allow them to be manipulated we will be facing a bigger problem when they grow older. So as early as they are young they must be controlled and be guided of what is the correct way.
@borhan (1338)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I think, no single styles is enough for parenting. If you ask me which one i follow, then i can say that i practice combination of all those. Sometimes controlling, sometimes guiding and sometimes leading. Everytime you cannot exercise autocracy on them and at the sametime you must not keep them in pleasing status also. Thats why, i feel that a combination to these is a great mode of raising children.
Thank you.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I agree with you because in my case I also use combination of the three parenting styles. Especially for children in this generation who's behavior are influence by television. They are less attentive to your instruction and rules in the house. It seems that they have their own world which they get from television. That is why disciplining them as early as they are young must be impost.
