Do you believe on some people saying they fall in love with two person?

Philippines
November 17, 2009 10:03pm CST
Have you been falling in love with two person simultaneously? Do you believe people saying they fall in love with two person at the same time? Or they are not falling in love rather they just need the person? What do you think?
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@eloouuu (176)
18 Nov 09
I think dependency and love are two things which are commonly confused. Love is subjective. To me, love is a connection with a person on such a level of intimacy that you could only share it with that one person. Love between one couple differs to that of love between another couple. Love is a feeling of completion, of adoration, admiration, worship, happiness, security, a unity. While I agree that there are many kinds of love I do not believe it is possible to have feelings of similar value for more than one person. I find that contradictory to the point of being in love. If you were truly in love and experienced what I have just described, how could you experience that with another person? If you were truly happy, if you felt complete, how would those feelings have ever been discovered or allowed to develop without a break of trust and confidence? It may be that people with different values and definitions of love may create a circumstance or a situation in which it is possible for them to justify the notion that they have fallen in love with two people however I would not describe that as love but indecision. A strong emotional attachment, perhaps, but not love. Love is such a complex concept that it is understandable for people to be confused; to know whether or not that was what they were experiencing and I wouldn't think for one moment that any one definition of what it means to be in love could be correct. I also do not believe that if you have fallen in love once you can never fall in love again; I know from personal experience that relationships and emotions can change over time and love can be fallen into and out of, but I would also reckon that if somebody was developing feelings of this nature for one person it would come as a result of discontentment within their current relationship. Needless to say it is not something I have ever experienced so this could be seen from an entirely separate perspective which I have never considered.
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• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I really appreciate your effort for elaborating your opinions on this topic. I enjoy reading your comments. Yeah you're right, it could be impossible to give the same amount of love to two individual at the same time. Love is a different from needs. For me, sometimes it start with the need of the person where love blossom. It's on the feeling of pity where love begins that through time you will realized that you love the person and not just need. Thank you very much for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• India
18 Nov 09
Hi, No, fall in love with only one girl and now she is wife. It is possible, some people can fall in love with two person. But i think, such type of love will not exist for longer time. Because i believe in, Love happen at first sight and with single person. If you like another person, then, is your first love was fake or what? This will be unfair with first one. If you have confident that you can maintain very healthy and trusty love triangle then go for it. But take care that no-one get hurt. Hurt in love leads to very bad ending.
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I think we can fall in love for so many times, just like falling out of love, but we can experienced true love once in our life. But still love is a complex feelings that's hard to define and give definite meaning. But what matter is love give us life. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• India
19 Nov 09
Hi, I do agree with you. Love is really comlicated fact and unpredictable. Thanks, have a nice day
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
i think need is what is that. some people does not want to be alone so they always save one for a rainy day. i know someone who is like that. it is not fair but when they are hurt they always wanted to have someone to run to. i dont understand it for that would be unfaithful. for me you can never love two person at the same time. maybe others call it love but that is not love there is another reason to that. security? company? shoulder to cry on?
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Yeah, you're right sometimes people don't know how to define what they feel and they thought that it's gonna be love, as love often combine with need and longing with the person. As you said probably it could be company or security. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
19 Nov 09
Wow I think it is possible that he could meet two people taht he is attracted to but it wont be to the same extent .I am thinking that there must be one who he loves more,one that he connects with more and that is the one who he really loves.So it is possible to find two people who he loves but one who he loves more
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
You're right there would always be the one whom we can truly connect, we might love them both but not to the same extent and level and amount of intensity. That's why it's often hard to find the difference, and it could hurt us to leave the other one. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
18 Nov 09
I don't believe you kind fall in love with two people. Sometimes love can be confuced wth likeness and you can like someone deeply that you think you are in love. Infactuation can also be confused with love. Such people are confused and have not being able to sort out thier feelings.
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Yeah, they are confused and their feelings are mixed up that's why they thought and define it as love. Since love is quite hard to decipher and give exact meaning. And mostly infatuation are often confused with love. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I think you can love someone and be in love at the same time....which is totally different..... Loving someone you do not have the intense feelings that you have when your "in love" When you are "in love" it is a heart and soul kind of love. One that cannot be copied... It is the love you have when you see that person and have butterflies..... You know when I first was with my ex husband I felt butterflies for about the 1st year, they did not last long.... I did not know any different and that it could be different..... The husband I have now I have been with since 2005 and I still get the butterflies when I have not seen him all day and even when I hear his voice on the phone.... I am "in love" with my husband but now that I know the difference I believe I was never "in love" with my ex but I just loved him. That sure changed.....
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
It's good that you'd able to differentiate love based on your experienced because there are so many trapped of thinking and feeling of being in love. Only through experienced we'll able to learned. We all fall in and out of love for many times, but it's only once we experienced true love. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I hate to say it but until you get older you do not understand the full aspects of Love... Even if when you are older you are with the same man.... You learn through experience like you said whether it is with the same one or the experience of divorce... I have expressed several times to other discussions the difference in this marriage compared to my first....It is the butterflies!!!!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I really can't imagine myself loving two people at once. It doesn't sound like love to me at least not love in the way that I would want it and want to give it. I have heard people claim that they love 2 people at the same time and to me it just sounds as if they might care deeply about both of them and are not sure which one they really want to be with. I really don't know. It would not be for me.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
18 Nov 09
I don't think it's love. The first person maybe the true love and the third party may be a feeling of wanting. sometimes people are often confuse between love and infatuation. In this case it may depend on the current situation that the person involve.for example in his/her current relationship he/she is sick and tired of his/her partner and the love fades and here's another person that can provide him/her everything he/she needed in a relationships, this person may fall in love and the love from the other(first relationship)person may die.
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Yeah, I got your point. It's valid. Infatuation and love sometimes caught people in confusion. Especially when one is having some trouble dealing with present relationship thus enable him/her finding other person. That later on makes him difficult to identify which is which. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
18 Nov 09
I think it is possible. That's why some people are polygamous. I, however, am monogamous to for me, it is impossible for me to do that. For other people, I can't say because it's really a mindset and how they feel. I don't judge anyone who has fallen in love with more than one person at the same time.
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
You're right, it's a mindset and we can't blame for other people feeling that way. It might be strange, and quite difficult to comprehend what they feel. But we're all different and unique individual and that's makes a difference. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@krkavsy (191)
• India
18 Nov 09
Not at all. It is not possible that a man can love two women at a time and vice versa.
@bernjane (143)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
You can always give love to everyone but there is a confusion of what love can you give to a person. There is friendly love that you can always give to everyone even to your closest guy but a love that is sincere and its like gonna be heaven when you are with him it's different from the love you have given to anybody. You cannot both love the same person once because for a fact that you can live without the one and you can't live without the other. Maybe you are confused of the love you have given to anybody.
23 Nov 09
there's no such thing as you love both persons..It's only a matter of admiration that you can't find on your partner's character..
• United States
19 Nov 09
I don't think you can fall in love with two people at the same time. I'm in love with my husband and I care for my friends. I think that sometimes when people meet someone, find they have a lot of interests, and it is new, they may think they have fallen in love. I think it is more of a new friend that you have a connection with and care about quickly and it scares you into thinking it is love. With my husband, I don't see any other man in the world but him.
@77klove (109)
• United States
19 Nov 09
In response to your inquiry...in my opinion, Yes and No. I guess you have gotten similar responses before, but as far as I am concern, deppends but it is possible. I have seen individuals who claim to only love one person (they are in denial) but next thing you know, they are madly inlove with this other person (privately)... My experience, they tend to stay with that practicular person more because he or she may be better fit to the family's expectations and sees who-ever that other person may be to be her true self. I guess you could say that she or he is not her when they are with their companions...but again it all deppends
@baba2020 (80)
• India
18 Nov 09
its possible. you can fall in love with one or two or more.... Every moment in your life you will love with any one or anything.