When people are talking to you do you think,

@jugsjugs (12967)
November 21, 2009 2:07pm CST
why am i listening to this load of rubbish as you know the person is telling lies about their job,or something else that is not really interesting to you?Do you just tend to nod yes and no in the right places as well as smile.
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• Philippines
24 Nov 09
I just nod. It what we are talking about is uninteresting to me I just nod, I just give them the feeling that I am still listening, I don't show my plain face, i smile and listen still. People like them that keeps on bragging about themselves but obviously what they are saying is not true, I still listen. I listen to every words that they say but I never take it seriously like I will think about it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Well. . .My mother's best friend is one of those people that will talk for hours and hours about nothing at all. Most of the time it is when we are on the telephone with her, so I have to admit that I tune her out a lot and just reply with uh huh or yeah or whatever else when she stops to take a breath. If that isn't bad enough, it is nearly impossible to get off of the phone with her. It just goes on and on. Don't get me wrong, I really like her but she talks too much all of the time.
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• United States
21 Nov 09
Girl were you @ my work last night????? I had to do that last night w/ a customer. Good golly! I don't mind if someone shares their faith w/ me ect but for like a minute. This lady was @ my check stand for 10 maybe even 15 minutes (as it was super slow at nearly 11pm) telling me how Jesus saved her & he'll save us all & gave me a pamphlet from her church... Ok I'm all for everyone having faith in God and the variations of religions out there. But I'm not for discussing it at my job, nor debating my beliefs versus another persons.... It was a blessing when another customer came finally and this lady left. Don't get me wrong I'm sure her heart was in the right spot even if she did annoy me to pieces. My supervisor who was a few stations away said she was contimplaiting "scolding" me to get back to work! Just to get this lady out of my line. The womans own Mother (80 something)walked away from her as she began to babble.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Nov 09
hi jugsjugs yes I do as I do not like to hurt anyone's feelings and as far as lies none of us are perfect. so what this person is saying might not interest me but it must be interesting to the person talking to me . What would you have me to tell them this is a load of rubbish? What in the world would that accomplish but anger and hurt? Good manners dictate that you be courteous to all unless they are really insulting you.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 09
thanks for the best response as I always appreciate that and it feels good to get one.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
21 Nov 09
I got caught! Oh that is so funny how many times have I done this. Some people just love to hear themselves talk and its just so agravating especially when they are just lying or bragging. Turns me off just like that. I'm sure they know I really don't care because its hard for me to hide my feelings. I will go thru the motions with the yes and no and of course keeping that smile on my face but please stop the lies and who really cares that you went out and brought a BMW.
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
2 Dec 09
sometimes I do when I looking for an opening to punch in my interests and want them to do what I want. Else I just call them on the BS and tell them like I see it, no holds bars. lol
• Canada
30 Nov 09
I make it known from the start that I don't have time to be there, and listen to that. People who know me know enough not to include me in that crap. I have things to do, work to do, money to earn, things i want to do with my life, and sitting around listening to other people's crap is noe one of those things. I have plenty of friends who have great things to say, and I'll take all the time in the world to listen to them.
• United States
23 Nov 09
Yes I do tend to nod and smile but only when the lies do not personally affect me or my family. However I do have a "Yeah Right" expression on my face and if it is personal then all hell breaks loose.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Well, in order not to be rude, I just listen but not saying anything to comment or to add to his rubbish talking. I would think, this person who keeps on talking things like that have problems in their lives and as a defense mechanism, they make stories telling lies to get the attention of others. I know, it is annoying, but they need somebody to listen to them. Just be there to listen and that would be enough even if they are boring...
• United States
23 Nov 09
yeah i do that and then while they yak it up i plan my escape.. most of the time its not even worth trying to correct them or calling them out on it because they will just deny but if they were saying lies about a friend or something then i would interrupt or walk off.. otherwise i just nod and then wait for them to take a breath and excuse myself
@celticeagle (158876)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Nov 09
Occasionally I have been known to that. When my mother was still alive she would repeat herself so badly that I would actually put the phone down and go to a task and then come back and Mom would not even know I had been gone. I don't know if she knew she was repeating stories or not. After you have heard something the second and sometime third time it gets alittle rediculous.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
23 Nov 09
I do try to listen to whatever people have to say because I hate it when I’m not being heard. There are times when it is really hard though. I remember years ago I had a supervisor at work who was once in the Navy and used to come out with Navy stories; it didn’t take long for us to have heard all of his tales in a relatively short time so whenever I had a tea break and felt stuck listening to his never ending stories for the umpteenth time I admit my mind did wander and I would stop hearing him after a while!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
If people talking to me. I'll make sure that I answer yes or no in the right place. This is natural for people but there are some that when someone talking to them they cannot answer even a kind of smile...
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
22 Nov 09
As far as i have nothing to loose nd the person who is telling all those lies is my friend then i would just nod my head as if i am listening to him and let him complete the tantrums or lies else i wouldnt mine to tell him on his face tat i have some work and got to go nd not interested in his stuff.gud day.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Sometimes we have to listen to them even if the topic doesn't interest us and we have to learn how react to it. It may sometimes sound boring to us but we have to listen for these people expect us to listen. Have a good day.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
There have been times that I felt that way. There are also those specific individuals that our conversations only revolve around a limited number of topics. I usually dont respond to those that well anymore. I do give the courtesy of acknowledgment that I still am listening to what they were saying. I just have that thought in my head "here we go again", "when will we move on to other things", or I just roll my eyes at some points. Of course Im careful that they wont see my actions. But after talking about those things always, it gets tiring in listening to the same old things. There really isnt anything new. We were just repeating what we have been doing before. There are also those times where I asked the person for a specific answer then he/she would go on and on about details that I couldnt care less about. What matters to me at that point is that I hear a definite answer from him/her. If I like it or I dont, I still have tact in not hurting the other person. I can bear it most times but there have been few occasions where I might have shown a bit of impatience. We just gotta deal with it.
• India
22 Nov 09
Yes I smile and encourage too
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
22 Nov 09
Yes, I do do that. I just think it would be rude not to at least pretend to be involved in the conversation even though its negative and I wouldn't be interested in listening to it. I do think something else in my mind too.
• China
22 Nov 09
It's hard to say,I can't imagnine that listening carefully while the talker is lying.if I can have a chance to choose,I will take the "no interesting",for me,it's esaier to go on.
@Norah0804 (165)
• China
22 Nov 09
If someone are talking to me and the topic was not interesting, i would listen to her(or him) with patience. Since politeness is important in relationships. But if he told lies, i would stop to do my own things and refuse to have a conversation again. Try to be honest with your heart, do not do the things against your thoughts. Have a good day.