Does your parents close to their families?

United States
November 22, 2009 11:18am CST
Honest to say, my father wasn't that close to his family, neither to my uncles and aunts, ever since my grandmother pass away. It seems he seldomly keep in contact with them, or talk to them anymore on the phone. Only on the occasion of my uncles needing my father's attendance. Last week, my cousin's wedding, once again, we get together, but we don't talk that much, only about the trivial stuff. I felt weird, and my parents didn't stay long at the party neither. So, does your parents close to their families too?
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@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
hello clorissa! my mom is very close to her family...both sides. but ith my father, he's not that close to his family, specially on his mom's side... maybe because of the issues they have before...and i think it also have something to do with my dad's personality...he's someone who don't really mingle with people and most of the time quiet... some of his siblings specially the younger ones avoids him sometimes coz they always get some nags and lectures from him! haha but now, i guess, they are trying to fix things between them and trying to be closer with each other... its a good thing that my mom do have a friendly personality, bridging the gap of my father to other family members...so all in all things are better now than before in the family...
• United States
22 Nov 09
I am glad that your dad and his family side is bridging the gap. I also want to bridge the gap for my father's family's side, but it seems that some of his siblings don't want to work things out. So, I was unable to do anything at all. So, hope that everything work out for your dad and his family all together.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
hi clorissa... well it will really be difficult to do a thing if the other party refused to cooperate...it takes two to tango. but anyway, don't lose hope and just be patient. you can pray and ask for God's help and guidance so that everything in the family will be better... well actually, its fine with me even if they are not that close to each other, what's just important is that they are in good terms and feel comfortable with the presence of each other...
@besthope44 (12135)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well, our parents have touch with their families and relatives every month. They all lived together and so they do have in good terms. When it comes of any occassion, they all find themselves happy, greeting each other and having non stop talks..lol.
@aguas_aj (501)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
well, yah. sometimes, it's a good thing being close with all relatives but sometimes, its also bad, they got to abuse my mom.since she's close with her family. and since my dad is gone, I dont get to know my grandparent in his side. seeing all my relative is nice and cozy especially, I get to be at home with them, no pretension and definitely no state of being proud
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
24 Nov 09
Both my parents were close to their family. But my father's family was always against him and they try to hold graduages against him and they always do things to hurt him. There comes at poitn that he stop meeting him. My mother's family is close to her but I feel both of their family take them for granted and misbehaved as well.
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
My both parents are not close to their families. My father's kin lives far from us and so they just seen each other for a long long time already. my mother's kin also lives so far that they rarely seen each other.
@vincyk (198)
• China
23 Nov 09
Yes,they are keep in touch with their families very much and have a good close relationship with them.Eveytime when there are some diffculties ,we all try our best to help each other.Every year when the New Year's festival coming in ,we will go to my grandma's house and spend with her our first day in the New Year and second day we'll go to my another grandma's house to spend the second day.Sweet all the time~
• China
23 Nov 09
hi,clorissa! my father has two sisters and a brother.they get togethetr on festivals.and they don't contact with each other at ordinary time.my mother has one sister only and she goes to see her very often. even if when getting together,relatives always play cards all the time,having nothing to talk about almost.people live in their own worlds respectively,having very little time and ineterest to know about lives of others... have a nice day!
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
I have grown up from a culture wherein close family ties is really important. So as, my mom and dad are close to their parents. I had observed it, I mean it really shows on the way they care. The good thing here is that, we are encouraged to do the same, that is, to be close to our parents so as to our grandparents also.
@Porcospino (30191)
• Denmark
23 Nov 09
My father is not very close to his family, he doesn't like to call his mother and he always tries to convince my mother to do it for him My grandmother is very, very talkative, when we call her she usually keeps on talking for hours, and my father often gets impatient, that is why he wants my mother to call her. My father doesn't have a close relationship to his brother either. They talk to eachother at parties etc, but aside from that they don't spend a lot of time together. My mother is close to her mother, and my grandmother and I also have a close relationship. My mother's brother has a daughter and I have spent more time with her than my other cousins. My uncle recently got divorced, and my cousin just moved out of home, so my uncle is a little lonely at the moment and my mother often invites him over.
@tictac213 (118)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Well, I would say these days everybody is very busy in their own lives, no time to talk to someone or to meet with someone. I believes its not how often, chat or meet with your family but what matters is the family bonding, the bond of happiness, the bond of sorrows you share with family. Even in my family we dont meet each others frequently as everyone is either busy in their work or in their studies and in their personal lives but still we all know that we share a very strong bond. On each and every festilval youngers of our family call my dad or mom and my parents call their elders to share those moments of happiness. Recently my uncle had a heart attack and had to undergo bypass and my dad was by his side till he comes to his house. All of my family members from all over the world (when i say all over the world i really mean it) call him, supported him, showed him concerns and care and really prayed for him and there again comes that family bonding which we share i would say! Have a great day!
@cream97 (29152)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi, clorissa123. Well, with certain family members my dad is. But, he usually does not deal with certain family members because of how they treat him. He only deals with ones that make him feel comfortable. My mom is deceased so I can't really speak for her. I do know that she loved her family very much.