I am easy nervousness.how to solve it?

China
November 27, 2009 4:30am CST
i always be in nervousness.i hate this feeling.i don't know it's the result of lack of confidence.When i go to a new place,have a new roomate,go out to see some friend(especially meet a man),i will be nervous.All will speed up my heart.But i aways pretend to be calm.By the way,if i accidently heard some words about me from other's dialog,i aways want to know whether they are talking about me.I am tired.Do you have such experience?Do you any good ways to avoid it?
11 responses
@Downwindz (2535)
• Netherlands
27 Nov 09
Hello Earthbuilding Im sorry to hear you have such problems by beeing nervous. There is various ways to try work with this issue. My best experience is if it is the same aspects that makes you nervous every time to meet these aspects over and over, the more you get used to them the less nervous you will become, but this takes time. You also need to define if you are nevous because you have a fear or phobia for certain things, because else you cannot work it towards the better :) If you hear your name mentioned in the sentence of another dialog, then it is not because your nervous but currious! I experience exact same things, it takes away your focus, this is compeltly normal for most people ;)
• China
28 Nov 09
Hi, thanks for your help.the nervousness make me bad to complete my job.For example,my boss ask me to translate orally some Enlish document(he is bad in enlish).If i meet some stranger words,i will be nervous because he is waiting for my words beside.i will go blank in my mind and be tense.the result is that i will tell me that i will give up and say sorry to him.He is a outspoken man.i will be depressed and hurt by his later words.
@Downwindz (2535)
• Netherlands
29 Nov 09
That is ofcause something we should try to find a solution fore. If your boss is a good leader, he would understand if you ask him for a short moment to think over the right words because the words are not some you use daily and you want to be sure he gets the full purpose of the content you are translating to him. So try next time it happens to take a short moment, a little deeper breath and then think instead of rushing, then you would tend to jam/get stuck. I believe that might also give you a better experience?, if you go a little slower through the content you need to translate.
• Australia
27 Nov 09
Hi Earth. I am also a nervous person in certain situations when I have no need to be nervous. If I have to write a test, which I know I will pass well, I will still be extremely nervous. If I go through airport security I am always nervous even though I know I have nothing illegal. I get all sweaty and almost have an anxiety attack. But afterwards I feel stupid for being nervous in the first place. I just deal with it knowing that I will get through the situation as best I can. Good luck.
• China
28 Nov 09
Hi,thanks.i graduated this year.i left for another province and most of my classmates stayed there.i thought i will begin a new world far away from my friends,classmates and families.Now i have been here for 8 months.i did not have many changes.Instead,i miss my families and classmates and thirst for going back.
• Australia
30 Nov 09
Hi. It is always tough to move away from your comfort zone. Two years ago my husband and I moved us and our 3 kids thousands of miles away to a different country. We have no family here but we have at least made a few good friends. I understand how you feel and your need to go back. You will know what is right for you and if moving back to family and friends will make you happier then that is what you need to do.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
27 Nov 09
hi,Earth,you can adopt some of these tips-- 1. Breathe deeply and slowly. If we are anxious and fearful, taking time to consciously breathe slowly will help quite a lot. Gentle breathing has a calming influence on our mind. When we are anxious or nervous our breathing will be heavy or rushed. 2. Feel Nervousness is a real enemy. We shouldn’t feel nervousness is inevitable. We should make a determined effort to avoid a feeling of nervousness. 3. Don’t take the situation too seriously. Avoid thinking about the consequence of an interview or exam. 4. Smile and Laugh. When we are nervous we get very tense. Smiling helps to release the mental and physical tension we feel. 5. Meditation. Through meditation we can create a permanent sense of inner peace, which acts as a soothing background for all outer circumstances. All the best.
• China
27 Nov 09
I've tried these methods when i feel nervous and they did work.Besides,i think getting well prepared for the thing you concern about seriously like exam,interview is a precaution of avoiding nervousness brought by that.
• China
28 Nov 09
Hello,baluyadav thanks for your advice.i aways smile or talk with others when i fell nervous.but it does't work.what's worst,my mind go completely blank in nervours condition.
@cher913 (25855)
• Canada
27 Nov 09
you should read a book on learning how to be confident or practise talking in front of a mirror and you could pretend it is different situations. i like talking to strangers and usually pick something i have in common with them, such as what are they reading, wearing, etc.
• China
28 Nov 09
yes,i have bought some books to learn.i think i like to talk with strangers and know more friends in my heart.but i am a serious girl.i am not good in joking.i am afraid that it will be to quiet to meet others.
@madteaparty (2757)
• Japan
27 Nov 09
Well, if any of the advices you receive work for you, please, share it with us! I have the same problem and I still haven't found a good way to solve it. It's true that it's part of some people's personality, but changing you own personality is not that easy. Isn't it?
• China
28 Nov 09
Hello,madteaparty It is so hard to force ourself to keep calm and fight with ourself.but i think we shoud have more friends who are optimistic,comfident,leisurely.if so,we will be affected by them and have a change.Agree?
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I think it's normal for the first time. Nervousness can overcome by anyone. We should be confident and ignore what the others may say. Just be one of them and I'm sure they'll accept you as their friend. Be cool as they are!
• China
28 Nov 09
i will try my best.thanks
@hhmfw0 (45)
• China
27 Nov 09
when I was a student,I have the same experience as you.But it can be changed if we experience more things and get matured,we won't think too much about what their thinkings about us ,we can be ourselves. So don't worry,it will be ok day by day.Go to attend more activities hold in your school ,make more friends.More experience will help you a lot.
• China
28 Nov 09
hello,hhmfwo yes,you are right.i am thinking too much about other's opinions.if i experience more,i will be calm to do my things.i have graduated this year.i am working now. i have put too much attention on myself.i try to meet new friends,but i always chang my mind and look some excuses to avoid meeting somebody.So,i have no new friend after i graduated and came here to work,except my collegues.i am worried about this.
• China
27 Nov 09
hehe..i'm also an easy nervousness person and i just back from another nervous . any small things can make me nervous or feel unhappy a whole day.that's really one big weakness and not good for us to live in this communicative world. even not good for our health. i've tried to have deep breath when we feel nervous and it can work. just try it.
• China
28 Nov 09
i am sorry to heard that you are a nervous person too.It is just the outward way to calm our heart.I think we should be more confidence to avoid being nervous for ever.
@cacocc (6)
• China
28 Nov 09
I think you have introverted pensonnality.I advise you to take part in the collective activities.DO't worry I have also such.remember walk yourself road.let other people to say.
• India
28 Nov 09
Do some exercises.Drink lot of water.be positive and be frank. Make eye to eye conversations or contacts do not look down your feet while talking it makes you more nervous particularly with strangers.Always think that you are one step ahead of the other.Take a deep breath when you are talking to a group or crowd.These things will totally change your behaviour.I followed these things in my day to day life which made me bold and i got more good friends.Trust me and good luck.
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Hi Earthbuilding! I think that nervouseness happens because you are so concious of what others will think or feel about you... Just be yourself and dont't try much to please others. And partly, I beleive it has something to do with your self confidence too... Try to get along more with others... Go out and socialize.