Well it finally happened my granddaughter is with child.........................

@celticeagle (123434)
Boise, Idaho
November 28, 2009 1:53am CST
Most of you have read my responses and my posts about the love/hate relationship I have had with my granddaughter since I came to the end of the guardianship I had. She had chosen to date older men and we have gone over and over about it. Finally she came to me about a week ago and told me she was for sure she was pregnant. She is with the fellow and they plan to stay together. I felt it coming on. I have been around the block afew times, I have seen the writing on the wall, I have been out in the street and have the smarts- or some of them! So, here it is. I am bummed that it happened when it did and that she didn't make a little better choses, but it is reality and no way to go back and make it all perfect and sweet. It just is. So I went through a time of numbness and now I am trying to be supportive and do my 'grama' part. Hopefully I can pull it off. Any thoughts? CE Venting 101 is closed for this episode.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
28 Nov 09
On my mom's side of the family children before marriage or at a young age is common. I've actually surpassed a lot of people in my family when it comes to not yet being with child. I think that you've really got to be ready for it, and that sometimes you'll never know your ready until after it happens. I think sometimes you have to just do it (lol no pun intended) and roll with the punches. I've read about your granddaughter and your disappointments in her. I just hope she grows up a little because of this news... for her sake, the babies sake, and your sake as well.
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 09
I just feel like I am going to be in a rubber room yet. Just biding my time until I go right over the edge. Just hope my medicare pays for it. Haha????
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Would grandma ma be taking care of said child if the granddaughter was not able to?
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
I would hope that grand ma ma doesn't not have to pick up the slack on this one. I worn to a frazzle. Heehee.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
28 Nov 09
She is going to learn a lot now. Being supportive is the best choice in my opinion. That doesn't mean you have to take responsibility for her child when it is born though. This is her thing and she needs to learn and love from it. Maybe it will give her a whole new outlook on life. Maybe it didn't have to start out perfect and sweet to become that later. I know that you must be devastated because if it were my 16 year old...I would have a lot of crazy mixed feelings about it too. Numb is probably normal. You know as well as I do that we all pay for our raising..lol..it will be no different for her. Just do the best you can and when the baby comes..spoil it rotten and send it home..hehe
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 09
Yes, she is. She is excited. I am trying to be supportive. I have told her I am not going to be a built in babysitter. Sad part is I think 'home' will be here atleast at first. I don't look forward to that.
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@angelsmummy (1700)
28 Nov 09
Well I would say congratulations normally but it seems like you would hunt me down and wring my neck haha! I am sorry that it causes you suxh distress, can I ask how old she is? I do hope you can make things up with her, I am 21 with a 17 month old and a 3 month old and I have so much support from my partner, mum, dad and other family members I would be lost without it! It will be hard at first but your going to be a great-grandma, maybe not in the perfect situation, but hey when is it ever perfect. We all learn from times in our life! You may not like how this has happened but my nan doesnt like my partner and because of this I hardly speak to her as I feel she should accept who I am happy with at the end of the day in England most men get young girls pregnant and leave thrm denying all knowledge, my partner hasnt! Lets hope you grandaughters partner does the same as my partner did, I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you!
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Nov 09
Yes, I would! haha. She is seventeen, almost eighteen ( 23 more days.)I have made things right with her. I would treat her with no disrespect during this time. I have already begun answering questions and positioned myself as great grand mah mah. Hard! Nah! Is perfection ever close at hand in this life really?! We are all living together right now. Her, her boyfriend, me, my daughter and grandson. She is making little attempt to do anything to set up a good and positive situation for her child and her boyfriend- well, we don't even want to go there. Thank you for all those fingers and toes staying crossed for me through this.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Well they will stay together does this mean they will get married? If not or even if they do that really doesnt mean they will stay together and raise this child. all Ya can do is play grandma. adn a kid usually grabs your heart any how. So I dont think it will end up hard for you. Just as long as grnadma do end up taking care of the baby always! Is daddy working will his Ins. pay for it if he is? IF they dont marry? Lots of things to think about there.
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 09
I don't know if married is in their future. (Right now they are fighting.)Doesn't mean they will stay together at all. No, dad doesn't work and spends alot of his time sleeping. I don't care for anymore kids to raise so she needs to be responsible. Hope it goes well.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Have fingers crossed for you and her hugssssssssssssssssssss
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@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
Thanks sweet friend of mine!
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
28 Nov 09
celticeagle, Seems like this episode of your granddaughter is playing out and has seem to enter a new series here. I am sorry for the disappointments and frustrations which you have to go through at this moment. It seems that she is really making decisions which neither any conventional grandparent or parent would have anticipated. But, I suppose that is life, everyone of us will just have to live with and through the consequences of our very decisions in this life, with no exception to your granddaughter. There will be new lessons drawn here and I just hope that you will not be discouraged and be let down. Remember you are never alone here. Continue with what you have to do and need to do. I am sure there's just a load of things on your shoulders now and there's still a distance to go. Stay on top of things and remember to look on the brighter side of things. Take care and let me add here that you have my prayers.
@celticeagle (123434)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 09
Thank you for your prayers. I don't want to stay ontop of things. I want to just be grandma but I guess I don't get to just be that.
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