I eat my revenge

@ayebelle (368)
Philippines
November 28, 2009 9:23pm CST
Last week me and my ex boyfriend hangout at Sm (Shopping mall) with my classmates and friends. Because of I'm the one who invited him, i should pay. So yeah i treat him in lunch and in the cinema and that's just okay with me. I just get pissed of when he ask me the cellphone number of my classmate because he said he likes her because of her looks. And yeah i didn't gave it to him, It's like insulting in my part i know he's just my ex but he knows that i still have a feeling for him that he must consider and not to play with it. And yeah I was freaking jealous maybe and i want to feel him too the way i felt it. Just last night when his host brother invited me to go there at there place because of birthday celebration so yeah it's the best time to take my revenge, i want him to get jealous. And yeah it happened he was freaking jealous because i didn't even talk to him and i just talk to someone else. And yeah he talked to me and say sorry of what happened, and i forgave him because i still love him. Do you think i'm fooling myself? And i'm just wasting my time to him?
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Nov 09
aayebelle yes you probably are as you are young and he is your'ex for some reason that you know only too well.how can' you love him now after what ever he did that made you make him your ex. I am confused as you are.dump him and find someone you do not need to make jealous as he will love you for who you are. It sounds like the two of you are still playing games with each other.
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@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
yeah and that night i offer him a friendship relationship and he kissed me. Yeah, it's like we'r playing around. But my feeling for him is true. It just that i don't want to be hurt again. So yeah i have to stop this stupid feeling. And move on. thank you Hatley
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@kareng (20955)
• United States
29 Nov 09
It does sound like you are both playing games and fooling around with each other. You should both try to move on and clear your heads. Don't waste your time and life on doing this over and over because it will get you no where!
@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
29 Nov 09
I think you're both playing games with each other and trying to make each other feel jealous. Maybe that means there really is still something between the two of you, but I'm not sure it's worth pursuing. Just think about what led to the breakup before...have things really changed? If not, why would you think reuniting with your ex-boyfriend would have a better result this time? If you really think there might be some future in the relationship, I think you should come out and put everything out in the open: the hurt feelings, the old frustrations, what your hope could be different in the future, etc. If you do restart the relationship, you should begin with a clean sheet...don't hold things back and carry them into the new relationship.
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
The reason why we broke up is because of his host family. We got problem about them, With his host mother. We cannot be together as long as he stay there. But he said he still thinking about me, but i don't like him to choose me because it's his future that will change if he chose me, so yeah i decided to stay friend with him, and it's hurting me. The best thing to do now is just to have fun with his company and not let myself to hurt again. Maybe i can do that.
• Greenwood, Mississippi
29 Nov 09
Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for love. What kind of love story would it be if it ended with the hero choosing his host mother over his girlfriend?! Just trying to be his friend when you still feel love seems like it will only lead to more pain for you. A clean break might be better than prolonging the pain.
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
i have to think of what you said.
• India
29 Nov 09
Dear, Whatever I am gonna say now may hurt you and many others who have a fascination about the word "love". That was the statuary warning. I think, yes, you are wasting your precious time. You wanna make him jealous? Ok, but here, let me tell you something. Revenge doesn't work one way. The time you will spend to plan your revenge, execute it, and then think about the success or failure of that execution is the time you dedicate to the particular person you are taking revenge on. How can you forget someone if you don't stop spending time like that. Also a revenge will instigate your anger rather than soothing it. Revenge extends the bitter moments and memories that you really want to leave behind. Why do we need to forgive? Most of the times its becoz you want to forget something. In your case, you have to forgive (in real) just to forget him. If you ask me, love is just a habit. If you've once grown a habit to have someone around, you also can develop the counter-habit i.e. the habit of not having someone around. Revenge makes you dependent, that too on the person you wanna forget. Isn't it a defeat? It surely sounds like a defeat to me. Here are the logical steps to wipe someone outta your life, step1: Forgive him for everything he has done to you. Its difficult eh? Well, look at it this way, you are not perfect, so don't expect anyone else to be perfect. Everybody has certain bad side, dark sides. You can't curse someone just because you two have different ways. May be he has treated you real bad. But at least he hasn't murdered you. He left you with a choice. So thank god for that and forgive him. step2:Take the responsibility of whatever happened to you. Realize that you were the major initiator of everything. Realize it now before its too late. You may feel like cursing yourself for falling for that guy in first place. Its ok. Its normal. Step3: Forgive yourself. Its the most difficult and most important step in the whole process. This step is essential to forget everything. You know, when we curse others, somewhere deep inside we are mad at ourselves, and that brings out the curse. When we get busy in finding faults about others, deep inside, we know fully well, thats its really us who are to be blamed for all this. Its ok. Take your time. Proceed with firmness. Its not easy to forgive yourself. But you have done difficult tasks before. So you can do it now. Remember, if that person was imperfect, you also have every right to be the same. So just stop blaming and cursing yourself for what you've done to yourself. How are you supposed to forget someone if you keep thinking about, planning about taking revenge on him? Just pretend that he doesn't even exist. Its not done overnight. Just give it your most sincere effort. You will definitely do it. Like I said, "love" is a habit. Just develop a opposite habit and in time he will just disappear. You wouldn't even know. How long will it take? Well, to be perfectly honest, it depends on your sincerity, imagination. Strength can't be developed in one day. Take your time. Be stronger. If you have faith in God the process will take less time. "Revenge" is a disease, wipe it out. God bless you. Send me some feedback if my experience has helped you in anyway. Take care.
• India
30 Nov 09
Nice to hear that you've liked it.. I know its little bit difficult sometimes to let go of something you've wanted the most... But if you ask me, the key to happiness is the ability to "Let go"... its our "fear of loosing" that makes us static.... it prevents us from being free flowing.... but whats the use of being stating?... life is a journey... we should make it pleasant by living each moment to the fullest....don't you agree? Take care... God bless you...
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
You are freaking in love girl. It is ok, to invite and to be invited by your ex, but i think jealousy is not that good, specially he is only your ex and you are only his ex. But if you think that you still have feeling with each other, why not ask each other to start again? Don't you think it is good? But first, What is the reason why you two broke up? If it is not that, big of a problem. Do you think it is better to fix it? You are not fooling your self dear, you are just being played by your feelings. You still love him, not only feelings for him, cause feelings are way too different from love. Everything happens for a reason. Try to guess... Why do you think that scenario come to both of you? What do you think will make both of you happy? "San SM yan? Sama naman minsan" hehe im am just joking... Anyway, try to consult me if you want counseling, i can give it to you for free. I am a counselor, i just do not know the real story that is why i cannot comment much on this. Have a nice day and Think think think! Cheers!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Dude! How are you, my interest? Both! Cause when i am still studying college, they train us to be able to work on all aspects, Educational, Clinical and Industrial. I am a B.S. Psychology, i graduated at Our Lady of Fatima University. They gave us 3 OJT, 200 hours each, 200 for clinical, 200 for industrial and 200 for education/guidance and counseling. That is why i am capable of working on all aspects of it. Have a nice day.
@umer5222 (724)
• Cyprus
29 Nov 09
Friend, life is fun, don,nt take it seriously. Enjoy!
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Thats right. I don't take it seriously but others see it I'm serious.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
i have been in this same situation and i'm telling you girl, move on. If both of you continue to play games with each other the "good" relationship you had might be destroyed. It is better to keep distance to preserve all the good memories you had with him. Believe in the common cliche.. What ever belongs to you will come back to you.. :) God Bless ayebelle
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Thank you for that, and ill think of what you said. thank you again.
@danitykane (3191)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
hi ayebelle, To answer your question, yes! maybe you are just fooling yourself! But, I cannot blame you, because that how love is. We sometimes make fool out of ourselves, because we love someone unconditionally. It shows how you still love him, with your story....it seems that you really love him and doesn't care if it's not right anymore. What is right in love anyway?! we sometimes do crazy stuff without even realizing it. But after awhile when it is too much, we realized that it ain't good anymore and we decide what is right for us. The question is, do you think and feel he still loves you? in all honesty? If your answer is yes, then maybe it's fine to be crazy all over him. But if not, you are just wasting your time and feelings for him. But overall, the last say always comes from you...because you are the one who REALLY knows him and knows what your heart says. Happy Lotting!
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Thank you i should figure out, and know whats really best for me.
@hhmfw0 (45)
• China
29 Nov 09
From you story and your added comments,I can see you are seriously love this guy. You are the one who knows him including his feeling on you .You can give him chance to fall in love with you but before this never too crazy on him.If you ignore anything he did on you ,it will only hurt yourself.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
i do the same things with you when I am angry and just cried. I ease my boredom and anger by eating a lots of sweets ranging from chocolates, ice cream, cakes and candies. you are not fooling yourself you just come out at your own good senses since he is your ex. it is only proper to act fairly but so emotional you let yourself be affected. since you already fix with him. i do hope everything goes alright.
• Malaysia
29 Nov 09
It seems like both of you still have feelings for each other. I don't know why the two of you broke up in the first place, but from the description above you still went out with him even though not by yourself. So, why don't you just quit playing games and once and for all, stand where you are. If you both still love each other and want to get back together, then do it. There will be no more trying to make each other jealous, which could hurt. If you want to move on with your life, stop hanging out with him for a while or just don't be where he is presence. Cheers and all the best to you, Ayebelle!
@l33tgirl (289)
• New Zealand
29 Nov 09
Unfortunately it is likely youa re fooling yourself. You ex didn't have enough consideration for you to not ask you for this numbers number. It could mean he is trying to make you jealous, it could also mean he is over you sorry.
@madteaparty (2759)
• Japan
29 Nov 09
Well, depending on how the relationship ended can happen that still both sides have a little or residual anger and will play this kind of games. It would be better for you both to talk, and just set clear that you're not a couple anymore and that you are going on with your lifes. It's a little hard to accept at first but in the end is the best thing to do.
@Norah0804 (165)
• China
29 Nov 09
I can fully understand the way you feel, i think it seems normal for you and your ex boyfriend. As i see it, after you two broke up, it is difficult to become friends. You'd better stay away from him before you don't love him any more. The best way for you is to forget him gradually, then iust being yourself.