When is enough, enough in a relationship? What would it take for you to be done?

United States
November 30, 2009 8:13pm CST
Hello mylotters! It truly has been a while since I have done this. This time around I am going to try and post aleast three times a week. I was wondering in a relationship what would it take for you to call it quits. Would it be lying, cheating, what please let me know?
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@rosgill (45)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I have had my share of bad relationships and a bad marriage and have learned to know when it is time to end it. It takes two to make any relationship work and when the other lies and cheats it is not possible to do so. Abuse is always the worst and after years of putting up with it the other is conditioned and afraid. It is then when the first blow and harsh words hit you that you should say 'I'm done'. If the other doesn't put their heart into it, they don't make the effort to show their affection, or they lie and say cruel words to you, tell them to get out of your life and don't let the door hit them in the butt. When they start playing games it's time to set them straight or set them free.
• Indonesia
1 Dec 09
I totally agree with you Rosgill.
• United States
1 Dec 09
In a relationship, to call it quits, I would have to not have a relationship with the person. A friendship. My bf and I are trying to communicate. We're doing better. I'm doing a lot of the talking. But this is good. If it is worth it you can make the effort. To call it quits. They'd have to be really disappointed. I'd have to be very disappointed. Cheating would do it. Also perhaps I'd just feel that it is time to call it quits. But I have to work on being realistic. Also work on expressing myself. I don't know why. Life is good. Calling it quits can be good and you don't even need a reason. But you have to know what you want. If you hate someone, perhaps it is better to get a second opinion.
• United States
1 Dec 09
First and foremost Apple3Cranberry I would like to thank you for responding to my discussion. You didn't have to but you did respond so thank you so much. i agree that sometimes calling it quits may just be for the best when it comes to relationships. In order for me to be doneI just have to get bored with that person or they have to cheat. There is absoultely no getting back with them for cheating. Now I will say that I have slept with my ex that did cheat on me but it was because we always made "love" I do not forgive him for what he did but I know that he cares for me. He just isn't mature and doesn't know how to love women yet. Thanks for responding to my discussion Apple3Cranberry. Well the pen is in my hand and it isn't going anywhere until next time, Take care.
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Personally, I will give up my relationship if it reached the point that I am already physically abuse. I cannot prolonged the agony of being harass and brutally hurt if my husband or partner continuously do it to me.
@Torrs13 (217)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Cheating is where I draw the line. I figure that if a guy cheats on me, then he will do it again. It is extremely hard to rebuild trust once it's broken, and you need trust for a relationship to work and be successful. There is no excuse for cheating and it just makes me feel like the guy doesn't care about me, so I would not want to remain in a relationship if cheating was present.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
1 Dec 09
either one are deal breakers as far as I'm concerned. I don't do either so I don't put up with either one of those things. Trust is everything. It really is.