When you make mistakes do you always asked for forgiveness?

Philippines
November 30, 2009 10:55pm CST
Pride is part of our human nature. We all have it. Though it differs on the level, amount and intensity of our pride.There are some people who can't seem to accept their mistakes, and let others asked for forgiveness. While others can just easily shake off their pride and immediately asked "I'm sorry." How about you, do you always asked for forgiveness when you know that it was your fault? Do you believe what other said that saying " I'm sorry" is the hardest thing to do?
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@checkmail (2039)
• India
2 Dec 09
Hello careguarden this is checkmail and often do ask for forgiveness i anyhting wrong happens through me, but most of the time i nevr do mistakes, its all about the nature.Yeah somtimes we tend to do the right thing and it goes wrong, even though it isn't our mistake we do have to admit it, the reason is we ddin't ahve the complete knowledge or skill to do it correctly.Yeah many a times our pride do comes in when there is an mistake done in front of some little ones.But still am comfortable at asking for forgiveness even to youger than me.I don't feel that much abused about it.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Yeah, our pride always comes in every time we make mistakes. That's the time where our humility is tested. Even when it comes to children, we should show them how to accept mistake and ask forgiveness, by doing an example. I think when we do the right things and it went wrong, it still do good on us and others. Because we learned and others learn from our mistakes as well. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@l33tgirl (288)
• New Zealand
1 Dec 09
Sometimes saying sorry is hard to do, other times you just have to swallow your pride and do it. Otherwise you might lose out on relationships in your life. I guess it depends on how emotionally invested you are in the situation. Some people can never say sorry and find it hard to express their emotions/
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Yeah, holding up high of our pride may cause friendship to fall apart. It's good if you know how to humble yourself every time you make mistakes and ask forgiveness. It's not easy, but you have no other choice you must learned and practiced if you want to have a lasting relationship. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• India
1 Dec 09
hi, If i make mistake i always ask for forgiveness regardless age of person. This is my habit and thanks to my mother for giving me this quality.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Well you're indeed very lucky that you're grown up with a mother who taught you very well the importance of humility on oneself. Because mostly we get this kind of attitude at home, where our parents is our first teacher who shape our character and personality, who taught us good values and virtue. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and continue showing that good quality of yours. Have a great day!
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
When I make mistakes to somebody and usually don't ask for forgiveness. Instead, I'm doing it in action to be forgiven. "Action speaks louder than words." That's what I believe. I feel that it's more effective than saying sorry. Just my opinion!
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yeah, action speak louder than words. Well we have different ways of showing apology. As long as the person knows that you're sorry and regretful for what you did, even without a words. I think that's okay. Than doing nothing at all and pretend that nothings happened. That could be more hurtful to the person and could create anger. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Jackie8 (127)
• China
1 Dec 09
I think it is really hard for somebody to say "sorry", I don't feel like that, If I do some mistake which really trouble to someone, I will say "Sorry" with my soul. I thinks it is the base manners of human.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Me as well. It really troubles me a lot when I hurt someone and I didn't ask for forgiveness. I can't thoroughly sleep knowing that someone felt bad about me. Well I think some people find it hard to ask apology simply because they didn't felt guilty of what they did. Since we differ when it comes to formation of our conscience. So it's not just their pride that prevents them from asking "I'm sorry." Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@rika999 (104)
• India
1 Dec 09
For the mistakes, that i commit i never ask for excuses. instead of it, i prepare myself for the consequences of it and make myself understand that this kind of mistake should not get repeated in future.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Oh, well that's good that you learn from your mistakes and make sure that it won't happened again. Because there are some people who have a habit of apologizing every time they makes mistakes, however they also have a habit of making the same mistakes all over again. Although asking for an apology lessen guilt and prevents any form of hatred. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@puneet08 (102)
• India
1 Dec 09
IF its my fault, there is no hard thought and i'll say sorry. One should not take it at their ego as it will not help in mending things. Sometime sorry also depend on importance of relation. There as times when one do not care to say sorry to person who is not close.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I've always apologized when I know of or am made aware of my wrong. I think there is often too much pride in the hearts of those from who we seek forgiveness as well. There has been only two times in my whole life I have said "I am sorry" and the person fully accepted this and moved on. The rest refused or claimed to forgive but continued to add fuel to the fire. Its kind of like why even bother if thats the attitude you recieve?
@pinetree (218)
• China
1 Dec 09
It depends, but if the situation will be better if I ask forgiveness, I'll ask forgiveness.If not so,I may not do it. For some people, I am unwilling to ask forgiveness.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
As long as it was really my fault, I have no problem admitting my fault and saying "I am sorry". It is true that it is very hard to apologize but for me it is harder to pretend that I didn't do something wrong or mistakes. Things will be better if I just admit it and make sure that it will not happen again. Humility can make me a better person. I also keep in mind that nobody's perfect and accepting it is one of the best way to make our life better and easier.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yeah, it could be hard to go on and pretend that it's not your fault especially when you are connected with the person and you meet him/her everyday. It takes so much courage and humility to accept that you're wrong as one my favorite quotes states " Be not ashamed to confess that you have been in the wrong. It is but owning what you need not be ashamed of-that you now have more sense than you had before, to see your error;more humility to acknowledge it, more grace to correct it." Like you said, humility makes you a better person. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 09
Swallow all pride to apologize not as easy as turning the palm of his hand.I admit that sometimes feel proud makes me endure to don't admit mistakes and apologize directly. However, in the angry condition has passed and I was in a state of calm, sometimes I am more able to decide the appropriate time to apologize. For me, apologizing sooner is better
• India
1 Dec 09
Yeah, I always do. When you make a mistake it is your duty that you make humble approach to forgive you. It is not very hard if you can ignore your ego for half an hour.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Having arguments is a part of every good relationship. The only difference is the forgiving part. It depends on the person how long it will take to ask for forgiveness and how long you will be forgiven. Being married for 16 years is not easy but it certainly would have been a lot more difficult if we did not learn how to lessen our pride. When we got married, the only thing our godparents advised us was to learn how to forgive... As much as possible, do not let the night pass without saying "I'm sorry". Because according to them, why waste time? it's your fault anyway so might as well swallow your pride and be gone with it. Life is too short to prolong such arguments. But, I will be the first one to admit that some arguments may take a day or two... In my experience, when you've been married this long, it doesn't really matter anymore who's fault was it. The more important thing is saying sorry...
• United States
1 Dec 09
Well I never ask for forgiveness I just hope they forgive me for whatever I did, but I can't really blame them if they don't forgive me its like sticking a knife into a persons back they give you all that trust and for what? Just for you to blow the trust between the two of you?
1 Dec 09
Yeah, pride is really part of us being human beings. When I make mistakes, I ask for forgiveness depending on the person and situation. An accidental mistake makes me always feel guilty if I don't apologize directly. But if I made a mistake that for me is the right thing, it's hard for me to say sorry. Though I never encountered any situation that I never apologized for my own mistakes. Some maybe had taken a lot o time for me to admit and say sorry. That's pride.
• United States
1 Dec 09
It shouldn't be hard. If you are force/asked to say your sorry then it is not natural and it is silly. It is wrong. You should go by your guiding light. And see the day, and love yourself. If you see prideful emotions in other people dismiss this. If you are sensitive to people, get to know yourself. This is very hard. As you will encounter things you may not want to. Such as, your love for your family. Your love for God. Love for God is there, and people do cry over this. I think you should learn for yourself what you should do. Because life in you deserves. If you have negative emotions then you can do something about it. You can pray. You can talk with people. You can make amends with yourself. And you can shout very loud. Pride is a part of human nature. Accepting this, is a part of life, but you shouldn't accept it if it is so alarming that it's insulting. People who don't accept their mistakes. Who are these people? I guess if you are psychic you could know, but I don't know. I think everyone is learning.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
mistakes are part of our life.. we do not live perfectly.. there is no one perfect in this world.. mistakes are meant for us to learn and to improve whatever it was that we had a mistake with.. people with too much pride can just never accept the fact that someone is better than them or i guess they just think they're always right.. we have to think that there is no right or wrong in this world.. but mistakes are just a way of telling us that we need to change what it is we are doing.. in order to be better or to live a better life..