Why do some people always seem to come accross so nice
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
December 1, 2009 6:07pm CST
so it is hard for you to say everything you want to say just to get it off your chest.I think since i have seen a friend that i have not seen for three months and i have now had time to take in all what she had said.I decided to invite her round on the 12th of December for some wine as well as my husband is going out,you could say it was a bit of a test.You see she never bothered to text me in the whole 3months considering she always replys to my texts as well as my calls.So if i remind her about the 12th on text as well as on facebook and she decides not to reply or come round then i will know there is something wrong.
8 responses
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Hi jugs
Could it be that she has plans with other friends and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by visiting with them instead. Then maybe she is a fair weather friend. You know the kind that only has time to visit with you when they want to. I have had some friends that was that way. They are not worth being friends with at all. I wish you the best and hope that you do find out what is going on.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
Well she turned up on the 12th which i was very shocked about as i did not have to remiond her.We had a long chat about alot of things as well as she has told me who is stabbing her as well as a few others in the back.She told me i was the one that was also getting stabbed in the back and she had stuck up for me as well as she stuck up for someone else who is also a joint friend.I am unsure whats going to happen now as to be honest i think i would be better off without a few of the friends that i have from what i could understand.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Yeah I agree jugs. I ran into somewhat of that a few years back and then of course my sister in law too. I had to let the ties break between those friends. I was better off not having them rather than getting into all that drama that I saw was coming. I think that you should do the same as well. Some adults are adults yet.
Keep smiling girl.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I mean this most kindly, but I should think you would already know that there is something wrong. Personally I never say anything to just get it off my chest. I can write a letter and then burn it if I need to do that. When I speak to people it is direct and to the point and for a specific purpose.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
I did see her on the 12th and we had a long chat and after what she had to say i think that there are alot of people out there that are using as well as stabbing me in the back.Sometimes i think is it worth all of this as i think sometimes i would be better off not having friends as that way it is alot less hastle.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I hate to confront people also but I will not let them use me either. I think she should at least have the respect to respond back to you. I hate it when people are only there when it benefits them only.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
Woop woop she turned up was i shocked that she remembered as i had not heard from her so i did think that she had forgotten.I must say we had a long talk and i think in my heart of hearts that i now know what has as well as is going on with her as well as all the others we know.
@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
2 Dec 09
I think people can be genuinely nice for the most part and still not have a good sense of what a friendship requires. In other words, you can be a really nice person and yet a pretty poor friend at the same time. I think for some people it's a lot easier to be a "passive friend" and just respond to other people rather than initiate contact...I find that behavior frustrating as well because I can't help but think, "Hey, if I never contacted this person again they wouldn't even care!" However, sometimes insecurity makes people uncomfortable with making direct approaches...of course I don't know that that is what is happening in your case.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
She came to see me on the 12th and i was shocked that she even remembered to come round.I had along talk with her and i have learnt lots of things about people that i thouight i could trust as well only to find out that there are alot of people that are more than just two faced as they are also back stabbers.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
She turned up on the 12th and she told me alot of things that i did not know as well as alot of things that people knew that i would never find out about like the things that had been said as well to other people as they thought that i would not find out as well.
@RevampSkunk (107)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I think that some people come across as nice because they are masters of deception. Some people know how the average joe works and will manipulate them to get what they want or someone that's close to them.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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19 Dec 09
I do think that there was a bit of deception going on and perhaps there still is,but she did turn up as well as we had along chat as well and i do know whats sort of been happening as well as i think there has been alot of people stabbing alot of other people in the back and one of the people that has been stabbed in the back was me and the other was her.
@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I couldn't have said this better....I know someone just like that! lol
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Dec 09
jugsjugs why always thinking the worst of people why not
'turn it around and think the best then if they do let'
you down,you still will not have that bitter, sour feeling
in your mind and soul. think positive and wait and see what
is bothering your friend.
