Why, why,why
@cindystoufflet (299)
United States
December 2, 2009 9:29am CST
What has gotten into people? Everything is all about the mighty dollar. And who makes it that way? Just like Christmas, it is the most depressing time of the year. Why? One thing it has nothing to do with Christ anymore. People all over the world are taking my religious holiday and turned it into a circus. Why are people who dont believe in my Christ celebrating? Why do we give each other gifts when we should be giving that money to the Church (Christ). If we gave this money to the church them the church would be able to help people all year long who need it.
Why are people so rude? I walked into Walmart one day and this lady had her cart blocking the whole isle. I said excuse me and she ignored me, I thought maybe she did not hear me so i said it louder. She continued to ignore me so i moved her buggy and she look at me and said "Just because you said excuse me does not mean I have to move" What the heck. Did I do something wrong? What was more disturbing was she said this in front of her children.
Children have no respect for anyone. Why? Because children do by example. Adults don't demand respect. Respect is earned. You get what you give. Adults have no respect for their children. They use foul words, they use drugs, they put their needs and wants first, they have no respect for a childs innocense. Parents need to remember that when you have children you give up your life till they are grown. Having children is a choice now a days. There is no excuse for anyone who is not ready to be a parent to get pregnant.
What is the meaning of being ready? Get your education, get your career, buy a home and have money in the bank. This is a good start to a child haveing a good life.
I would like to hear your oppinion on these matters. Even if you disagree.
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6 responses
@FRANCISCOANDLEE (750)
• United States
2 Dec 09
WOW Do you sound like so many of us. Christmas seems to have lost its meaning long ago. It didn't just happen. It is extremely disturbing to see. I do buy my children a few gifts mostly clothes. We enjoy our time together doing things together like building a puzzle playing board games or even just sitting around watching a movie. People put this huge price tag on Christmas. The more they spend the better they think Look what I did look at me. People are self centered the majority live in their own little worlds and have no comprehension of the outside world around them. Nor do they seem to care. It is a me me society. Speaking of children. My son decided not to come home on time again, and as warned I called the police this time. The officer said kids now a days have no respect for authority and he was so grateful to see parents that actually care and will go to extremes if needed to keep them straight. He said he sees and hears more and more everyday parents that tell their children that they cant do anything to them (Including the police) If any problems they'll get them a good attorney,and sue. What happen to consequences???? What happen to paying the price good or bad for your actions????
When I had my children I did not have my career planned out I didn't own a home and Lord knows I had no money but I managed and at 24 and 15 my boys know there is a price to pay for misconduct,and that they better always be polite with yes sir no sir do the right things in life and so forth. Because this mom doesn't care how big they get or if she's 90yrs old with a walker she'll keep them straight one way or another.
@cindystoufflet (299)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Cudo's to you. When warning my children I always told them that it is their choice if they get in trouble because if you choose to do the act then you are also choosing to take the punishment. This lets them know that for every action there is a reaction and they choose the reaction by know what the consiquences are.
Still to this day I address my children and grandchildren with yes mam and yes sir or the other way around but I expect the same response. You know what really gets me is how my nieces and nephews address their elders I have some that address their parents by their first name. That is not done around me. I will correct that in a heart beat.
Thanks for your response
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
2 Dec 09
Yes, most people celebrate Christmas even if they are not Christians. Some believe Jesus was born in Bethlehem on 25 December. I am very keen on traveling and I have been to see the Church of the Nativity in the West Bank. I am not religious but I have grown up with giving presents at Christmas time. I like to see my children have happy times every Christmas. My teenage son is polite and he has respect for others. My toddler son and baby daughter are young. They are learning at their tender ages.
People have different times in life. I bought my house when I was nineteen. I got married in my early twenties, did my degree at university and had my first son. In my late twenties I got divorced. I had a second son and my baby daughter in my mid to late thirties. In life good luck and good health are important. Having lots of money doesn't make people happy. In my traveling I have seen poor but happy people in developing countries. The mom you met had quite an attitude problem. She didn't give a positive example to her children.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
2 Dec 09
While I do agree with the gist of what you are saying, I also think you could tone it down a bit. You are being a bit judgmental and domineering in your attitude. Yes, Christmas has become more about money than Christ. But, it's still a holiday for all of God's Children to celebrate. And, there's not just one way to celebrate it. You don't have to buy trunk loads of gifts, but you don't have to give your money to the "Church" just because it's Christmas. If you tithe, you probably do it all year round - not just one day out of the year, anyways.
The woman at Walmart was wrong. It would have taken almost no energy for her to just slide to the side and let you through. But, judging from your anger in this discussion I wonder what kind of tone you used when you said "Excuse Me".
As far as pregnancy, it would be nice if things were so cut and dry. But, not many things are. Things happen, contraception fails, love ensues, money disappears, careers come to an end. There's never a "right" time to have a baby. If you wait for the "right" time, when things are perfect, you'll never create a life and there would be far fewer people on this Earth. The important thing is that, like you said, when you have a child you give it all it needs to thrive in a positive manner.
Life can seem crazy sometimes. Especially when you have to deal with others. But, it is a gift and it's up to each of us to do our part in showing our gratitude and respect for the gift.
@cindystoufflet (299)
• United States
2 Dec 09
The thing that gets me is I did not have an attitude until I got that response from the other lady but at the same time I was not going to pour fuel on the fire especially in front of the children.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Christmas has been made a joke these days. Well its been bad for a while but seems to have gotten much worse. I'm not letting anyone ruin it for me though. Remember this day is about Jesus any way so maybe focus on making it more special for him and forget about such ill mannered persons.
About raising kids I highly agree. I'm not the perfect parent but I've been trying my best to raise my kids with the old fashioned manners some of our grandparents and parents grew up with like the ablitiy to say "please, thank you, yes ma'am, yes sir, and may I" as opposed to "I want and gimme" and being respectful to the seasoned folk. I rarely see people doing these things anymore. Now its cool to teach your 3 year old to say the f word to everyone from what I've seen of some people that I know personally.
@benny128 (3615)
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2 Dec 09
well for fear of being slated lol, I personally am not religious and love christmas.
I was brought up as a christian with the christian values etc etc but decided not to follow the faith so to speak. So I am familiar with what christmas is supposed to represent.
I celebrate christmas as its a magical time of year where everyone can forget their troubles (altho some people don't have good xmas's). Where I live everyone slows down for xmas and everyone gets alot friendlier. I also think xmas is a time for the kids as opposed to the adults.
Personally instead of giving money to a church I would much rather make sure that my family and 3 kids is cared for that is my priority am afraid. Though throughout the year even though I am not an active church goer I always donate items for the church fayre's etc etc though they seem to have one every couple of weeks which is so annoying.
As for the supermarket incident I am afraid I would of prob lost it then lol, andsaid something which I would of regretted later, manners cost nothing and if someone said excuse me to me I'd appologise and have alaugh and joke with the person who I was blocking.
But thats just me try and treat others how I would want to be treated myself, though bad manners really annoys the heck out of me.
@hvedra (1619)
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2 Dec 09
Have a virtual hug (((((cindy))))) 'cause I know how you feel and a lot of us out here feel like that sometimes.
I gave up on Christmas some time ago (not a Christian and only know a handful of real ones). If you are a Christian then turn it into the holiday it should be for you. I agree it has become a circus of horrors and woe betide anyone who mentions that turning it into a festival of crass consumption is the LAST thing that should have happened. You have no doubt already discovered how defensive people get about preserving that circus. Sickening, I know.
As for the increasingly self-absorbed dog-eat-dog world out there, I do sometimes wonder about how only a few of us have noticed! I see a LOT of bad parenting and rude adults out there passing on their rudeness and selfish stupidity to another generation. I know that a lot of kids I went to school with were the first generation to think respect was owed them when they didn't show it to anyone else. Some of these people are parents and even grandparents now so find a small island to hide on!
A lot of people who are having kids are NOT capable of looking after THEMSELVES. They are too self-absorbed and immature and can't control their own impulses - which, sadly, includes the impulse to have children and continue the downward spiral.
@cindystoufflet (299)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Thank you so much. It is wonderful to know that there are some people out there who believe and see the bad ways of people. Im not saying that I am perfect but at least i can admit to it.
