For the ladies, how do you feel about a man who is sensitive?

@kgwat70 (13387)
United States
November 14, 2006 8:36pm CST
My friend told me that I should never let a woman see me cry, unless someone I know dies like a spouse or family member or if I lost my job. She said that women do not like men that cry and that I should go somewhere private and cry. If I see a sad movie, I will cry or if I am feeling depressed or watch something sad on the news, I will cry. How do you feel about this? Is she right or is it okay for a woman to see me cry for whatever reason? Should I change the fact that I am sensitive?
11 responses
• United States
15 Nov 06
i would rather have a man who is sensitive then a man who has no feelings or communication at all..and no i dont think you should change yourself you will find the right woman for you..one who loves you for you ...dont settle for less then what your heart tells you is right..and hiding part of yourself isnt right
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Thank you so much for your comment. I feel the same way that I should not have to change myself because I am sensitive. I person should love me the way that I am and not try to change that I am sensitive.
@msqtech (15073)
• United States
15 Nov 06
ty for your comment all women should feel this way
@sjaber1 (184)
• United States
15 Nov 06
First of all, you cannot change who you are! You are you and no one else can tell you not to be you....and if they do, then they don't appreciate you at all. Someone who can accept you as you are is someone to hear words of wisdom from. Man or woman: you are still human. It is in human nature to cry and each person varies in sensitivity. So don't let ANYONE tell you that something that makes you YOU is wrong or it should be changed. Dont look at your trait as being something that is rated as positive or negative...rather look at it as different from others. In a woman's perspective (other than that girlfriend of yours)I think it is a good thing because it will be easier for others to confide in you. A famous quote goes "What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us." ^.~
• United States
15 Nov 06
I totally agree with you. You are who you are and should not ever have to change that for anyone! You will find someone on this Earth that is just absolutely perfect for you and she will accept all of you just the way you are! I hate when ppl say that crying is just for girls; they are so wrong because it is definitely human nature for us all to cry at some time or another.
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I definitely agree with everything you said. I will not change how I am for anyone or anything. If they don't like me the way that I am, then that is not the person for me and that they really don't appreciate or love me. Everyone made very good points that I will take and remember. Thank you :-)
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I definitely agree with everything you said. I will not change how I am for anyone or anything. If they don't like me the way that I am, then that is not the person for me and that they really don't appreciate or love me. Everyone made very good points that I will take and remember. Thank you :-)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I like when a man is comfortable with himself and is fine with being sensitive. My husband cries and I don't mind. He may not cry over everything but I have seen him cry and it does not bother me. I know he has feelings and I think that is so sexy. Maybe your friend just was raised this way that men don't cry or she isn't comfortable with the idea of a man coming to her crying. Men have feelings and emotions too they aren't machines.
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I think that may have been how my friend was raised because I know she is a very good person. Yes, men have feelings and emotions too otherwise we wouldn't be human. Thank you very much for your advice as well.
• United States
15 Nov 06
OH HOGWASH! SENSITIVITY IS A GOOD THING
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Thank you very much for feeling the same way. :-)
• Singapore
15 Nov 06
i dont see why men cannot cry, they are human too right? and have the right to cry if they want to, nag if they have to. my bf cries with me together when we watch sad movies ..lol, i will tease him, of course, but i dont mind, at least i know he got feeling! furthermore, i feel that with him being so sensitive, it's a good thing for me too as he knows how to give me the TLC that i need!:0) so, my friend, cry all you want, that woman will love you just the same!
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Thank you very much as well. That is nice that you and your boyfriend cry together and have a great relationship. It is nice to hear everyone's opinions. :-)
@angel1983 (149)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
I really like it when my boyfriend cries in front of me, not because i like to see him hurting but because it means we have trust between us and he is not scared of how i will judge him. I would love him to let those feelings out more often. I think it is wonderful u are so intouch with your feelings keep it up.
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Thank you for the compliments and for sharing your opinion about this topic. I definitely appreciate everyone's comments and knowing that I shouldn't change the way that i am. :-)
@LadyElektra (1078)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
my man is sensitive passionate and i love it..
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Thank you very much. It is nice to hear this from everyone.
@msqtech (15073)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I think that is wrong and I cry often and for no reason sometimes but I went through some really tough stuff. I think it is okay for men to be emotional it shows we are human.
@wyykidd (1459)
• Singapore
15 Nov 06
I'd like my man to be a true human with feelings, not a robot. (^_^)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
I feel bad for your friend if they think it's not okay for a man to cry. I think it comes from parents teaching young boys that crying means you aren't a man. The fact is that baby boys are more emotional than girls, until someone teaches them that is wrong. I personally find it a big turn on when a man cries. Of course I wouldn't want one that was just whiny and crying all the time, but when he is genuinely hurting I think it's great. That was one of the first things that I loved about my boyfriend, he cried at a memorial for a friend instead of pretending he wasn't affected. I think it shows that men actually do feel, contrary to what most women say about men...LOL. Go ahead and cry when you feel the need!
• United States
15 Nov 06
Well I think you should act how you feel. It isn't good for people to bottle up their emotions, no matter if they are male or female.