Men

@jules67 (2788)
Philippines
December 3, 2009 8:11am CST
I am not generalizing it. But I do not understand why is it that some men want to get into the pants of women and then escape the responsibility if something comes out of the deed? My nephew has the habit of having that deed with all the women he dates. And the worst is, he brings them to their house. I do know for a fact that sometimes women just agree to it. There were a few times that he got some girls pregnant but he opted to take it off. I myself hated so much what is happening here. I am sometimes considered as someone who talks too much because I always voice out my discontent of what he is doing. I told him that every thing the he does will go back to him - karma. I can't wait for that day to come.
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@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I don't understand that either really. Guys taking advantage of really really nice beautiful girls just so they can satisfy a lustful desire of theirs. And opting out of being a father for some chick that you knocked up is down right shameful and really show how animalistic and primal human beings can be. There are a lot of beautiful creations that the maker put onto this planet we can enjoy each others beauty with hurting anyone's feelings. When a life is brought into the world the noble thing is too raise it and help it to realize how to survive on its own. Unfortunately in the world there are plenty of lonely baby's and mothers. I'VE NOTICED HOW MUCH A DESERTED WOMAN CAN SHINE. My mom and dad have been divorced all my life and my mother has provided for me all my life. My mom and plenty of other women provide prime examples of how strong women really are. It's just unfortunate that some beings out there don't care about other people's feelings or emotions. I do believe that we are all electrically charged like elements and we will bond with someone else to balance us out.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I praise your mom for praising you well. You sound like you are really raised well. Yes, there are so many people who do not care about the feelings and emotions of other people. Women should shine and raise their heads if things come up like this. I hope that they will not allow men to do things that they do not want to. If one has enough self respect, things like these will not happen.
@aguas_aj (498)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
well, karma comes when least expected. Im pretty sure your nephew wont listen anymore especially if he has already escaped the responsibility of it. and like you, I would really hate someone like that, but since he's your nephew, just try to pray for him to change. prayer has a lot of power. and let's both hope that he would change or atleast get mature enough to see that what he's doing isnt right.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
That is right. When everything fails already, I guess the best thing to do is to just pray for him. I hope he will really change.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Dec 09
It is a challenge for some young men to pick up as many women as they can and this reflects on their self esteem and they feel better about themselves. It has become somewhat of a culture amongst some young guys. Of course it would not be possible for this to go on if the women weren’t willing participants which is a real shame. It is a bit of a culture amongst young men unfortunately. There is not much you can do except advise him to change his ways which does not seem likely. It would really help if the girls involved learnt to respect themselves more and refuse to give themselves so freely.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Yes, you are right. It is already common knowledge that it really adds to men's charm is they have much women in their arms. Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who are willing participants in this scenario and in the end they end up crying and taking care solely of their children. I hope that more women will respect themselves so as not to be taken advantage of men.
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@ayebelle (367)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
it's very common to a "guy" to act like that and do such things. I have many guy friends, and actually most of my friends are boys. Yeah. And some of them, do such things like that, BUT they said it's just part of life, enjoying having fun (WTF!) and it's really on the "girl" decision if she allow him to treat her like that. If the girl really deserve to be respected then she can get it. But Boys should respect themselves too, ha ha nothing is loose then from girls if something happen. But girls should be wiser nowadays because there are many bad guys out there. This is just a matter of Respect of both gender.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
If we only have that much self respect, no one will be abused and taken advantaged of.
@ayebelle (367)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
your right. Just do what you think is right and you'll be happy about it. Life is Fun. Don't take it seriously.
@gx7001lm (63)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 09
personally i think it is not you r responsibility for correcting your nephew now as it would be his parents ( in father ) to teach him how to treat women with respect and how to be responsible while he is still at his teen. my dad keep reminding me this all the time so that i would ruin another girl's life. but you still can go ahead and advice him maybe one day these words will knock some sense in him someday as a guy i would go deeper in that relationship if the woman allows me to. Meaning your nephew can womanize cause the women allow him to. they did not ask for his background. so i think a small percentage of his character goes to the ignorance of many of his "dates" but of course not to generalize women but it may be one of the factor
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Thank you for your enlightening comment. I do know that it may not be my responsibility. But the thing is the people who should be doing that seems to be out of touch or do not care at all. And honestly, it all the more infuriates me. Like I have mentioned in one of my posts that a guest on Oprah show said that these things happen because women agree to it. I absolutely agree to what was said. I just hope that the women will realize what is being done to them. And I pray that my nephew will get into his thick skull the repercussions of what he is doing.
@ToniTsui (39)
4 Dec 09
HI~,I think you have tried your best to advise him . He know what he is doing ,So he should take the responsibility of whatever his behavior cause . so far as meeting some problem he would mature
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Thanks for your comment. Yes, I have done my part to advise him. I hope one day he will be enlightened.
@missweety (626)
• Latvia
3 Dec 09
Hello, not nice to hear that that such a man exist! However, i am not born yesterday and have experienced such types... I am sure that everything will come back to him!! Have a good day and lets hope that he will change some day!!!
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Thanks for your comment missweety. I really do hope, I hope that I am not becoming bad by doing this, that it will all come back to him. I hope that he will realize what he is doing and change for the better.
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Well your nephew have a shallow mind and never really serious when it comes to building honest relationship and just date women for fun. Though, the women he date have also a dull mind because if they really know your nephew womanizer behavior they may avoid him. I think those girls have their own fault as they are really lure easily with his sweet words. Thus, for ladies to avoid this being a victim of playboy they should need to make a research first before becoming a victim as women always end up as a loser.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I believe that it takes two to tango. One does something if the other one agrees to it. One can easily say no, if one disagrees. Unfortunately, on my nephews case, both of them agrees to it.