FORGIVENESS! DO YOU FIND IT EASY?

@caramello (4381)
Australia
November 14, 2006 9:00pm CST
Are you able to forgive someone that has hurt you and move on, or do you have difficulty in forgiving? In some cases I do find it difficult to forgive!
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
in most cases i can forgive but there is a case that i`m finding really difficult to deal with let alone find that i can forgive them for what they have done
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Not all can sometimes be forgiven, but if trying does not work, I guess the moving on can also be a challenge.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
and now time is running out one has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and i feel i need to for my own peace of mind so that i can move on
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
I wish you luck hope, you can only do your best, and if you fail like I did, you must not be too hard on yourself! For reasons sometimes the emotional pain takes over and makes the battle twice as hard, but for me I have had to move on regardless, as too much energy was being spent on my two main issues I was trying to deal with. Thank-you for your response.
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@The_Eagle_1 (1122)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Some things are harder than others and some do not deserve to be forgiven....better to get over the problem and move on.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Very wise words, from ,I guess, a very wise person......
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@dhicks30 (1948)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Forgiveness is a very good word. It take a bigger person to say it.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. And how right you are!
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@momto2 (472)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I would have to agree with you, sometimes it's very hard to forgive, but in time I forgive everyone.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Time is a great healer, and can work for some.
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@pormadi (1300)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 06
No, I don't. But I try to forgive anyone who has hurted me.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Trying to do it is a start.
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@blilley7 (196)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Usually I can forgive very easily, forgetting may be a different story, though. And like others have said, the degree of hurt does make a difference, usually in the length of time it takes to stop hurting.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Yes would have to agree with what you have said.
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@pikunpol (499)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 06
well i think.. its not to easy, especially if they hurt you so much ..
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Yes, the level of the hurt has something to do with it and how easy it is.
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@Riah50 (672)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Now that I am older I think I find it easier to forgive. When I was younger I didnt really realize how short life is and that you shouldnt spend it being mad at someone. So now I forgive easier then I use too.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. Life is too short, that is for sure.
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@nithila30 (1427)
• India
15 Nov 06
Its bit difficult to forgive .but its good to forgive others
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response.
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
Im having a hard time forgiving specially the one who have hurt me is someone close to my heart. But like they've said forgive and forget and Move on
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
Hopefully you can belle and thank-you for your response.
@gianena (256)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
You're right about forgiving the person who had hurt you a lot and after that you move on with your life.
• United States
1 Feb 07
it can be so hard to forgive, it takes time in my opinion, I had someone I considered a best friend that talked bad about to me to other"friends" and made fun of me due to a car accident and my health conditions. She hurt me very bad and then on her blog publicly talked awful about me. I took the higher road and refused to lower myself to her standards! I have forgiven but not forgotten and I can never ever resume my friendship with her.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
That is sad Lush_heidi that someone you trusted could be cruel to you in this way. I think there is a fine line regarding whether or not to forgive someone and the level of pain that they have caused so good for you for being the better person and thank-you for your response. Take care!
@rcdrury (22)
• United States
1 Feb 07
If you've ever heard that everything that is simple is not necessarily easy, forgiveness is probably the best example. Often, the people we have the most difficult time forgiving are the people we care about the most. This is because these are the ones who have the power to hurt us. Pride is an ugly thing. Put it aside and forgive. If your bitterness is hurting that other person, it's only because they care about you. The person your unforgiveness hurts the most is you.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
Quite true rcdrury but not all situations can be that easy to forgive and forget. Thank-you for your response.
@wynna1 (1291)
24 Jan 07
For me, i can easily forgive a person who did something wrong with me, just as long as its not too damaging and not to serious but its the trust that is really difficult to give back in this situation.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
Trust in certain situations is not easy to do depending on what has happened as I have tried it in one certain stage where a friend was concerned and the same thing happened again so there has to be a line drawn and it is a very fine one!
• United States
12 Dec 06
It depends on what the forgiveness is. It can be hard at times, but I know I should no matter what. So, I pray for the Lord to help me do it.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
Yes the type of forgiveness may depend on the cause and that is not always so easy but if praying for you helps then that is the best way for you to do it.
@yarntales (639)
• United States
11 Dec 06
No I don't find it easy, but do find it necessary. Unforgiveness is like taking poison yourself, and hoping your enemy will die. Unforgiveness only hurts ourselves.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
Thank-you for your response.
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@cheenlly (3482)
• Philippines
6 Dec 06
Its not that easy to forgive especially if it really hurt too much to the point that it ruins your life. But damage has been done we have no choice but to let it go from that. For us to move on we must left behind all those hatred that causes pain. As mostly said time will heal everything. Forgiving someone will set you free and then you can freely move on.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
Very well said cheenlly, one can only do the best they can! Thank-you for your response.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
15 Nov 06
sometimes i can forgive easy but sometimes i can't
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
Thank-you for your response. For me it would be the degree of the hurt, and not always the easiest to decide.
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I'm in the frogive but don't forget grouping. That way I learn not tomake the same mistakes again! I will move on with that paerson but be on the lookout always. I know it doesn't sound too christian but its best so that you don't get hurt too often.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
missy, I was in a situation with a friend that I gave her a second chance, and the exact same things happened again, so that was it! I have recently saw her and did have a chat, but walked away without it getting back to the friendship stage again! I did learn by this one. Thank-you for your response.
@14missy (3185)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I know that situation too. I have a lot of acquantences now and only a couple of true friends. It is very difficult to open up to someone completely when they have hurt you in the past.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I read somewhere, where some friends come into our lives for a reason, and I saw this friend as one of those, she hurt me quite badly, but learning something by it makes me feel a whole lot better, but at the time could not see past the pain!
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Yes I dont forgive easy. This is a little sad but its true. many years ago when I was married to my 2nd husband some of his so called friends did the most worst thing that Ive ever heard of.my mom had just passed away and these friends that did not like me had called the cops when I was getting things ready to go home for the furnal and told the cops that I was leaving and leaving my kids at home alone when I came back from the store there was a cop at my door with my kids ready to take them. by the way kids were going with me. anyway me and my kids were just fine and the cops went after them for false info. but just learned that one of the three that did this just passed away yesterday and I still will never forgive her.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
What a horrible thing to happen to you hoghoney and very low! What makes these people do this kind of thing is beyond me! I am also guilty of not forgiving someone even after they had passed away, but the pain is far too deep! Thank-you for your response and take care!
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Thank you, yea I just dont think I could be that low no matter what the problem is.
@gianena (256)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I don't find it easy to forgive a person especially if he/she has hurt me so much. But as time passes by, I learn to forgive but the friendship is never the same anymore. After what he/she did, I can't trust that person again.
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Trust is more the issue as to being able to forgive someone and that in itself can be a hard hurdle to jump, we can only do our best! Thank-you for your response.