how has life changed since your kid entered your life?

Singapore
December 7, 2009 10:04pm CST
Guess this discussion is more applicable to parents. Or for those without kids, perhaps you can suggest a response based on the friends and family you know who have kids. What is the largest change that you think has come about? For me, I feel that suddenly my time is no longer my own. And I always have to see to my child's needs before my own. Which can be very tiring sometimes, and a little frustrating. Especially if one was used to running one's life any way one wanted previously.
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@aguas_aj (501)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
I agree with you. there's alot of changes in my life after I gave birth to my son. first, I have to stop working coz there's no body to take care of my kid. 2nd, sleeping time is always disrupted. 3rd, no time and money for my own. Everything and in every aspect, I look after my child's welfare first. things and his needs first
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• Singapore
11 Dec 09
totally agree! you just summed it all up.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
8 Dec 09
YEah, i have no kids yet.. lol =D I guess life will definitely change once a couple has got kids.. BEcause all their priorities in life will change, and all attention will be on the kid rather than on our own.. PLus, time and effort spent on looking after the kid is neevr easy too.. Patience is the key, and being parents, have to know the difference of teaching and abusing.. UNless one is ready to be parents, they should not be having any kids at all.. hehe
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• Singapore
8 Dec 09
that is true... i know some people who are weekend parents. they only see their kids for a while on weekends.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
8 Dec 09
My life has been very busy and hectic since having my daughter almost 18 years ago now. I have almost got her raised and through school now though. I have given her all of my time and support over the years. I will have time for myself again when I get her raised.
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• Singapore
8 Dec 09
18 years is a long time! it's time for you to rest and relax!
@maximax8 (30121)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 09
I have a teenage son and after I had him I was able to study and work as a primary school teacher. I had a child minder for him whilst I studied or worked. Then in 2006 I got pregnant again. At 36 weeks pregnancy I found out about his spina bifida and hydrocephalus. That last month of my pregnancy was like a nightmare. I still went ahead and had a home birth. It was challenging to have him in special care baby care for the first three weeks of his life. It was terrible for him to have two operations. Since then my life has become really busy. I have to do catheter care day and night plus in the day I must give his legs exercises. He has gaiters which he hates wearing. I constantly have a back, hip and leg ache due to lifting my son. He can't walk. In 2007 we went to Portugal, in 2008 we went to Latvia, Lithuania and Estonia. In 2009 we visited South Africa. I got pregnant again in 2008. My baby girl was born in 2009. Having her as well as my disabled son made me get a Phil and Teds buggy with a doubles kit. I have less time for myself these days. My teenage son is really helpful to me.
• Singapore
12 Dec 09
Wow... what a big sacrifize you have contributed! Not easy to become a busy parent in your case. Need a lot of love, patience and passion! Glad and great that your teenage son is so understanding and helpful! :)
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
22 Dec 09
ha ha ha ha ha... having a kid taking up all of your time is part and parcel of becoming a parent. Even just getting married, you are no longer running your time the way you want it and at the time you want it compared to when you were single. So, having a kid come into your life, would be a little tougher as compared to when you got married. I have yet to get a kid in my life yet. But when I do, I guess I would be able to figure out how to manage my time with my wife to handle the additional responsibilities. And yes, at times, it can be a little trying to juggle everything together! But at the end of the day, it is all worth it, no?
@BlueQ123 (29)
• Singapore
11 Dec 09
Absolutely different lifestyle before and after having kids around. I have 3 kids. I realized that raising kids is no ending job. Afterall we are parents who should support our kids whenever and wherever they need our help. Very tiring. But no choice. Who can take over our responsibilities? And another problem is who can we rely on when we are tired. Who is reliable to help us if we are not around with our kids? Maids? Nanny? Neighbours? Or our relatives? As parents, we have too much thought over little thingy of our kids. Sometimes, monitoring others to take care of our kids also a tough and tiring job! No kidding. And problems also raised when we educate our kids with different style from grandparents or others. I feel very tiring to keep tract of all these little to big issues of our kids. In short, it is not an easy job to become parents! How I wish I have chance to attend parenting workshop to gain more parenting knowledge before I became a parent. But who cares to attend such workshop if we were not parents... :)