What do you feel if your only son tells you he is gay and likes guys?

i learned so much from my gay friends experience. their stories really broke my heart. they are good persons and all they need is our unconditional love and support. they have all the rights to be treated well with respect. i am the right person to give the best care, love and support if ever my son will be a gay.

Hi, Msfrancisco. If ever that happens, your son will be the subject of envy by some gays. He is very lucky to have parents like you. I know some gays are not accepted by their families. Some fathers beat them because they are gays and are "a shame" to the family. In effect, they leave home and search a niche for themselves. Although some gays are successful in their chosen fields, still there are others who are miserable and whose lives go wayward. It is sad when that happens. That would not be so if families accept them and unconditionally love them. Thanks!

Hi, sid. What a relief it had been, expecting and accepting her ahead to be a tomboy but turning it to be otherwise. You are right. If she turned out a tomboy, your love and care for her wouldn't change. All parents want the best for their children. I would personally think we should accept, love and understand more our gay and lesbian children.

I understand how such news can be a shock but still, it isn't the worst news a parent could recieve about their child. It would not be difficult at all for me to accept that in one of my children or grandchildren. Some parents literally disown their kids and I really don't get that.

Hi, hagirl. No parent would want his children to be sad or depressed. A parent should accept his son, no matter what. He must love him more. He should understand him. Most of all he should be there to listen to all his problems and make him happy.

Yes, she did notice and observe things about her son earlier. She refused and ignored to entertain such thoughts until the son told her about it. I told my friend that it was a good thing that the son confided to her as it was an indication that he respected, honored and trusted his mother with that information. It was difficult and hard to accept it as she is still thinking about it up to this time. I told my friend that she has to accept that fact and love her son the more.

Hi, lizbenetua. It may not even be the choice of the son (but due to his genetics), that he is gay. Parents should understand that gays went through difficult times and they need to be understood. Above all, they need the parent's love and acceptance. My friend has slowly accepted her son. But she is still considering visiting a psychiatrist about the situation. Thanks for sharing, have a nice day!

No parent would wish their children to be unhappy. We love them. We can only guide them. We cannot impose things on them. If they choose to lead such lives, that their choice and would assume that they are happy with it. It should not change a parent's love for a homosexual child. Acceptance and love are all they need from us.

Our children are the most precious ones in our lives. No matter what they are, it shouldn't change the way we treat them. We should accept them as they are. It would be the time that we need to understand them more. They need us most especially.

They either suppress their actions and act like real men or act with a no-care attitude. Those suppressing their feelings and actions display their true identity late. But they themselves know that they are leaning into that side. It is very difficult for them, we should understand. They suffered great confusion and underwent identity crisis. With worries as to how society looks upon them and "letting it out and being free", it surely is difficult for one. It is not anybody's fault nor his own that one is gay or lesbian. They might not have wanted and liked to become one. But, as it is in their genes, they are what they are. We should accept them as they are and afford them love and support as everyone wants to be afforded. Thanks, letran. Have a nice day. (How are your kittens? Ours have grown bigger and more mischievous but still lovable.)

My friend says that she already noticed something about her son when he was younger. When the son braved it to tell her, her doubts were confirmed. Even with the doubts and "little" knowledge in the past, she said it really hurt her, saddened her and made her angry with the circumstances. She said she felt all her efforts turned into waste. She said it was more of her feeling worried for her son feeling ridiculed, talked about, discriminated in society and her own feelings of embarrassment. I told her that it is beyond all of us. Even the gays themselves didn't choose to be like that. They need to be loved instead of ridiculed. More so, if they are our own children. Thanks for being here with your comments, jewels. Have a nice day!