Do you have a generous friends? or you are the generous one?

Philippines
December 11, 2009 2:44am CST
I have sets of friends, I mean I have different groups. I am the one who is generous in one group of my friends. I am the oldest of them, when someone is in need of money I can lend a help but not in higher prices. On the other group, they are much older than me and still single like me. Whenever they want to eat in a restaurant or go shopping they always send me a message inviting me to be with them, all for free. They treat me to body massage, hair treatment, watching movies etc. On the other group, because I have three groups of friends, we are all paying for ourselves . I don't know why we are shy with each other when one is paying for us. That third group of mine are my co-workers actually. Moreover, on my first group, I am the one who is generous, I treat them whenever we meet. All the blessings I received on my second group, I share it to my first group. The third group is neutral group . Are you the generous among your friends or they are the one? Do you think you are lucky to have a generous friends. Generous friends is a blessing for me.
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20 responses
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
i am lucky because i have a generous friends. i am generous too. we are practicing the give and take. i really enjoy the company of my friends. we are fund of going out. if some of my friends has no money. one of us will just threat him or her just for mus to be enjoy and happy.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Just like what I am doing to my other set of friends! Thanks for the response. I Like the avatar!
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Just like what I am doing to my other set of friends! Thanks for the response. I Like the avatar!
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
i am in between but i have a friend that is generous she always buy something for me when she is out of town or country.she is just simple but rich family.she also doing dole outs to the victim of floods and her family donated sum of money for the victim of floods.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
She is a real generous person, donating money for the flood victim, that was awesome! Thanks for the response!
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
yes that is very heart worthy to share what you have in excess through donation.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
11 Dec 09
Hi grecy! It sounds interesting that you have three set of friends and you play different roles in these groups. It is also good that you are generous and treat others, spending your own money and you get the reverse of it in the second group. My groups of friends is generous and any of us won't mind spending money on each other. I too am generous and whenever, any of my friends is in need of money/help, I immediately lend my helping hand to him.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Yes I played a different role! I want to be included in your friends too Deepak! God bless and thanks for the response.
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
I have few generous friends way back in college and in high school which often treat me to have a snack for free though most of the times we rather shares in the expenses having dutch treat. I could say that I am very generous when I know I have the money and I could treat all of my friends without asking them to shares. Then, their are times I am not generous when I have few money and need to save a lot. My friends are the one who either pay for the meals and drinks, sometimes even in fares. It really depend on the situation and group of friends where one belong as others are great spender while other are simply thrifty.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
You are very practical and true. thank God that we have generous friends that treats us sometimes when we have nothing to offer for ourselves. Isn't it? Thanks for the response.
• India
11 Dec 09
Generosity is the essence of friendship according to the writer Oscar Wilde.Well we have all sorts of friends.My friends are varied some are generous some are not so.I suppose people are different.Some are generous with their time,some with well-meaning advice and some with spirit.We need all of them from time to time.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I agree, people are different. God seems balancing the environment. We need all of them. Well said!
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Hi. I don't make friends very easily. That's why I have a very limited set of friends. In our case, we are all generous to a common friend who needs help. We don't mind lending money or other things to each other in times of need. When we eat outside, we normally share equally. But when there are special occasions, some of us would volunteer to cover for the entire food costs.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
You are practical too! And your friends are blessings from God! Thanks for the response.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I use to be generous with some friends of mine and tend to be very stingy with others. I don't know. I guess I am different with different people that I get to meet. During high school, I was only generous with my female classmates and not to my male classmates, I guess you can pretty much say why (^_^") During college, I do lend money to those that would ask me but, I would often tell them that they should pay me back with interest so, most of them are discouraged to borrow from me (^_^") Now that I am working, I just let my colleagues borrow if they need and if I have money to lend. During the course of doing my job, I got to meet a very generous person whom I became friends with. He even gave me a LCD monitor for free and a pair of shoes. He already gave me a bunch of things before and he just tells that he has been like that with friends that he likes. His other friends had also been given things but, I really just can't find it normal. I guess he is just fortunate to have a lot and shares it with others? From that, I try to be generous too to other friends of mine that I think needs my generosity. Feels good to help.
• Philippines
13 May 10
Hey who is your friend and I want to make friends with him too!LCD MOnitor and a pair of shoes, what else can he give to a friend! Feels good to help without waiting a help in return. And it feels good to be useful and loved by friends.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
13 May 10
I got to be friends with him when my high school classmate invited his college classmates/friends to apply for a job as an English Teacher for Korean students who would be joining a camp. That time, he gave me a belt because I needed one and a couple of shirts just because he thinks that it would suit me. I am not sure if he gives things to girls or ladies but, I'd ask him if ever I get to meet with him again. Yeah, its good to know that you are the one who can help and not being the one who needs help.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Me and my friends are generous to each other. If one person borrows money from the other we never really just pay that person back, usually the person who owes just pays for the other person when they don't have money. I guess it doesn't always work out completely even, but we are friends so it doesn't really matter. Money is just money; it comes and it goes, but true friends are something much more valuable. We are also generous in other ways. We do each other favors and watch each other's backs.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I love the words you use. Money is just a money , friends are more valuable! that is the attitude! Thanks for the response.
• United States
22 Dec 09
I feel like for the most part I am the generous one, but I do have one really generous friend.Of course, I am blessed to have her in my life!
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
A true friend, generous or not is still a blessing! Thanks for the response.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 09
I have lots of friends, the friends at work are really good one most of them but there are some who are really mean. They would never let anybody join when they are eating or order something, but when someone else order or bring something good they would love to join them. There is yet another group in which some of the members are equal and they pay whenever the bill is low and make us all smile. And we do it on time to time. But frnakly speaking in my family and friends I always go out of way to help all m family and friends whenever I can.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
What kind of people you first mentioned. Very mean! that is good you are able to help your family.Thanks for the response.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
23 Dec 09
Yes you are right as they say charity beings at home . One should be kind to their family and friends as well. As they are part of ur life.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
I rarely have generous friends as most of the times in times like this when every one experience crisis my friends tend to be thrifty and only spend their money in special occasion like like birthday, anniversaries etc..and not ordinary treat friends like snacks. I myself is generous when i have enough budget or else all my friends would decide to contribute equally during group meeting.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I guess it is not important if we have generous friends or we are the generous one. Friendship is more important than anything else. I enjoy looking at your avatar. I even copy her moves, I am dancing right now. Where did you get your avatar? Thanks for the response.
@rebaozi (100)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I only have one group of friends.And we are all generous.I don't like the people who are not generous,and can't be friends with them.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Why do you hate people who are not generous? you are all generous in your group, then I want to belong in it! Thanks for the response.
• United States
23 Dec 09
I am the generous one among my group of friends. However, among my friends, we are all in different groups to be honest. I have four good, close friends. My best friend [girl] is friends with all three of my other friends. But the other three don't really know each other. Occasionally we'll all get in the same room together and chat, but otherwise I don't really have 'groups'. When I hang out with my friends, it's usually only two at a time. [I'm using names here, sorry!] My friend Rachel [my name too!] gets along with my cousin Kate [who is also a good friend of mine]. She also gets along with my other best girl friend, Emily, and my guy best friend, Fender. Fender, Emily, and Kate all get along with Rachel and I. But Fender doesn't know Emily, and doesn't really care about Kate. Emily doesn't like Fender, and doesn't know Kate. Kate doesn't like Fender and doesn't really know Emily. So when I go out with my friends, it's usually with Rachel and Emily, Fender and I, Kate and Rachel and I, etc. My guy friend is generous only when he wants to be. Kate is generous occasionally, and Rachel is generous when she can afford it. I'm generous whether I can afford it or not, whether I want to be or not. I can't see not helping someone who really needs it. Sorry, that was sort of a wall-of-text!
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
No problem, I enjoy reading your response! YOur friends, even they don't like each other, is this your blessing!
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
11 Dec 09
I have a few friends and unlike you, they are individuals whom I can only gather them together for special occasions. Else, most of the times, I will meet them individually. One of my friend, whom I know for 10+ years, is very generous to me. She sometimes treats me for meals and buy me stuffs which she thought suits me well. However, I am less generous as I have been unemployed for a long time and she is very understanding towards my current situation and I am very open to talking with her on any things, any topic. Another friend of mine, she is younger than me. In the past, I treat her like a little sister and will treat her to meals (when I was still working). Nowadays I already lost contact with her, thus I didn't really treat any of my friends for meals as I think they will also be too embarrassed to get treated by me since I am the only one who isn't working (at the moment).
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
do you plan to look for a job or you are currently looking? I am glad that you have a generous friend too. Sometimes that things that we want and we can't afford it, they are the ones who gave it to us. They are our blessings!
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
12 Dec 09
Yes, still on the lookout for a job. And yes, I am definitely glad to have a close friend who knows just what I need (other than a job). When I think of initially how we got to know each other, it was quite weird. Because we didn't became close friends immediately. It was almost 2 to 3 yrs in high school that we discovered that we had same interests and hobbies. And even after graduation, we still remained in close contact and no matter how seldom we chatted, we still don't feel very much apart. So it's really good to have at least a close friend than having a lot of friends who are more of an acquaintance.
@maumbi (2570)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 09
i think have friend is good relationship between human in this world, but to closed is look bad to another community
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I don't get it, what do you mean? Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
I am more of the generous one, I believe God gave me the gift to create wealth so I always share all the blessings with my loveones and those who are in need. But there are times also that I am blessed with generous people and am thankful of that.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 10
i am a generous one i think. and i have one generous friend too. i try to help all my friends whenever i can. it gives me more bond if i did that. but it i shard to find a lot of generous friends
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Hi grecychunny26,Yes i have, some of my friends are generous.They always offer me when they feel that i'm in needs.I'm so grateful for having them as my friends.I am also generous in my own little way of giving.That is why our friendship lasted for so many long years,We really understand each other, thru thick and thin. Thanks,Good luck!
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I am glad you found a true friend! Thanks for the response.
• United States
11 Dec 09
I dont have any generous friends I am the generous one but im sure that tells you alot of people take advantage of me in the long run but thats okay I guess karma will take over eventually and well I like to give for the most part just hate it when others take advantage of my kindness which just hurts. But I dont think I will ever stop being generous just because of a few bad apples.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
that is the right attitude TierrasMommy! Bad history doesn't stop you for being you! Thanks for the response.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
9 Feb 11
It needs two hands for clapping, so in friend circle, we must have generous friends and also we must be generous to each other, that makes life, real life full of happyness, thanks for this nice discussion, cheers, happy posting.. kalyani