Sociable baby
By Lee Ka
@kaka135 (14916)
Malaysia
December 14, 2009 2:16am CST
There are some babies who started to recognize people at very young age, perhaps when they are 3 months old. Some babies only like to be carried by certain people, and when they are carried by strangers or people they do not prefer, they will just cry or make noise. Once I experienced that even when I just looked at a baby girl, and I didn’t even touch her or talk to her, she already started to cry.
I am really glad that my baby is very friendly to everyone. He is happy to be carried by anyone, even strangers. He always smiles at people, and has fun with others. Sometimes when I go shopping, some promoters or waiters approach him and talk to him, he also likes to play with them and laughs.
Now he’s already 9 months old, and he can really recognize people. But, he still likes to socialize with others, even strangers. Some people told me it’s good that the baby is sociable, so that the mother will not be that tired as she might be the only one the baby wants to approach. But some people also said that it can be dangerous, as bad people can easily kidnap the baby. Well, I think if the kidnapper wants to kidnap the baby, whether the baby cries or not, he will still carry him away, or make the baby unconscious before the baby starts making noise. But sometimes when the baby is too friendly or sociable, many people like to carry him, and I always gotta search where my baby is, because after this person carries him, then he may pass to another person to carry, and they may bring him for a walk…. Of course, I only let my relatives and friends to carry him without my supervision.
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9 responses
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
30 Dec 09
It seems like we are very similar: you with me and your baby with mine. I'm 25 and my baby is a lillte older than yours: he is almost 11 months!
The same think happened to me: I also looked at a baby girl and she started crying and my boy is also very sociable, a trully people person!
But don't you sometimes feel envious? I mean your his mom, he should recognise you among others? I felt that sometimes but when he was around 9 months old things changed and he started to fear some persons and recognise me, especially when he is tired or hungry...so don't be surprised if things change for you too!
Good luck and let me know what happens...
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Dec 09
It sounds like you have quite a little character there. It is good he is getting his social skills at an early age. They are saying the early the better in most things now days. I think kidnappers come when people are not paying alot of attention to the baby for whatever reason. I really don't think that is a problem in this case. hehehe
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
15 Dec 09
i think babies go through phases.
my baby was very sociable and everyone could carry her right up to about 10 months. then she started going through this separation anxiety phase as the books and websites predicted.
now she cries when i move away sometimes, even within sight. sometimes she's ok if another relative carries her. sometimes i'm the only one she wants at that point.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
15 Dec 09
You are right; I know it's not the baby's fault (the ones that cry even when we look), but I would be feeling bummed out, LOL. Those really cute and sociable kids are really adorable and especially when they do not cry when being carried around. Awesome. Normally, whenever I see cute babies, I would just wink at them or smile. And if they respond, awesome.. I would carry on to use my facial expressions to entertain them. I think kids are wonderful gifts from God and even if they are a stranger's child, like passing by in the mall, I will still stop to look. I think an educator has the best job ever, because they can interact with kids of different ages, and a childcare teacher has so much patience in him or her too..
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
15 Dec 09
i think its good to have a social-able baby because so many people just want their kids to be afraid of everything ( i was raised that way.. every stranger was a molester or kidnapper sigh) but i just figured kids screamed when i came near them because they can tell im not a kid person lol
@ivonneskoglund (85)
• Sweden
15 Dec 09
I know how you feel, i also have a 14months old son that is sociable. He always wears a smile in his face and does not complain if someone will carry him. Though of course i see to it that those who holds my baby are just my friends and family members. But sometimes when we we´re in the mall, there are people who says "hi" to him and immediatelly he will smile and give a hug. Maybe because i always tells him to give a hug if we meet a friend or a relative outside our home.
I like the feeling though, it makes me proud! Now he can say "hey" and will show his dance moves... it´s a sweet little thing!
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Hi kaka, It is easy to tell that you love your baby and that you are a good mother. Your baby is content because he feels that love and knows that you will protect him. Just continue to love him and try not to pass any fears along to him. At the same time be careful of strangers. Blessings.
@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Dec 09
That's so sweet! I have a 4 year old who is much more sociable now than when she was a baby . . . so a baby who isn't sociable won't necessarily grow up to be unsociable. She didn't like being held by others - particularly other women and elderly folks) . . . but for some reason men were okay by her. There were phases where she would say hi to everyone and then other times she'd want to hide or scream when a stranger approached her. Yah, I liked that fact that she didn't take to strangers that well too - just that instinct that everyone was not necessarily a "good" person. Some people just automatically like to touch or kiss the baby without the mom's permission which I didn't like, so with a screaming baby, I didn't have to say anything - hee hee.
@anniege (202)
• China
15 Dec 09
Hi kaka,our baby almost the same age and my daughter is 8 months days ago. She is also very sociable. When my mother-inlaw takes her out in the street,she will wave and shout her baby language to the passbys nomatter she knows or not. She loves dancing in front of many people by her funny moves. Oh my god,it really makes me laugh loudly.
About kidnap, I think we really have to be careful. I think every family will protect their baby at their best.
Wish your baby happy everyday.
