Help how do I wake my daughter up
By enola1692
@enola1692 (3323)
United States
December 15, 2009 5:55am CST
My daughter is dating this guy that breaks up with her to as he would say try a new flavor then comes back to her she is 16 an has been with him since she was 14 she keeps saying but I love him an you don't know him like I do cause she rembers when he was sweet at 14 but not at 16 he has changed he is rude an has made my baby cry again last nite when he told her he was thinking about breaking up with her AGAIN an it broke my heart when she looked at me an said what am I doing wrong I told her its not her its him an the really sad thing is all her friends say he has turned into a jerk my daughter will be 17 in a few weeks an wondering if she should sleep with the boy to keep him she hasn't yet an i am praying she don't thats one of the things I love about my daughters they tell me everything an I know she is still a virgin an now she is wondering if she should give it up for him I tell her if thats what he wants he is not worth it of course she defends him by sayin we been togther for3 years an he hasn't tried yet how do I let her know if you cry over the guy every other weekend he is not worth it
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@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
15 Dec 09
Here I want to give you some honest advice. First off even though you feel this man or boy is not right for your daughter does not mean that she feels the same way. From what you are typing here that is what I am hearing. Next I look at it this way if they are meant to be they will continue to keep going back and forth even though you and I both know that is no good. But I would let her know how you feel but also let her know you are there for her if she needs you even though you dont like the man. This is the best advice I could give for this and the reason I know personal experiance. Take care.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I tell her an her sisters all the time no matter what i would be behind them an as a matter of fact the last time they broke up an then he asked her out again she asked me to gibve him another chance an I told her I would I even invited him to dinner an made him brownies on his birthday an sadly I would stand behind her again but it breaks my heart watchingher when he comes out with a stupid remark like he wants to try a different flavor an breaks up with her AGAIN an then she cries which I don't get both my daughters were coursed with my tongue an say whatever is on there mind an my daughter is the first one to speak up about things she sees thats not right an yet she dosn't see the way he treats her isnt right
@eddiechoohn (340)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 09
Dont let your daughter go astray with a stupid guy. He sux!! Pull your daughter back.
She need guidance. Teenagers are blind especially when it is love.
Take good care..
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I agre thesad thing is she saw my mom being abused by my dad an my sister being abuse by her boyfriend I keep telling her do you want a man like I married who cares about my feeling an was never abusive or she want to be with one like my dad or my sister's ex I let she knows an has talked to her friends about leaving boyfriends that are abusive but just wont open her eyes to her own problem
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Dec 09
Hi Enola
It is hard when we see this happening to our Children, but I suggest you do not push her to hard, just advise her, she is blinded by love or fear one of the other
All I can suggest is be there for her, it looks like no matter what anyone says she is not going to listen and keep defending him
I really hope to that she does not sleep with him just to keep him as that is the worse she can do, it sounds to me he is putting her under pressure if this is what she is thinking of doing
Really what she needs is some time out there keep away from him, but she is so blinded that she can not see this
I really hope this sorts itself out and that your Daughter will soon open her eyes to the real boy that this Boy is
