Would you appreciate if someone tells you his/her story in great details?

Hi Sudipta! Your response makes an interesting reading and I am happy to note that you touched the crux of the discussion. It is true that when the other fellow is our favorite, we can listen to his/her story with all the trivial details. The types of persons, which you mentioned in the later part of your discussion are the really troublesome, as they continue to tell you their stories with their miseries and unfortunate happenings. If we happen to face such kind of persons, we always wish that s/he should sum up the conversation later than sooner and should allow us to take leave. Thanks a lot for sharing your views.

Hi Vandana! Good Morning! Do you mean to say that whomsoever you meet you tell your 'story' to him/her with great deails and you love doing it. I agree with you that it is not healthy practice to bottle up our feelings, but the finer point is - if we can make do with broad outlines, should it necessary to give every minute details (without bothering whether the person in front of us is intently listening to us or not). I hope that you narrate a story to someone, if you feel that s/he is paying attention to you and you giving all the details will help resolve your problems. I am not saying that you should keep quite and should not speak about your problems etc. Many thanks for sharing your thoughtful expressions, as always.

Vandana! I got all your points in the right earnest and you made it easier for me explaining through examples. I appreciate your advice. I may add here that you gave examples of mylot discussions, while I was talking about real life sitautions.

And I would very much appreciate if people were able to disclose what is eating them. This is because there may be some solution that I or others have come across and we have to offer. There was for instance a simple discussion about a lady not being able to buy some food offered on discount in supermarkets. Her issue was her family was much too small for that much, but they really relished that food item. I suggested she join hands with a few others and buy it, because that is what I do when I go to markets! If they say buy one get one free, I get hold of another person who is struggling to find the other piece, I tell them look, if you are not interested in the second one, I have selected one for me, let us get together and take it. Most of the time ladies are glad! That is because they are not too sure they want more of such stuff, after we dont really know how it will turn out. Secondly, shopping chore gets over faster. :) And then the Canadian lady came up with some problems relating to her credits on credit card. I simply asked her to sell them! Funny, it never occurred to her! When we dont see somethings happening in our surroundings, at times our own minds switch off those possibilities. :)

My pleasure Deepak.

Hi Bala! Yes, you got it absolutely right that there are some people who keep talking you about their miseries without bothering to know whether you are actually free time to listen to their detailed stories. Many thanks for enriching the post with your to the point remarks.

Hi Bala! Yes, you got it absolutely right that there are some people who keep talking you about their miseries without bothering to know whether you are actually free time to listen to their detailed stories. Many thanks for enriching the post with your to the point remarks.

Hi dear! I know it very well that you are a very patient listener for your friends and patients. Your friends rely on you therefore they rely on you. THANKS a lot for for touching the core issue in the post. :-)

Pl. Read - therefore they confide in you.

Hi Buchi! There is nothing wrong in playing the role of a patient listenr. I also love to be a patient listner for my friends and I enjoy listening to them on most of the occasions. However, things get difficult when they start telling minute details, which appear unnecessary to me. Thanks for sharing your views.

That is true Dpk, some people, without bothering about the other person's time and interest, go on talking unnecessary, irrelevant matters, which will test our patience. I think we have to cut them short and ask them to be point specific. They may think bad but no other go.

Hi SCG! In my post, I referred to my off line or say real life friends. Mylot or for that matter interacting on social networking sites is entirely a different issue. Some of the dear friends, who otherwise are very good, start telling their stories with great details and eat up lots of your important time, specially when they can make do with brief story, which also serves the purpose. Thanks for joining and sharing your views. Wish you a very Merry Christmas!

Hi Kala! It is good to know that while talking your remain to the point and do not tell every minute and tiniest details of any story to the other fellow. It is great on your part that you have been a good listener throughout and you helped others in pouring out their pent up emotions to you and in the process making them feel relieved. I am also a very patient listener and love helping my near and dear ones, however, if they could be to the point or precise, that would help me a lot. Some of them telling frivolous details make me feel stressed, however, it is another matter I do not express this thing to my friends (who have such a habit), I remain patient while listening to them. Thanks for sharing your views twice.

Heyyyyyy---you have unwittingly conformed my assessment of the situation.Someone caught on to you over telephone and went on and on with a story-- One good thing that has come out of that is the discussion topic. Incidentally, this is just fooling around and the answer to the discussion topic will come later.Am still in the midst of some work.

Read 'confirmed'for the typo" conformed'.

Hi Kala! I wont' deny or confirm your assessment. There are some friends in real life, who otherwise are great, who will tell you each and every minute details about themselves, without bothering whether you are listening intently or not or whether you have time or not, even on telephone.

Hi Zandi! I know a little bit about you and I know that you won't open up to everyone or for that matters to strangers easily. I agree with you that those who talk uncontrollably about themselves, may be agining. However, I feel those who keep talking about every detail want us to listen to them as they do not find suitable listeners and want to tell us that how much they are suffering........lol! Thanks a lot for joining and revealing your view point. Have a great day! Deepak

Maybe our long association here has created a special kind of trust and I feel comfortable telling you things that I usually don't open up to others. You are one of the selected few that I share an open book with.

Deepak is so tellable, LOL. Hey baby face, that word is original, just for you. LOL.

Hi Sree! Hope you are fine. I can understand about your from your response that you are a introvert person and you would reply to the point and would go on narrating minute details about any event, till you are specifically asked for the same. It may also be correct that you may not like to listen to the entire story, when you are busy or don't feel like listening to the person. Many thanks for joining and sharing your considered views.

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Thank you very much for the BR.

Hi Chaitra! It is always better if the story teller skip the unnecessary details in the story, this way listening becomes more interesting. You see few of my friends (in real life) are such that they would narrate every minute and tiniest details of their story without bothering whether I have time or not, that irritates me. On the other hand I cannot just stop and do not want to stop them so that they may not feel hurt, this realization should come in their minds automatically. Otherwise, they are great and very caring friends. Thanks for joining us.

Hi Karen! Yes, I am impressed with your thoughts and when asking somebody about his well being, we should see whom we are asking and if he is in the habit of telling detailed stories, we should mentally prepare ourselves for it. It is also true that if we are busy, we must tell the other person that I' do not have the time and I be excused for another occasion. Thanks for sharing your wonderful views, one of the best responses so far.

You're welcome, Deepak!

Hi dear! :-) of course the post has not been started keeping you in mind. It is based on real life experiences and we have not met in person. I am happy to see that you touched the main issue in the post. I can understand yr stress when people talk too much about them. Thanks for the wonderful response.

Hi dear ! It is so touching to note that you always enjoy participating in my discussions, hope your unflinching support will continue.

I was just kidding, my dear:-) It is always a pleasure to take part in your discussions, Deepak.:-)

You are welcome.

Hi Sarah! Your last line did the trick........lol! If we mentally prepare ourselves for a long answer for a short question like 'how are you', then we will be able to handle the situation nicely. Thanks a lot for sharing your views. I am delighted to read it.

Hi dawn! Yes, everything in moderation looks good and make you feel happy and if you keep repeating any of your habit (which the other fellow feels is offending) then you may lost the friendship. Thanks for such a crisp, to the point and wonderful thoughts. dpk

Hi dear Opal! What impressed me about your response was your honesty and candid attitude. Atleast you are aware that you sometimes tend to narrate a story in great details and your boy friend does not like it. You see you might have developed such a habit since many years and you have become used to it. I think if you can evaluate yourself and introspect,you can modify this thing. Next time, when you are going to tell a story to your boy friend, please try to keep the story brief and to the point, consiously and look how does he reacts..........lol! It is always great fun to read your wonderful and honest responses. I am lucky to have friends like you and thanks for everything. Congratulations in advance for 10000 posts, which I hope you will reach soon and Merry Christmas to you. deepak

Hi paula! I was extactly talking about the same 'friends' as you have mentioned in your response. Hope my friend(s) and your friend are related.........lol! Two of my friends would always tell their stories in great details and I also cream like you, please hurry up and come to the point. Yaah, it is true that we just cannot excplicitly tell these kind of persons that their long conversation is getting boring for us. Thanks for such a wonderful response.

Hi ck! It is good to know that you are good listener, but I understand that frivolous details in the stories also make you feel bore and on your part you tell your stories in details to the other fellow, if s/he is really 'interested' to know and if he is not, you change the topic. It proves that you are a very good observer. Thanks for enriching the post.

haha..i think that's the least that i can do to other people or to my friends or to my relatives...to listen to them! since i am not good in giving advices...hehe well, i just don't like to bore other people by telling them stories about me that they are not even interested...haha in communication, good listening & observation is needed...to understand what the other party would like to say...coz sometimes they can't tell some things straight to us coz they just don't want to offend us... good day my friend & its my pleasure being in your discussions!

Hi Katie! Welcome to mylot family. It is good that you know how to tell a story affectively and without getting into unncessary details. Thanks for joining us.