A friend of mine invited me to attent her birthday party. What should I do?

@taurisca (104)
Indonesia
December 21, 2009 1:19am CST
I had never been to such a glamorous party in my life. Not because I was not invited, but more than that, I really do not feel comfortable in glamorous environment. Frenzied atmosphere of a party with a formal dress is not really my favorite. I would feel very depressed, but this is my best friend's party. What should I do?
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19 responses
• Malaysia
21 Dec 09
Hi, Taurisca! Welcome to myLot! It's your best friend's birthday party. Just go. If there is no dress code, just wear something simple, but nice. If you don't feel comfortable wearing a dress, just wear a pair of black pants or a legging with a nice blouse or top. You don't want to look glamorous as long as you look presentable to build your self-confidence, that's enough. If you don't know how to mingle, well, I am sure you know a few of your best friend's friends (?) If you want to occupy yourself during that party, bring your camera and be a photographer. Enjoy yourself capturing those candid moments. It can be fun.
• Malaysia
22 Dec 09
Wow! I got a double BR from you. Thank you so much, Taurisca! Just an advice, though. You have to respond to each comment you receive in order for you to earn. For your information, we won't be rewarded for the response we receive, but for every word we type. All the best!
@zamurai (47)
• India
22 Dec 09
Just go. You may not have such experiences before and this is a great opportunity to get started.
• China
22 Dec 09
wear suitable dresses to the party theme and easy on that party also.since that's your best friends party and do not get too nervous. glamorous enviroment is not that bad also as i think. though i have not attended such party before also .good luck and enjoy yourself.
@yinmm007 (605)
• China
22 Dec 09
If you don't wanna to partcipate her party you can ask your anther who will take part in her party to take your present to her for you and tell her you have to do something without anytime for her party. But if you have to go you can talk with others instead of crazying with others. Hope you'll happy on this party.
@madteaparty (2759)
• Japan
22 Dec 09
Well, it's your friend so you have 2 options: tell the truth or go dressed in the way that you'll feel more confortable with yourself. Even if it's not as gaudy as others you'll feel better with clothes than you like than with a formal dress to be liked by others. Of course is only my point of view from the outside trying to help, but it's better if you act according to your own feelings .
@anniege (203)
• China
21 Dec 09
Sometimes we need to change and it is the good changce to make you stand out and communicate with others. You know communication circles sometimes make chance for you in the future. The more people you know the easier it will be to stand in the sociaty. Come on! Enjoy the happy with your best friends.
@missweety (628)
• Latvia
21 Dec 09
Hello! If it's your best friend's party!!! then you should have bee there!!! If you really don't feel comfortable in such parties, I would suggest you to get some info about it before you are there! Ask who else is invited, where will be that party, what is the dress code, ask what she will wear..ask everything...you will feel more comfortable knowing about it as much as you can, not like wondering who will be there, where do I have to go? Should I take a taxi or we will go together with somebody....as you will be better prepared, you will fell less worried and will feel less uncomfortable!!! I don't like such parties either, but this a little bit planning and getting know about that event, helps!!! So with a big smile on your face, go and have fun!!!!
@bhawanee (174)
• India
21 Dec 09
Be casual, attend party, wish your friend to have a wonderful birthday, have some snacks, come back home and go to sleep. Next day morning you will remember nothing because some other friends might be on its way.
• China
21 Dec 09
i think you should go and send her a sincere persent. just becaus she is your best friend.
• Singapore
21 Dec 09
Hi taurisca, It is just a birthday party, not any form of ballroom parties. There is no need to wear evening gowns or formal dresses. You can wear jeans, T-shirt and others that make yourself comfortable and remember to bring along a present for the birthday boy/girl.
• India
21 Dec 09
he buddy.,do wear your favourite party wear.Take your closest friend with whom you eel comfortable along if possible.you will feel easy and happy.
@checkmail (2041)
• India
21 Dec 09
Hello taurisca this is checkmail and think that yoiur muct go to the birthday party of your best friend.Well go in well prepared like we do for other celebrations, look good and behave good.And as you don't feel comfortable in glamourous parties, just drop in till the friend cuts the cake, wish him, gift him if want to, and leave the party early.If feels comfortable then may wait for some time more in the party.Also tell an friend to ring an call after an exact time, an excuse to leave the party.Hope this will work for you better.Happy Mylotting.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 09
If she's your best friend...then it's not about you but it's all about her. Stop focusing on yourself, and imagine how happy she would feel if you came and have a good time. I host and come to lots of those parties (it's part of my job), and it's so heavy and sad for the host to see that one of the guest is not enjoying herself (especially if that person is my best friend). Just wear something loose and black and some accessories, and high heels (that always works). Once you get there, you'll find a crowd that suits you and just stay there and laugh and eat. Actually, it's just another party, only they dress differently...that's all. Have fun dear..don't forget to go home at midnight or your carriage will turn into a pumpkin..ha ha (LOL)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
go for it...Just don't be self conscious
@kaylachan (4775)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Dec 09
You should try and think of how she might feel and how much you really know about her. Would she understand you don't like that type of setting? Would it hurt her? Sometimes you have to be willing to put yourself before others if at all possible. Maybe consider going just to show up and mengle with some of her friends. Perhaps talk with her a bit, drop off a gift. You don't have to stay long, but this way you "showed up" and didn't just ignore it because you didn't like the situation.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
You reason is understandable. Your best friend know you more than any common people does. But In my opinion, it is best that you attend to her birthday and remove that restriction you have. The important reason I can say is that your best friend treasure you a lot and In that event, Your presence is a must. As much you consider him important to you. YOur efforts will be rewarded because you tried to your best for him. Better ready yourself and have yourself be prepared. Your attire and it is good for you to feel that experience even at least for once. You can be comfortable as long you have prepared things in order. good luck..
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
21 Dec 09
My advice is that you should attend this glamorous party and make it memorable one as you are attending first time in a party. Your friend will be so happy and lucky that you are attending first time in a party that is her birthday party. So go ahead to the party and try to reach there first
@DOLLYBABY (2534)
• United States
21 Dec 09
if that friend mean so much to you i think you she go and not disappoint her cause she probably expecting you.
@srganesh (6345)
• India
21 Dec 09
i think you are a reserved person like me.In my younger days i felt the same way and found any possible excuses to avoid parties.But now I have discovered the fun and never miss a party.Just see that somebody will there to give you company.that is sufficient and in due course you will easily mingle with others and earn new friends.