Are your children picky eaters?

Children - picky eaters - How to make children eat vegetables
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
December 22, 2009 3:08pm CST
I started a discussion about leftover food when I realized that my problem could be just picky eaters. So, this is for the parents out there who have children who've outgrown the picky-eating stage. My 9 year old does not fancy any vegetables. I'm even having trouble letting him try something new. No new dishes for him, just the baked and fried ones. I guess I am guilty of being picky as well, but I've grown to love vegetables. Not him though! Any tricks to make him eat his leafy greens?
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Boy bounce, if you figure it out let me know will ya. When my 18 year old was little he would eat meat but no vegetables, except mashed potatos..but I could grind up carrots to hide in the meat loaf and I even managed to pass off mashed turnips as potatos..now he'll eat almost anything except green beans..but he prefers his vegies raw. Our 8 year old grandson is a whole different story,he eats little meat and won't even try most vegetables and doesn't like the ones he has tried. Fruit isn't big on his list of favorites either. I guess we jut wait for them to outgrow it. My son's best friend was awful when they were little..by middle school he was getting more adventerous with his taste buds and now he's as easy to feed as the rest of the team is.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
That's what the grandpa and grandma tells me. To just let them be. They say that they'll outgrow it, and it's just a phase. I do try to hide some carrots when I cook something with ground meat. Sometimes they say they taste something with the meat, I just tell them that it's just because I bought it from a different store.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
As long as they don't see me adding the carrots, and I say it with a raised tone, they believe it. Hehe. Poor kid in your story. But somehow, I could see myself as the kid's dad. I just hope that if I get to be like that, I wake up and remind myself that, that's not the way to go.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
23 Dec 09
That's basically the route I am taking. I know my sons buddy's dad would get so mad at him. He would make him sit at the table until it was gone..if the poor kid couldn't sneak the dog into the dining room he would just sit there until he fell asleep. He took the kid to a chinese restaurant of all places and then got mad when the waitress made him a grilled cheese so he would eat something. I told his dad that one was on him..who takes a picky kid to a chinese restaurant? I do make my grandson take a kids multivitamin because he is so hard to pull the sneaky stuff on. They believe you when you tell them that? Or dothey give you that "yeah right" glare?
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
24 Dec 09
My kids are adults now. My son was a very fussy eater as my daughter ate almost anything. The one thing my son hated growing up was chicken. To this day he eats very little chicken. I have never been picky so to speak. I do not like veggies a lot, but, do eat them. No idea how to, but we always told our son that brocoli was trees and he loved the idea of eating a whole tree at 6 years old. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Brocoli is my fave vegiie actually. I grow a lot in a garden each year and the brocoli grows forever as you cut it. So one plant gives me about 10 or more stalks each year and I plant about 5 or so each year. I eat them raw right off the plant as I'm doing garden work. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Dec 09
Hey that's a great idea on the brocoli. Although I doubt if my son will go for it. I myself have trouble visualizing myself eating a brocoli. I've been trying them out with those prepacked vegie mix. The ones with the peas, and carrots, and corns. They don't have any problems with the corn. I would usually see all the peas and carrots by the side of his plate.
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• United States
23 Dec 09
I just started a discussion early today on how my son is a bit over weight and while we all eat pretty healthy because of my diabetes my daughter is still one of the pickiest eaters I have ever seen. She can eat something one night and then whine and say eww gross the next when she just ate it and liked it a few days before. It is almost like a broken record with dinner and her...she will ask what we are having for dinner and when you go to tell her she will so Yuck, gross I don't like that. She has had many nights where she has been the last one at the table because she will complain so bad and take forever on eating. If I could get my children to split up their eating habits it would be great.
• United States
25 Dec 09
LOL you sound just like me...I always think why??? Why me?? Hehehehe, there are times now when she asks what we are having and I won't even tell her I will just say we are having "Eww, yuck and gross for dinner...do you want some?" She hates that LOL
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Haha! You are so right about he eww, gross! As I've heard that expression a million times when it comes to my kids. They think vegetables are so yucky! I don't know where they got it, but at first it was cute, now it just get on my nerves. I just keep reminding myself that these are kids! And worst, they are mine! Good luck with yours!
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Yes, my children are. My daughter doesn't like fish. My youngest son only likes 3 dishes (sinigang, bistek and mechado). They are not vegies lovers.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I chop vegies ( leafy ones) and mix it with other recipe (like in dumplings) or in omelettes.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Thanks for responding wookieekyut. So, do you have any tricks to make them eat their vegies? Or do you just let them be?
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
24 Dec 09
Hi I thik you can disguise the vegetables when you cook them May be make zucchini loaf or spinach fritata, the more innovative food the more kids love it
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Dec 09
That's what I need to do. Make exciting dishes that they haven't seen before. So that they wouldn't know that it's a vegetable. Then maybe I'll have a chance of them liking it. A spanish fritata sounds exciting. Thanks for dropping by ruchimom. I appreciate your inputs.
@hoodwinks (157)
• United States
23 Dec 09
you could mix into his food, when you cook. In order for him to accept it everyone needs to do the same things. has he tried to eat some greens. I mean salads are good, have he tried that, with certain dressing. who ever is shopping for food should focus on healthy things, if they don't like it well that's the only thing around the house eventually they will get hungry and would be willing to give it a try. I kid loves broccoli and carrots but my other daughter which (2,3,and 7) will not eat veggies, how about fruits if they will to eat that, that's good too. try eat whole grain that's good for you too. can find some tasty stuff, that even have some chocolate chips in them really good. talk to him about be healthy and how certain food can be harmful to you maybe he doesn't know. good luck
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I wish I could just focus on picking up just healthy food when grocery shopping. Most times, I am such in a rush that I just pick up what we usually prepare. I know some of those are not healthy, but I do try. Maybe the new year will bring in the focus of trying to be healthy. Including the kids. Thanks hoodwinks.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Actually my kids are very good with trying new foods...but I've always had the rule that they MUST at least try a bite of something new with an open mind and if they genuinely dont like it thats fine at least they tried...I've also noticed that as they got older their tastes in foods has changed.... All that being said, I actually dont have any tricks really since its not something I've had to deal with...Hopefully someone else can help you out..BUT if nothing works, dont worry about it...I'm sure later on he'll change his mind..
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Thanks Ravenladyj. I keep telling them to have an open mind. But they've pretty much made up their minds that vegies are yuckie! Anyway, as you suggested, I am crossing my fingers that this is just a phase and that they will outgrow it. I did!
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Dec 09
Hi bounce, I am also facing the same problem with my 8 years old son. Earlier he used to eat everything but now he developed this habit. I really don't know how I handle it. I told him vegetables are very necessary to improve your intelligence but no use. In fact, he avoid some particular dishes by hearing the names, he don't want to taste the same (I know if he tastes it definitely he will eat). I read it somewhere if kids are not eating fruits then we can make a fruit salad and mix it with ice-cream, children will love to eat the same. But I don’t know what to do with veggies.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
That's another thing, fruits. They don't seem to like fruits too. But I can't blame them as I myself have only a handful of fruits that I eat. Well Sreekala, you should read some of the responses in this discussion. There are some few tips here which I think we can use for our kids.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hi, bounce58. Have you tried mixing his vegetables in rice? Or he can have ranch salad dressing on the side. That way he can dip the veggies in this sauce. It will make eating veggies fun and exciting. That is what I will do with my kids when they would not want to eat veggies. All of my kids, love veggies. I hope that your son will learn to love them too.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Oh you should see him pick everything I mix in his rice. Sometimes I make them some special fried rice, with chopped up leftover meat! And I add some vegetables so that it'll look like it came from a Chinese restaurant. He would actually spend the time to take out all the vegies so that when he finally eats, there are none anymore.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
That's really tough. I heard that it could really take like ten times of a child rejecting vegetable before they are willing to try it. Maybe its just a phase and he will grow out of it. Then he will learn to enjoy vegetables.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
That's what I'm hoping nijolechu, that this is just a phase. And we'll soon outgrow this.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Modeling! when our children see us eating vegies, tendency is they will follow. Second, introduce the food early. as soon as they start eating solid food, try to introduce vegies, legumes and other homemade and healthy food. What I did when i my children was, when they are six months old, i introduced them a ground rice, mongo and dried dilis (small fish). Cook it with water over slow heat with constant stirring. You can also mixed with with fish, mash potato or any vegetable, then spoon feed it to your child. That is very healthy to the children, compared to the bottled food sold in groceries. What is healthy is found in our kitchen. The health of our children are the best judge for our cooking...
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Thanks alexysabelle. Although it is a bit too late for the foods you suggested because my kids are already older, I will try modelling as you suggested. Although they've pretty much made up their minds about healthy food, and what they like to eat, I will keep at it. Hoping still that this is just a phase and that they will soon outgrow it.
@aguas_aj (498)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Well, according to our pedia, eating habit is something we train them. If we let them be choosy when they were starting out, they'l be one until he grows up. So as early as they can eat, you should let them eat all type of food, so they would not be choosy. They should know how to eat all kind of taste.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
My problem is that they have experienced different kinds of taste. And I have a nasty suspicion that because they've already tasted sweets, like candies, these has contributed to their dislike of vegetables.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
just passed by...i don't have kids yet...its a good thing
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Thanks for passing by.
@snafushe (791)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I don't have any kids yet! I have however had very picky boyfriends. I guess a lot of people are picky compared to me, since I will eat pretty much anything. I am very adventurous. This one boyfriend I had refused to eat anything except for chicken fingers and fries, no matter where we went out for dinner. It drove me crazy, especially when we would go somewhere known for one certain thing and no matter what he would order the chicken fingers. He was also obsessed with Coca Cola, Kraft Dinner, and ham sandwiches. It drove me insane. How can you be that picky? We never got to go out for Sushi or any other cuisine because he wouldn't eat any of it. I really can't stand someone who is that picky. My old best friend also used to be really picky, I would always have her over to sleep over and we would always make these huge pancake breakfasts in the morning, yet she would insist on having a peanut butter sandwich. It was strange.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Are you sure that boyfriend of your wasn't 9 years old? Although the Kraft Dinner throws me off, that's more like for 3 year olds. So what happened with him? Are you still together? Did he learn to eat something else? I could just imagine you getting insane! Hehe. How about your old best friend? You don't see each other anymore?
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
23 Dec 09
My children aren't that picky. I praise God for that. They eat whatever I cook. At times they refuse to eat and now i have stopped forcing it on them. I feed my kids though the older is now 31/2. I feed them to make sure that they eat the veggies. I allow them to watch TV and I would tell them that if they aren't eating, I will have to turn off the TV. You can mask the veggie in foods they eat. For eg: add grated veggies to their fried food or to their tortillas.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Hi nishdan01! I think you're one of the lucky few who have children who are not picky. But isn't it sad that sometimes we have to resort hiding vegetables in meat so that they'll just eat? But, whatever it takes right?
@maezee (41997)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Aren't they all picky eaters? . My little, 7 year old sister definitely is. She doesn't touch certain vegetables, doesn't drink enough milk, and generally stays away from meat (my mom thinks this is from my influence - she scolds me about it. Because I'm a vegetarian. LOL.) It's sort of annoying, because you'll spend all this time cooking for them and then they won't eat it. It's nice to have a back-up plan in these situations.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Even meat for your sister?! At least mine eat meat. Yes, it is annoying. Specially if you're the one cooking it. You got to great lengths to prepare and cook it, then they just say I don't like it. Grrrr... I should never forget to give them their multivitamins, so just they could get whatever nutrients they need.
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I got lucky my daughter loves food that's good for her.I don't know how to get a child to eat his vegetables when they don't like it.I remember when I was a kid,I wasn't allowed to leave the table until I ate my vegetables.I remember sitting there for at least an hour,my brothers would be long done and outside playing.Lol...It was kind of funny.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
22 Dec 09
Oh I tried that too! Not letting them leave the table until their food is done. But, I am also the one who cleans up after them. So the longer they stayed on the table, the longer I get to finish my chores! There must be an easier way!
• United States
23 Dec 09
I dont have kids but my husband is a very very very VERY picky eater! he refuses to eat and vegetables but potatoes and he wont eat any fruit unless its a yellow apple, a banana, or green grapes!! He wont eat a lot of beef... he'll eat chicken a lot, Turkey sometimes, nothing with any kind of sauce or gravy or glaze! All he eats is pretty much cheese sandwiches, PB & J sandwiches and frozen pizza!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Good luck Jennifer_lee_88! I think you have a bigger problem than me. I am still crossing my fingers that this is just a phase and they will outgrow it. And hopefully, the'll learn to eat their leafy greens when they are a bit older. But surely, I wouldn't know what to do for grown ups!
• India
22 Dec 09
well i dont have any children but yes when i was small i can recollect i was quite picky. i used to eat only sweets and burgers. my mom used to shout all over but i wouldnt listen to her. then later i realised that being picky would result in health problem. To conclude...... its only when 1 realises thethe issue coz if some1 says something we just avoid it...
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
22 Dec 09
Ahh! Reverse psychology! I should try that. It may take a while, but in the meatime, I'll keep putting the vegies on the table. Maybe one day they'd be curious and try it out for themselves. Thanks nirman_rocks.