Life is HARD

mother is innocent. i think you should love your mother Do not blame GOD he loves everyone,don't think of it like sufferring.. every parent do like this they give great hope to their children.. so relax your mum loves you

God didn't put you in a bad place. God only delivers great things. Sin put you in a bad place, and this is something we have done to ourselves, by choice of free will. I am not saying you did this yourself, but our ancestors all the way back to Adam and Eve are the reasons why we have to live with sin. What you need to do is live a good Christian life. The first way to do this is by accepting Jesus as your Savior. I don't know if you read the Bible, but regardless, read Galations, Chapter 5. I think this may really help you. As for your father, try to forgive him for the things he has said. It is easy to forgive those who are nice to us, so forgiving him will show where your heart is. It sounds like you are doing a fine job! If your parents don't appreciate you, that is their problem, not yours. GOD BLESS!!

God gave us mind to think. its good that you realize your mistakes and the best thing to do is to stop blaming even yourself but to make that one big positive move towards changes. i am a sport person guy. i never had any vices. i care so much for my health. when i was blessed with a special child, i never asked why? but instead i always thought that for some good reasons, HE knows that i can handle it so it was given to me. i even consider myself lucky coz some kids were born blind, others without feet and more of them but surprisingly, they are happy. in your case, there will always be a room for changes lokilla007. happy mylotting

I know exactly what you are experiencing. I would like to say that you are already good enough. It is not your responsibility to make your parents relationship better, and the fact that they blame you for the imbalances in thier lives and in thier marriage means that they are not doing thier duty to God by taking proper care of thier offspring. You are not a scapegoat. You are not the reason your parents are not happy. You are thier child and as thier child your only purpose is to give joy by being thier child. If you are not accepted and respected for who God made you to be then they are not seeing you. I know for a fact that if you moved away for one year and came back for a visit that nothing would have changed between them. Did you introduce them and set them up on thier first date? No you weren't even born yet! They chose you! They chose to have you and raise you. Your job now is to make your own life, become your own person and be great! You have gone through all this in order to learn what not to do. Believing that you are not good enough is not strong faith. Letting other people guilt you or blame you for thier own mistakes is not strong faith. You only have to be good enough for you. Reach past those things that are not like you, past the things that cause you pain, and reach towards the things that give you peace and happiness. If you don't know what to reach for or how then all you have to do is ask God to help you. That is strong faith. He will bring you into a better situation, but you might miss your opportunity to be free if you keep holding on to a false beleife system that says that you owe any mortal being for the right to live the life God gave you. There are principles to living that set you up for success, just like there are principles that set you up for failure.

I always know life is hard.But I don't make myself missing those difficulties in life.We have the right to enjoy life at the same time we should experience the difficuties.I don't believe "no pain no gain",I just think that I should be brave to face life.

Hi lokilla007. I understand the burden you are carrying within you. But please don't ever blame God for what you have done. We are the ones making our own decision. We are the ones committing our own mistakes. I have nothing against you as a person and I am even happy that you have learned to accept your mistakes in life. Don't ever think that God is unfair. We are all equal in the eyes of God and we all face different problems and struggles in life. If you think that you were bombarded with problems already, always remember that there are other people who are suffering with other problem more than us. If you want your parents, especially your mother, to be happy, then try changing all the negative sides of you. It might sound difficult at first but if you are really willing to change yourself for the better, you can do it. I don't consider myself as a good daughter too. I lied to my father many times just to fulfill my wants in life and I feel guilty about it. But despite of this, I am not blaming anybody but myself. But again, I am trying to forgive myself for all the things I have done wrong. I hope you too.

well lokilla007, it is normal for a mother to put many expectations to her daughter. But maybe you have to remind her that you are only a human, who has weakness and strength. Tell her with nicely and soft. Tell her that you love her too, i hope her heart can melt down. Those experience can make you better and stronger i hope. God gives human bad experience so we can learn from there and you can be a though human than other. I hope i can help you..

hello,in my point of view,life is beautiful but not always sweet!If you want to be happy,you should focus on the things you have and don't focus on the things you don't have!If you do so,you will feel abound and happy every!besides,life doesn't always turn out the way you plan.maybe next some moment magic things will happen to you.always be positive is a good way to enjoy your life!God bless you!

When times are good, we simply sit back and enjoy the ride. When adversity hits, we have to think,plan,study,analyze and grow in so many ways along the journey. You aren't looking at the big picture. You are exactly where you and the people in your life need to be for learning and growing as people. You blame yourself for your parents fighting but no matter the reason, they are the ones choosing to do so. People always do their best to avoid drama but don't you see. Drama usually brings with it learning and resolution. So be who you must. It's a part of the plan. Know that you are special, after all, there is no one in the universe exactly like you. Give plenty of love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. I know you are making a difference in this world. I believe in you. Teach those around you how to love unconditionally. If you do, you will find that you carry more wisdom than most.

lokilla007 no need to worry.Life is like that.It will give you pain and happiness at the same time.It is the way life gone.We should be smart enough to overcome all this crisis

Hi lokilla: Even if i am not on your situation i think God's not being unfair with you. If God puts you in this situations is because you can deal with it and be a better person. Pray and ask God to help you being a better daughter. He will hear you and make you understand what you have to do. I can also tell you that you should get close to you church to get religious advice. There's always a reason why things happends to us. Hope God will teach you what's the reason you feel this way. Thanks for sharing with us your problems. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro.

Hi lokilla007 , It might help to consider not God, but the world system and our sin nature as unfair. I'm sure you are aware of the of Job, and Job felt like we do sometimes--God is unfair. But what it boils down to is satan (I avoid capitalizing that name), the spirit of the world and our sin nature is unfair. Before I became a born-again Christian I used to think a lot of things were my fault. Ok, let's say it is your fault. What then? 1 John 1 (whole chapter) indicates we do sin, but verse nine gives great encouragement in that it is written, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." What a great relief I found when I realized I was able to go directly to God and confess my sins and ask forgiveness. And, if I was sincere, He was faithful (would do it) and just to forgive, and not only forgive, but to cleanse me. Now, one thing I do sense in my spirit from your post is satan is adding stuff against you. You are being focused upon. That's unfair, for, as you are not perfect, neither are your parents perfect. On your part, just go directly to our loving Shepherd for the forgiveness and cleansing you need. Then seek His face to work a remedy for this situation. Btw, once cleansed, make sure you are in a right standing with the Lord, that He is inside of you and you in Him. Ask Him to help you obey His voice. As you obey, you will grow in spiritual strength. Hopefully, that, in turn, will affect your parents. God bless you.

i don't know what to say can help you so just keep going,have faith in yourself and future

Hi there, you shouldn't blame yourself or God for what is happening. I'm pretty sure that your parents fighting isn't your fault. Your dad is a bad-tempered man so it's really easy to have arugments with people like that and your dad is probably blaming you for the wrong stuff that he has done. You care and love your mother, don't you? That's already enough to make any mother proud. The only thing that can be entirely obedient is a puppet... though humans are not puppets because we have a mind of our own and i hope you and your family can enjoy this Christmas =)

you are not the cause of your parents relationship problems. no matter what your father says. if you want to be a good daughter, then just be a good daughter. if you want to help your mother then help her. i know for me as a parent, i just want my children to do well in life. just love your mother and that should be great.

You cannot blame God for anything. He is the Supreme Being, and is neither fair or unfair! Your mom chose to be with your father before you were born. She chose her life and is continuing to choose each and every day. God did not put you anywhere! You too chose your life, ( And believe it! You chose your parents too, even before you were born) Life is exactly what you make it, ( and as you choose it to be, each and every day) God allows you to make your own choices as you live each day. If your mom is suffering (and she may not be) its not your fault, even as it is not God's fault. Your Mom chose to bring you into this world. Your father is way out of line when he blames their domestic quarrels on you - his daughter. Pay him no attention, and get on with your life. You appear to be a very thoughtful and obedient daughter, and both your parents should be proud of you. Go now, Hold up your head, and be proud of your life! (This will be all the repayment your Mother requires!)

Hello Lokilla and welcome to my lot. You get what you put into this life. If you work hard at being a good person then you will be a good person. God don't put things on us and if you blame God for things HE will put more on you then you want. Don't blame anyone for your mistakes especially God. You are a product of your environment if you let that happen. Someone blames you for something you don't do don't take it, stand up and be proud of yourself God made you the way HE wanted you to be. We all have problems no one is without problems. I don't care what your dad says you are not the reason they are fighting. Ask your mother and she will tell you that she loves you. People with bad tempers tend to blame everyone and anyone for their problems. Just a fact of life these kinds of people there is no pleasing. You are a child of God act like it. God don't want any of HIS children to take any kinds of B.S.

Remember the story of Job. Read the story of Job in the Bible. He is a good example. He lived a more miserable life than you. But he maintained an attitude of trusting God. Trust in God. He will make your life beautiful in the end, just like what He did with Job.

some person say that we do that work who likes us and always happen who God want's but you do some work who god want's Than will happen who you are want.think that.

God loves everyone of us. The bible says " God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life " all of us have done, said or thoughts things that are wrong. This is called sin, and our sins have separated us from God. God is not unfair, i think it's devil who's making your life hard. try to find jesus in your life and you'll know the answer:) may God indeed bless your family.